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DH's reaction to feeling the baby...

lkaylee721lkaylee721 member
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was less than stellar.  Last night he was kicking and squirming up a storm so I made DH sit next to me with his hand there for a few minutes. A few kicks went by that he didn't feel and then he kicked and DH said, oh was that it? I said yea! and was like...isn't that neat...yatta yatta...and he was like..oh yea...very non-excitedly...kind of a downer...I thought he would be really excited and pumped!
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  • mrsjazzsingermrsjazzsinger
    My DH was the same way - the first time he felt her he was "I think that was it" and then pulled his hand away and went back to looking at his computer screen. Men...sigh....
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  • Jennywren82Jennywren82

    I'm sure he was more excited than he let on. My DH isn't very good at showing emotion, and his reaction was probably no where near a great one for other people, but compared to his normal self, it was great. He kinda smiled and said yea, I felt it, and went on with watching his show.

    Don't worry, he might come to you another day and try to feel it again sometime, then you'll know he really enjoyed it.

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  • mrsjazzsingermrsjazzsinger
    I should add that the next time he felt it he had a better reaction and he had a really excited reaction when he first SAW her kick :)
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  • ASUsundevil97ASUsundevil97
    My husband was the same way when I was pg with #1. ?It really made me concerned, because he's passionate about a lot of things. ?The second that DS was born, I heard my husband let out a HUGE GASP and start to cry. ?He has been obsessed with our son ever since :) ?I think sometimes it's hard for guys to imagine the baby inside. ?For us, we feel it from inside and from outside and it's more real. ?Does that make sense?
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  • alli&patalli&pat member

    dh's initial reaction was less than stellar too.  when we finally sat down and talked about it he shared that it was a defining moment for him - realizing how much he had to lose if something went wrong.  he talked about realizing how delicate the baby is and how scared he is.  he also said that before feeling the kicks he felt very distant from the pregnancy, and this helped to bring him into it and experience it which was kind of overwhelming. 

    since that time he has really warmed up to it and his favorite part of the day is lying in bed before we go to sleep feeling the baby kick. 

    DS - June 2009
    DD - February 2011
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  • TimsMayBrideTimsMayBride member
    I'm waiting for DH to try to feel it until it's really obvious.  It was hard for me when I first started to feel movement because I was unsure if that's what it was, so it was all sort of anticlimactic.  I'd like for him to be sure he feels it.  Who knows maybe it won't matter.
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  • Sonya FlanaganSonya Flanagan member
    howdy thought it was creepy.  Now hes getting more into it.  Unless the baby is really active then he thinks he's being mean to me because "no one should kick their mother that much"  haha
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  • ericalea511ericalea511 member

    imagemrsjazzsinger:
    My DH was the same way - the first time he felt her he was "I think that was it" and then pulled his hand away and went back to looking at his computer screen. Men...sigh....

    Are you married to my husband? That is my exact story....

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  • ExpatFamily06ExpatFamily06
    After the baby kicked, dh jerked his hand away and said 'that's creepy!'.  I laughed my ass off lol
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  • AlwysAwsmAlwysAwsm
    Hey, at least you can get him to touch your belly. My DH is really disturbed by the fact that there is something living inside the bump. He's not so in to the whole pregnancy thing.
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  • MandaJo9MandaJo9 member
    My DH's reaction was also unimpressed.  I think he, like me, had the misconception that when the baby is kicking,she'll do it for a few minutes non stop.  As we've all figured out, it's only a poke every now and then.  Nothing constant.  Once I explained that to him, he seemed more patient and enjoys waiting for her to kick him now.
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  • TimsMayBrideTimsMayBride member

    imageAlwysAwsm:
    Hey, at least you can get him to touch your belly. My DH is really disturbed by the fact that there is something living inside the bump. He's not so in to the whole pregnancy thing.

    I'm sorry - that's gotta suck.  I'd be pretty upset if my pregnancy disturbed my husband.  Hopefully he'll get into it soon.

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