Every since we had DS (well actually since I got pg) it seems like we have nothing in common with our friends. Most of our friends are not married and the ones who are do not have any plans for children. I find that our friends get irritated when we can't go out with them when they call us at the last minute. None of them ever really want to just go out to dinner with us and DS. They always want to go to a bar where we can not take DS. Lately I feel like I don't even have any real friends anymore and it sucks!
Re: Anyone else find it hard to maintain friendships?
We've been lucky. All our friends have had or are having their babies now.
Your friends need to realize that you can't just do things last minute with a child. Sorry they are being like that.
YES! Most of my friends aren't even dating someone so they don't understand that I need to spend some time with my family. Don't get me started on the ones that don't have jobs!
I have one friend that has a baby that is 6 weeks older than my DS. So that helps. If I didn't have her, i would feel like I didn't have any friends either!
yes! I have one "good" friend who completely cut me out when I got PG and another who still tries to get together but makes rediculous suggestions. She thinks of babies like cats I think.
It is definitely challenging. I do have one or two understanding friends who will still hang out with me in an environment that is fine for DD to be in and on our schedule, but then I also have friends who just don't get it.
On the flip side, my mom started visiting me once a week since DD was born, prior to which I saw her once every few months or so. It's also hard being around people when you know they are only there to see your child.
Same here!!!
Yes, it's sad. The only ones that talk to me are the couple who have a baby. My "best friend" hasn't even been over to SEE Liam or called me in probably 8 or 9 months. Just because I am married with a child and don't want to go to night clubs every night, doesn't mean we can't have a nice lunch or dinner sometimes?
I could have wrote this myself..
I hate how people think they can call me at the last minute and think I can just call a babysitter to go out. And the ones that tell us to just bring her along but want to meet a 8? We are getting her ready for bed! They wont understand untill they too have kids.
This is why i spend so much time on here.... I feel it's the best place to talk to people who are at the same point in life as me and understand what im going thru!
Ditto this.
Yup, exactly.
My silly Lily is almost 4.