Shower at your own house?

Stella2008 · February 2009

I have a dilemma. My family is having a shower for me in April in my hometown, 7 hours from where I live now. I did not think that I was going to have a shower where I live now (which I was totally good with), but MIL said something to DH about wanting to have one where we all live in early May. However, she is in a tight financial situation and also lives in a tiny house, so she asked DH if she could have it at our house. I have not been involved in any of the conversations--she has only been speaking to DH about this.DH loved the idea and said that it would be fine.

Part of me feels happy that she wants to have one here so that my friends and his family can be included, but at the same time, at our house? 6 weeks from my due date? Besides the idea that I know it will be alot of work for me (making sure the nursery is ready, cleaning and getting ready, cleaning up after), is it even "acceptable" that it be at our house? She would be sending out the invites, hosting, and providing the food and planning the activities, but still...what do you think?

mattscountrygirl · February 2009

I think if they want to have the shower at your house, they need to come over and clean or at least help you clean the house and get it ready for the shower. You should not be responsible for that, expecially being 6 weeks from you due date. You do not need all that stress put on you for everything to be clean. Hopefully they will understand and help or decide to have it somewhere else close to your home. GL!!

beckys96 · February 2009

I think its ok to have it at your house with your MIL hosting. Since the communication has been between your DH and her - see if he can give her the hint to help you come and clean/prepare for the shower.

kldanzinger · February 2009

My in-laws asked if they could host a shower at our home. The offered to come over the afternoon/evening before to help clean. I agreed (it'll be nice to not have to load presents up to haul home, then unload). My goal is to do some good cleaning now and keep things cleaned up between now and then. The only thing I'm nervous about, having it at my house is the shower is scheduled for 5 weeks before my due date, with twins. But I figure I'll be more comfortable at home, anyway.

lynn6791 · February 2009

We had our big baby shower at my house when I was about 32-33 weeks. Yes, the cleaning beforehand sucked, but honestly, I needed a push to clean my house. We had 7 relatives in from out of town staying at the house one night, and I have a big house compared to the hostesses. I loved it. The hostesses (about 6) brought over all the food and drinks and did some cleaning afterward. Everyone got to see the nursery and we didnt have to haul all the gifts back in the car. I thought it worked out great.

Stellar1 · February 2009

My mom and two sisters hosted it at my house this weekend since they live out of town. They cleaned, set it up, and then cleaned again yesterday. I think it is totally acceptable for it to be at your house. I have been to two or three showers that were at the moms and dads to be house.

wilberta2006 · February 2009

My mom and MIL are having my baby shower at my house at 6 weeks from my due date. My parents live in a different state so getting my mom out here and having a location where I wouldn't have to transport all of the gifts to another location is great for me.

I like the idea of letting people take a look at the finished nursery. Also, after we have finished this huge cleaning and organizing, we probably won't have to do another big cleaning until next winter (unless we are able to keep everything clutter free-- fat chance of that happening).

wanticecream · February 2009

beckys96:
I think its ok to have it at your house with your MIL hosting. Since the communication has been between your DH and her - see if he can give her the hint to help you come and clean/prepare for the shower.

I agree, I don't think there's anything wrong/uncouthe about having it at your house. And it may not be a bad idea for your husband to hint to her that you'll need help cleaning/prepping

kcNkc · February 2009

I am also having my shower at my house at 35 weeks. My sister-in-law is throwing it and lives way out in the country so I am fine with it. My hometown (STL) is 4 hours away and we're probably not having a shower there. My Mom and sister-in-law are coming over earlier to decorate.

azcobride · February 2009

My shower will be at my house at 33 weeks. I am happy about it since my home is halfway between my family and my in-laws (both live about 3 hours away from me). This also allows for friends in the area to attend. I have asked my husband to take on a lot of the cleaning with me and he is fine with that. I plan to have the house cleaned the day before, then when the hostesses come over, they will do all of the setting up/decorating while I relax (I may go get a pedi just to relax and get out of the house beforehand). I'll leave DH with them to help if need be.

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