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Worried- coworker never called back.

eshaffereshaffer
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Here's the post from earlier:

https://community.thenest.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/10758061.aspx

He never called back, which is unlike him.  Now I'm even more worried about him.

Happy 4th birthday!
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Matthew James 1/11/07
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Re: Worried- coworker never called back.

  • gibsgibs
    I think it's reasonable that you're worried, but I also think it's reasonable that he doesn't feel like talking to you right now.  He's sad/hurt/angry/confused.  He has friends, family, etc... You're a co-worker.  Leave him alone and don't pounce on him and nag him for not returning your call when you see him.  And if he isn't okay and is doing something to hurt himself, you unfortunately really don't have any power to help him much right now, even though you're worried.  Let it be.
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  • eshaffereshaffer

    imagegibs:
    I think it's reasonable that you're worried, but I also think it's reasonable that he doesn't feel like talking to you right now.  He's sad/hurt/angry/confused.  He has friends, family, etc... You're a co-worker.  Leave him alone and don't pounce on him and nag him for not returning your call when you see him.  And if he isn't okay and is doing something to hurt himself, you unfortunately really don't have any power to help him much right now, even though you're worried.  Let it be.

    I wasn't "nagging him," but thanks for making me feel worse. I called him ONCE. Jeez.

    Happy 4th birthday!
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    Matthew James 1/11/07
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  • DandelionMomDandelionMom
    E- completely ignore Gibs. ?She hasn't an ounce of compassion in her. ?I think you were right to call him but don't worry that he hasn't called back. ?He's probably just not up to talking to anyone yet. ?:(
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  • Temp374386125003286Temp374386125003286
    Well, I would be worried also.  I guess I would call back and tell him that you really need to hear from him by a certain time (name a time) because you are concerned about his safety.  Tell him he can email, text or call- you don't necessarily need to talk if he isn't up for it you just want to make sure he is safe.  If you are really concerned about his safety and thinking he might be having thoughts of hurting himself I would call the police or see if you can get ahold of his emergency contact that he has listed.  I work with suicidal people daily, so my mind automatically goes to that.  Maybe that is over reacting on my part but when it comes to safety I think that is what you do. 
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  • gibsgibs
    imageeshaffer:

    imagegibs:
    I think it's reasonable that you're worried, but I also think it's reasonable that he doesn't feel like talking to you right now.  He's sad/hurt/angry/confused.  He has friends, family, etc... You're a co-worker.  Leave him alone and don't pounce on him and nag him for not returning your call when you see him.  And if he isn't okay and is doing something to hurt himself, you unfortunately really don't have any power to help him much right now, even though you're worried.  Let it be.

    I wasn't "nagging him," but thanks for making me feel worse. I called him ONCE. Jeez.

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  • gibsgibs
    imageeshaffer:

    imagegibs:
    I think it's reasonable that you're worried, but I also think it's reasonable that he doesn't feel like talking to you right now.  He's sad/hurt/angry/confused.  He has friends, family, etc... You're a co-worker.  Leave him alone and don't pounce on him and nag him for not returning your call when you see him.  And if he isn't okay and is doing something to hurt himself, you unfortunately really don't have any power to help him much right now, even though you're worried.  Let it be.

    I wasn't "nagging him," but thanks for making me feel worse. I called him ONCE. Jeez.

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  • gibsgibs
    imageeshaffer:

    imagegibs:
    I think it's reasonable that you're worried, but I also think it's reasonable that he doesn't feel like talking to you right now.  He's sad/hurt/angry/confused.  He has friends, family, etc... You're a co-worker.  Leave him alone and don't pounce on him and nag him for not returning your call when you see him.  And if he isn't okay and is doing something to hurt himself, you unfortunately really don't have any power to help him much right now, even though you're worried.  Let it be.

    I wasn't "nagging him," but thanks for making me feel worse. I called him ONCE. Jeez.

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  • gibsgibs
    imageeshaffer:

    imagegibs:
    I think it's reasonable that you're worried, but I also think it's reasonable that he doesn't feel like talking to you right now.  He's sad/hurt/angry/confused.  He has friends, family, etc... You're a co-worker.  Leave him alone and don't pounce on him and nag him for not returning your call when you see him.  And if he isn't okay and is doing something to hurt himself, you unfortunately really don't have any power to help him much right now, even though you're worried.  Let it be.

    I wasn't "nagging him," but thanks for making me feel worse. I called him ONCE. Jeez.

    Oops. Don't know what happened.  Sorry for the multiple posts.

     I didn't say you were nagging him already.  What I said was, "Don't . . . nag him . . .  when you see him."  He clearly has a lot on his mind, and may be (and should be) spending his afternoon talking to his closest friends and maybe a lawyer or two.  You shouldn't be his first priority for a callback.

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