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So, my little sister is pregnant...

AlilivAliliv member
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And she is not married and has only being dating the guy for 2 months!  She's 23 (she'll be 24 when the baby is born).  Not exactly what I was hoping for her life, but I think she'll be fine.  It sounds like the guy will be involved, so that's good.  They will continue dating and were already talking about moving in together (which I think should wait until a while on that one....) My DH is quite the *** about it, though.  He's already blabbed to his friends about my sister's "mistake."   It just makes me mad that he can't even pull a little respect for my sister and my family, not to berate her to his friends.   Okay, I'm done. Thank's for listening:)
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Re: So, my little sister is pregnant...

  • jason&robinjason&robin member
    I hope it all works out for her!
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  • beth thackerbeth thacker

    When I first seen the title on the post I thought I was going to open it and read about someones teenage sister being pregnant. Like a 16 year old or younger!

    The only thing I really know to say is that everything happens for a reason. Maybe this guy will be the one for her. Hopefully she will make the right decisions for her and the baby and the boyfriend will hopefully be a good guy and be involved in the childs life whether things work out between him and your sister or not.

    Tell your DH it isn't his business and if he can't say nothing nice then don't say nothing at all!

    good luck to your sister!

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  • volleydivavolleydiva

    Sounds to me like he wanted you and your pregnancy to be the focus right now!  Good luck. 

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  • manda_mullinsmanda_mullins member
    I'm 23 and will turn 24 the month after the baby is born. But i've also been married two years and on my own for 6, so who knows.
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  • AlilivAliliv member

    Thanks everyone!  I'm sure everything will be fine with my sister.  She's can be incredibly frugal, I just wish she was in a better place career wise - she has a psychology degree, but she works as an electricians helper.  She already decided that after the baby comes she'll look for a higher paying job in her "degree" field.  Things sounds promising with the guy - did I mention he's 20 years old?  Hopefully, he's mature enough to handle this:)

    DH has just got to relax and stop being so judgemental.......  I told him he has too much hate in his heart:)  

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  • AlilivAliliv member
    imagemanda_mullins:
    I'm 23 and will turn 24 the month after the baby is born. But i've also been married two years and on my own for 6, so who knows.
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  • AlilivAliliv member
    imagemanda_mullins:
    I'm 23 and will turn 24 the month after the baby is born. But i've also been married two years and on my own for 6, so who knows.
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  • AlilivAliliv member

    imageAliliv:
    imagemanda_mullins:
    I'm 23 and will turn 24 the month after the baby is born. But i've also been married two years and on my own for 6, so who knows.

    I don't think she's too young.  Just not in a very secure time in her life right now, financially.  She'll work it out though.

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  • ShanLeAnnShanLeAnn member
    that's unfortunate that the situation isn't ideal. I think the best thing is to be positive and excited that you two get to share in the adventure together!
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  • AlilivAliliv member

    imageShanLeAnn:
    that's unfortunate that the situation isn't ideal. I think the best thing is to be positive and excited that you two get to share in the adventure together!

    Thanks, I will!  It's so funny, because I keep taking mental inventories of baby stuff I can give her from my stash, but then I remember that I have a baby coming too and will need all the stuff!  LOL....I always want to take care of my little sister....

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  • west_indywest_indy
    I just turned 24 in December. My fiance is about 15 years older then I am though, and I wont have to work after the baby is born. I got pregnant 4 mths into us meeting. We have also moved in together and are buying a condo within the next few months. As long as she is mature enough to handle things then she will be just fine. But everyone's situation is different. I pray for the best with her.
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  • Sonya FlanaganSonya Flanagan member
    My husbands little sister got pregnant because we did.  19, not married, no job, no vehicle, no home.  But his family kissed her ass and congratulated her and bought her all this *** and all I got was an "OH."  No one has once said congrats.  Super cool
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  • JennifernKevin4everJennifernKevin4ever

    Well as long as she is mature enough for a child she will be fine. DH shouldn't say anything bad about her at least she is owning up to getting pregnant and I willing to take care of it. Hopefully things work with the bf atleast he wants to be involved.

    I am kind of going through the same problem. I am 24 and not married. My bf and I have been together for over a year. We do live together. Now we are having a baby. I did want to wait a little while, but things happen. Our families and friends are very support. Only one of Kevin's friends are not and kept calling it a mistake. Because he had a bad experences himself. It hurts when someone thinks of your choice as a mistake.

     I hope things work out for her. I am sure it will. :)

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  • CorinneallysonCorinneallyson member

    I hate when people call babies "mistakes" or "accidents". They are people. If you want to use "surprise" do that...that is at least a positive connotation.

    Your sister will be fine. She's not the first person to go through it, nor will she be the last. It's quite common now. Tell your husband that you're disappointed with his behavior.

    BTW - I'm 24, it's a fine age to be a mom. As for her BF being 20, that concerns me a little, but if they were thinking about moving in together, maybe he does have his head on straight for his age....I moved out on my own at 17.

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  • bbycakesbbycakes
    With a lot of support and love, I'm sure that she will do just fine...Life happens and you just have to do whats best for you..Look at it this way-she could have opted for an abortion...Its pretty brave to become a parent when you werent expecting to. Its good that she has you for love and support and advice! Plus it will be nice to have your kids grow up together!
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  • 21&prego21&prego

    wow, I'm in almost the same situation as her. I'm 21, and my 28yr old sister is 8 months pregnant with her 3rd. I was only dating my fiance for 3 months before i got pregnant (was engaged first tho, quick... i know) I'm not moving in with him until after the baby... But my sister isn't talking to me. so i hope you don't let your DH turn you against her. I wish more than anything that my sister wasn't so judgemental, i didn't get pregnant to steal her thunder.  Being young, pregnant, and not married is scary... i know! I'm 21 tho, not 15... i can handle this, so can your sister. 

    I'm glad you're supporting her, even if it was an unexpected shock. things don't always turn out how you want but family should always be there.You should be a role model for big sisters everywhere! :)

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