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Delivery- 2 questions
1) who will be in the room with you along with DH? M or MIL? If only DH, have you told the other two no yet? Only DH, anyone who wants to can come in after when my va-j-j is not hanging out, but for that only my CNM, and DH. Haven't told anyone, and no one has asked. I guess they'll have to understand.
2) are you going natural or getting the pain meds? I thought there was no way I could go natural, but now I'm considering attempting Bradley.
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Re: Delivery- 2 questions
1. - DH and my mom. i'm an only child and this is my first baby so i'm letting my mom in. this will be my MIL's 7th grandbaby and she's watched almost all of them be born. no thanks.
2. bring on the epi!
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1. DH and I - I need to relax and ILs would not help the cause!
2. We are going to take the Bradley Method and plan for natural childbirth
I'm planning a homebirth, so DH, my midwives, and a doula will be with me. My mom is scheduling a flight a week after my due date, so hopefully baby doesn't come after that! I don't want anyone else around.
I'm planning to do a natural waterbirth, so hopefully no pain meds for me!
1. We'll let close family (and probably my bff if she feels like coming) in the room before I start full-on pushing. Once delivery is near, everyone is getting kicked out - me and DH only (and DH has strict instructions to stay up near my head - no peaking!)
2. I'm all for pain meds, but to be quite honest, I don't really know what that means. Are there different versions of meds? Ideally, I'd like to be numb-ish, but I don't want to be woosy or in la la land or anything like that. I'm not sure if there's an "in between" or how that works.
1) DH & my mom. I think MIL might be waiting for her invite, but after reading all that goes on in the delivery room (pooping, etc) I don't think I'd feel comfortable with her in there.
2) I'd like to know how far I can get without the epi, but in the end I think I'll be taking the drugs.
1) ONLY DH. i can't deal with the moms!
2) i am intrigued by natural birth, but something tells me i'll be asking for the epi. we'll see. shall be taking some breathing classes. ?
Delivery: DH and my mom and my nana. I only wanted DH in there, but he asked my mom and nana to be as well to support him. He's estranged from his mom (lucky me, lol).
I'm planing on going med free. I've had a lot of problems with strong medicine (allergic reactions), and I just don't want to risk it. I'm the lucky girl who can't have morphine, codine, etc. and who is also violently ill with any anestitic.
1) My mom will be in the room. DH has not decided. I left it up to him - I only want him there if he wants to be. He has a hard time watching me in pain (I've got some other health problems so he's been in the room for various treatments and whatnot in the past) and he looks more stressed than me, usually. I would rather him stay out if he's going to be freaking - I don't need the extra stress while I'm trying to deliver!!
2) I will be attempting to do it as naturally as possible, but who knows what I will think when the pain starts!!
1. Not 100% sure. Def. me and DH. My Mom might be there. I already talked to her about it and told her I don't really want anyone but me and DH there, but my Mom really knows how to calm me down and DH is so excited and anxious about the baby I'm worried he'll be flipping out and will forget to try and calm me. I told her it would probably be a spur of the moment thing... she will start outside the room and if I need her I will ask someone to go get her for me.
2. Ordering the epi on my way to the hospital - ok not really, but I will probably get one.
1) Just me and my DH. My mom let me off the hook v. early: she thinks that it should be just us: she'll come to stay a week or two later.?
2) Always said I'd go for the epi, and I probably still will...but I'm definitely reading up on natural birth and starting to entertain the idea. But I'm still open to pain relief if I need it. ?
1. When I'm pushing, only DH. Until then, I will probably have my mom in the room with me. My MIL has already told me she's perfectly happy to wait in the waiting room.
2. I'm going to make the call when I'm in labor, but I'm leaning towards epidural.
1. Just DH. My mom passed away 15 years ago and DH's mom lives in Germany. I would not feel comfortable having her in the room either.
2. Bring on the meds.
1. For DS, DH, my mom and mil were there. My mil is really good with photography. She stayed in the corner and then took all the pics when DS was born so DH didn't have to worry about it. I am very blessed to have a mil that is kind and listens! I plan to do the same again.
2. I had an epi before and will get one again.
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1. Only DH will be in the room during delivery, and both Mom and MIL know this.
2. Bring on the pain meds- I have the lowest tolerance for pain!
1. My DH, Mom, and my younger sister might since she will be staying at our house for the summer and we will be working at the same place. I have a feeling she will be the one driving me to the hospital.
2. I am going to try and go as long as I can with out anything but i am not going to try and be super woman if I am in to much pain bring on the epi.
1. Just me and DH. Neither mother has asked to be there, but they each live out of state (we're in Kansas, MIL in Minnesota, my mom in Texas).
2. Totally EPI all the way!
1 - Just MH. I highly doubt my MIL would ask to be there, if she does, she'll be disapointed. My parents want to fly in around my due date. Not sure how I feel about that because I kinda want to be left alone for a little bit, and have time just the three of us (me, dh and baby). now i'm ramblind...
2 - Debating. Part of me wants to go natural, I have a good tolerance for pain and feel like I could do it. But the other part tells me - why deal with the pain when I don't have to!
1) DH and maybe my mom- i am still undecided. I always thtought I wanted her there, but more and more I am wondering if I will kill her
2) I am scared to death of the epi needle, so it will be a game day, lesser-of-two evils type choice
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1. Only DH, CNM, and other medically necessary staff only. Our parents won't be in town -- they will visit on staggered schedules after the birth so that I have help after DH returns to work after a week off with us.
2. We're reading Bradley (can't spare extra $$ or time for the classes in addition to the hospital classes right now) and reading about natural pain coping techniques. We hope to go natural.
My mom had multiple epidurals during my delivery, and they stopped her labor (thus prolonging it), and when I was born, I was fine physically but wouldn't wake up because of all the drugs in my bloodstream from her medications received...they were a bit scared for a while.
1. DH, my mom and my sister. I wouldnt mind if MIL and SIL were in as well. We are all very close and its the first on both sides so its a special moment that I would love to share with them. If they bother me in the least bit, I have no problem kicking them out!
2. Epi! I am all for modern medicine.
Close family and my BFF will be allowed in the room while I am laboring, however when I reach 10cm...Everyone but DH is OUT! I have told my mother but not outright my MIL. I think she knows our plan though.
I am taking the Epi.
1) Just my husband. I've already told my mom I only want him there. My mother in law actually JUST asked me about this a couple of days ago... I said I'm just going to have him in with me til after the baby is born. She started trying to convince me to let her in... but I don't think I want my MIL in there while my pikachu is hanging out in the open, and I'm birthing our child! They will have to wait til I'm done that part :-)
2) I'm planning a natural childbirth
1 - just DH and the MW staff ... I can't imagine being nice to any family/friends who were hovering around while I was doing all the work and they weren't doing anything but staring at me and making ridiculous small talk.
2 - Natural - we're currently in week 5 of our Bradley classes and LOVING them! Informative, supportive, and encouraging. I can do this!
1. Husband, Doctor, nurses, and whoever is giving me the drugs. Nobody else needs to be there. Birthing is a messy process. You'll end up in very compromising positions, making all kinds of noise, with nothing covering you. Trust me.
2. Drugs. It was nice being able to relax, hold conversations, watch tv, etc. during labor without shouting 'Ow' all the time.?
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1. DH will be there def. My mom might be my doula, were still discussing if she can handle it. Midwife thinks that it might be harder for her to see me in pain than she thinks. She gave birth to four kids naturally and assisted her three sisters with their births.
2. I am going all natural. Having been a natural birth myself impacted my decision as well as reading up on the epi/c-section rollercoaster that is the norm for hospital births.