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infinite_love44 · February 2009

Your S/O making friends with the opposite sex? I ask this because I am crazy jealous (I'm trying very hard to work throught this issue of mine lol) but my FI has befriended a girl who is about 7 years older. I trust my FI fully but I trust no other girl on this earth and even after I've made mention that I don't like him having 'girl' friends he still talks to her. They don't hang out or anything but they have a mutual friend and happen to cross paths occasionally and text from time to time. I'm just crazy tho so I want your opinons. ?
My FI adores me and is completely in love with my new pregnant belly and our baby so there is no doubt in my mind his love for me is strong and true.

Are you super protective of your man? Do other girls make you jealous?

Danielle43043 · February 2009

I do get jealous...but I wouldn't give your FI a hard time for what he's doing. My DH has girl friends who occasionally text him, etc but I know they're just friends and he's not hanging out with them on a one on one basis...so even though it does make me a little jealous, I don't let him know it!

ForForever · February 2009

No, I am not super protective and I am not jealous of other girls.

I am confident in myself, my husband and our relationship. We both have friends of the opposite sex.

tandt92505 · February 2009

Honestly, casual friendships don't bother me. Especially, if they don't see eachother without the mutual friend and the relationship is limited to texting.

I wouldn't say that I am a jealous person, but I expect him to apply the same standard that I apply for myself: no member of the opposite sex gets into "our circle"- the space that could threaten/harm/take away from our relationship.

J&MsMom · February 2009

One of DH's best friends is a girl. She was a 'groomsman' in our wedding and they dated in HS. I don't worry at all about him, though. I trust him, but the issue is if he is going to cheat he is going to cheat. Me being jealous or parinoid isn't going to change that. Maybe I am too far on the other extreme.

I guess it helps that I have guys friends that I am close with and it doesn't bother him.

Just remember that no one can make someone cheat. That is a choice the person in the relationship makes.

Steffsjet · February 2009

I am a girl who doesn't "share well" but that being said, my DH has friends that are girls who he has known longer than me and it doesn't bother me. I guess it might be because he never makes me wonder and the girls he knows treat me as their friend and not his. They have told me over and over how glad they are that we found each other so I guess that makes a huge difference for me.

MidwestTexan · February 2009

Some of my DH's best friends are girls...but they all grew up together so there were plenty of opportunities for relationships to happen along the way prior to me stepping in. Instead, I have befriended the girls myself and we all get along great!

nolebride · February 2009

In general I'm not that jealous, however I would not want my husband to hang out alone with a another woman. Overall, I prefer to know all of my husbands friends and I think he should know all of mine too. It just helps if we are open about things.

Michele16 · February 2009

My Dh has almost all "girl" friends. It was hard for me to get used to at first but i am over it now. He is a teacher and so his friends at work are all women. When he was going to grad school the firends he met were women. He never hid it from me and several of them have become friends of OURS. I think it is really important that your FI includes you in these relationships...that will help you to see that it is just a friendship and nothing to worry about.

I have to be honest though, if they just text occasionally but don't hang out, then...are they friends? I can't think of one person that I text and keep a distant relationship with but never hang out with. Or DH for that matter...

HisLobster · February 2009

Years ago I was like that. I have a crazy jealous streak that DH used to complain about. It was like that for a little while, but I guess I just grew out of it. He has female friends now, but it just doesn't bother me. That being said, he doesn't hang out with them.

Ace1599 · February 2009

I too have a problem sharing, but DH doesn't have many female friends that are not my friends too. There are a few from his childhood, but like Midwest said, there were many opportunities for a relationship to bud before I was around, and they are both very open aout how they are more like brother/sister and there is no interest.

JNicMTek · February 2009

It doesn't bother me. One of DH's close friends is a girl and not only don't I mind, she was a bridesmaid in our wedding. One of my close friends is a guy and DH isn't bothered by it either.

ljlkm · February 2009

I don't really have too strong of a jealous streak. I've been jealous on occasion, but that's my issue and not his, so I don't even bring it up. On the flip side, DH is extraordinarily jealous and it drives me batty. He's an otherwise amazing husband, but it is the one thing that drives a wedge in our relationship and that I wish I could change about him.

superisa00 · February 2009

I really don't give a sh*t. I trust DH with all my heart and don't get jealous easily. I'm too fabulous for that Wink

sugar*and*spice · February 2009

I'm crazy jealous! I hate it...but if you trust your guy and hes not doing anything wrong...then just make sure you watch him and nothing changes...you should be fine.

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