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Babies: 9 - 12 Months
Pelusa214
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Is there ANYONE with a crappy sleeper that used a non-CIO method that worked??
Pelusa214
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We are getting desperate in our house, and even though we are opposed to CIO, we are starting to feel like it's time to do something to teach our baby to sleep. She's exhausted, we're exhausted. A bunch of people recommend this book, so I go to B&N yesterday to browse through it, and I read in the 5-12 month old section to not let my baby cry for longer than 1 hour without responding! ONE HOUR?? I thought this book was a non-CIO book! WTH?
I have a call in to the pedi to ask if we can try Zantac to see if that's what is waking her up at night (we've been suspecting possible reflux for a while, anyway). I know why she won't go back to sleep during the night - it's because she wants to play. But I don't know what is waking her up. Also, she is starting to turn the tears/crying on & off to get us to pick her up or do what she wants. She screams bloody murder with real tears when I try & clean her face & hands after eating, every single time I lay her down to change her diaper, whenever I try to cut her nails, or even just when I put her down on the floor to play because she wants me to carry her around.
When she wakes during the night, as soon as I come in the room she starts panting & kicking her feet. If I don't pick her up but just stand over the crib & rub her back, pulls on my hand, rolls on to her hands & knees & reaches up to grab me & have me pick her up. I have no idea what to do. I don't want to do a disservice to my baby by not teaching her how to sleep, but I just can not see how letting her cry alone is healthy, kind or productive.
My mom said none of her 3 kids slept through the night before the age of 2, and MIL says DH would wake up in the night (I think he slept in their room) and crawl into bed with them & play with his matchbox cars on his dad's chest at 2 am while they slept. To this day, DH doesn't sleep more than 5 hours a night. I have a teething, over-tired, highly interactive, strong-willed baby with her daddy's sleep personality who has learned that if she cries we will do what she wants. I've seen her turn the tears on & off. But we also have a mommy who is not willing to let her baby cry alone (ok, maybe for 2-3 minutes, and I'll let her fuss first, but there's no way I'm letting her cry for 10 minutes straight). Am I doomed?
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Re: Is there ANYONE with a crappy sleeper that used a non-CIO method that worked??
Oh I could have written the same post! I feel for you girl ;-
We're 18 days away from DD's 1st b-day. Still haven't had one full week of straight sleep since she was born. She is a great sleeper now, but teething wakes her up, colds, etc.
Just curious, is this every night? A few times a week? What time do you put DD down? Once we got on a good schedule with our DD we found that she sleeps a lot better. We put her down between 7:00-8:00 p.m. and she will seelp through. Sometimes when babies are overtired they become very restless, making for a restless sleep, which is why she could be waking up.
DD also had reflux but we stopped Zantac around 8 months old....
It's not every night, but I would say it's 90% of the time like this. In the past 2 weeks, she's slept through 2 nights. She usually fights naps, too. She naps a total of about 2-2 1/2 hours most days, broken up into usually 3 naps. She wakes anywhere from 1-4x/night, often awake for an hour each time & often won't go back to sleep until she gets a bottle.
I know babies' reflux often gets better around her age, which is why we've been hesitating talking to the pedi about trying Zantac. I'd just hate to do any kind of sleep training if it's reflux that's keeping her awake. She HATES being laid down, and all day long we'll hear her burp wet-sounding burps & then she'll swallow. Often, her breath smells acidic or like spit-up even though we don't see any spit-up, which is why we want to try the Zantac to see if it helps.
We never did CIO. We considered it one night and lasted 8 mins. At the end of the 8 mins, he had tear streaked face and was hiccuping. He fell asleep shortly afterwards b/c he wore himself out crying but DH and I were crying too!
He's crawling now and he sleeps beautifully through the night b/c he wears his little diaper butt out during the day now. :-)
But prior to now, we would put him in the swing all night on fussy nights or if he woke up towards the end of the night. We gave in and gave up on making him perfectly sleep through the night and went with the flow.
It'll work out in time but I know you're in hell now. {hugs}
I am doomed too. So far, we had one night where DS slept from 8-4am, and one glorious night 8-615 where I had to wake him up, and now, nothing. Wakes up 2-4x a night, and I am unwilling to CIO. Someone posted this link here before:
https://www.askmoxie.org/2006/06/babies_and_cio.html
Check if your DC is one or the other that they are describing. Sorry, I can't make it clicky. I have bought Ferber's book though, to see what he says about sleep, and read up on his theories. I am a SAHM, and as long as I can nap during the day, I promised myself not to complain too much with the night wakings, so that might be a difference.?
I am trying to stick with this, hoping things will get better. I have not seen a grown man needing to be rocked back to sleep, and yesterday's poll about whose DC STTN, it was ?a 4 way split (almost) on babies who do, most of the time, sometimes, and not even close. So I am telling myself it's the luck of the draw. I keep telling myself this, to get through day by day.
Sorry, this is so long. Just want to let you know, you are not alone.
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