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TexasHarmony · February 2009

I am going to bribe my doctor to induce this kid around 38 weeks (if we make it that far). DH is scheduled to be gone again for delivery. It would be nice for him to be present at the birth of at least one of his kids and not have to wait until they are a month old before meeting them.

I got tired of fighting Avery on bedtime last night (she was over-tired because we had to come to my office for a couple of hours), so I gave up putting her in her bed and we both went to bed in mine. I will not share this tidbit with DH.

fay07 · February 2009

TexasHarmony:

I am going to bribe my doctor to induce this kid around 38 weeks (if we make it that far). DH is scheduled to be gone again for delivery. It would be nice for him to be present at the birth of at least one of his kids and not have to wait until they are a month old before meeting them.

I got tired of fighting Avery on bedtime last night (she was over-tired because we had to come to my office for a couple of hours), so I gave up putting her in her bed and we both went to bed in mine. I will not share this tidbit with DH.

Let me know how that works out for you....my DH will also be OOT (not even reachable by phone, email, etc.) around the time of my EDD and my doc won't even TALK about inducing me! ugh. Sad

Kimmer123 · February 2009

DS sleeps in my bed most nights for at least half of the night. I sort of like it. Don't get me wrong, I love my space, and cuddling with my husband and I don't want him to stay there forever. But he's so tiny and snuggly right now that I sort of like it.

Karey08 · February 2009

I feel guilty for looking into MDO programs because it makes me feel like I'm pushing off my 'job' to someone else. I never thought of it that way until I started looking for one.

TexasHarmony · February 2009

Karey08:
I feel guilty for looking into MDO programs because it makes me feel like I'm pushing off my 'job' to someone else. I never thought of it that way until I started looking for one.

You need Karey time, too! Plus, Aiden will be able to have some social time. I feel guilty about sending Avery to daycare for so long during the day too, so please don't feel like I am discounting your feelings.

rayskit10 · February 2009

starting in march, i will have childcare 4 days a week for truitt. i don't feel bad. i need to take care of myself too and he is at an age where he loves the 2 days he spends at MDO. he would much rather do that than go to target and whole foods with me. and he definitely loves the nanny more than he loves me on some days. lol.

if i could justify the cost, i would put him in MDO 5 days (not full tme daycare until 5 but 9-2 easy). either way, he'll start pre-k when he's 3, so a coupel days a week is a good transition.

rayskit10 · February 2009

since this is FF, i think that our real "usefulness" as SAHMs runs out at 12 mos. after that, kids get a lot from being in organized social situations like MDO. i regret waiting until tru was almost 2 to enroll him. really, i stay home now b/c i like the freedom it allows us.

CindyandScott · February 2009

Harmony - Good Luck with Dr. G. I actuall didn't have to do much in the way of convincing this time.

I am stressed that in a few days I will have 2 kiddos. I am not worried about the newborn at all but about Reagan. She has been a true test of my patience lately and I'm not sure how I'm going to handle it. Everything is "No" from her and turns into a tantrum, every hour at least. It is exhausting and I hope this phase comes to a close soon. She's making me look forward to a couple of days in the hospital.

savannah11 · February 2009

I don't understand the obsession with baby/toddler clothes. ?Orion has always had just enough clothes to last him about 10 days. ?Most of it has been received as gifts for Christmas or birthday. ?Anything I've purchased for him has come from Target or Walmart. ?I try to look at the sales from the more upscale stores but I just don't get it. ?When the big Janie & Jack discussion occurred a couple of weeks ago I checked out the website. ?I couldn't find anything I would actually buy.

KKMMex · February 2009

Karey08:
I feel guilty for looking into MDO programs because it makes me feel like I'm pushing off my 'job' to someone else. I never thought of it that way until I started looking for one.

I understand the guilt, but I wanted to tell you I started Sarah in a T/TH MDO program when she was 12 months old. Looking back I think it was the best decision ever. To be completely honest, I did it to give myself a break more than anything. She got through the separation anxiety pretty quickly and she ended up loving it. The program was during the summer so it gave her a great indoor activity twice a week during the hottest time of the year.

I hope you just go for it where MDO is concerned. My theory is that babies and toddlers love to be around their own kind.

rayskit10 · February 2009

savannah11:
I don't understand the obsession with baby/toddler clothes. Orion has always had just enough clothes to last him about 10 days. Most of it has been received as gifts for Christmas or birthday. Anything I've purchased for him has come from Target or Walmart. I try to look at the sales from the more upscale stores but I just don't get it. When the big Janie & Jack discussion occurred a couple of weeks ago I checked out the website. I couldn't find anything I would actually buy.

guilty ::raises hand::

a) i just plain enjoy shopping

b) it's so much harder with boys that i feel like "score!!!" when i find cute/unique items

c) i don't shop for myself nearly as much since i am not working, so i have a lot of extra budget to go in to the kids' clothes

d) i feel proud when DS looks super cute

KKMMex · February 2009

CindyandScott:

I am stressed that in a few days I will have 2 kiddos. I am not worried about the newborn at all but about Reagan. She has been a true test of my patience lately and I'm not sure how I'm going to handle it. Everything is "No" from her and turns into a tantrum, every hour at least. It is exhausting and I hope this phase comes to a close soon. She's making me look forward to a couple of days in the hospital.

These were my exact thoughts when the second baby arrived and my older daughter was 21 months old. You won't handle her perfectly (I know I didn't) but you'll handle her the best you can given the circumstances. I'm just glad to see I'm not the only one whose patience was tested by an almost 2yo while about to have a second baby.

My "flame free" post is that I lose my temper with Sarah at least once a week and have done so ever since Elizabeth arrived. I keep thinking I'll gain more control and it won't happen again, but it's been going on a year now without much improvement. (

savannah11 · February 2009

rayskit10:
savannah11:
I don't understand the obsession with baby/toddler clothes. ?Orion has always had just enough clothes to last him about 10 days. ?Most of it has been received as gifts for Christmas or birthday. ?Anything I've purchased for him has come from Target or Walmart. ?I try to look at the sales from the more upscale stores but I just don't get it. ?When the big Janie & Jack discussion occurred a couple of weeks ago I checked out the website. ?I couldn't find anything I would actually buy.
guilty ::raises hand::
a) i just plain enjoy shopping
b) it's so much harder with boys that i feel like "score!!!" when i find cute/unique items
c) i don't shop for myself nearly as much since i am not working, so i have a lot of extra budget to go in to the kids' clothes
d) i feel proud when DS looks super cute

?

Oh, I see nothing wrong with those who partake in it. ?I just can't seem to get into buying the clothes. ?Part of it is that I'm lazy when dressing him. ?I like just grabbing a shirt and pants from his dresser and going. ?I do try to at least have him match :-). ?

?And I have not felt compelled to buy a single item of clothing for baby #2. ??

aprilprincess · February 2009

Addie has been very trying lately. I think because of the mold in our house (from Ike) she's had irritated allergies. That plus being 2 it's been hard. DH is so much more patient then me that I have to stop myself from using excuses to have him take care of her all the time. I want us to be equal parents.

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