1st Trimester

Herpes sucks when you're preggers...

... I know, because I have it.  My ex gave it me when he cheated on me.

It's a constant concern, and really nothing to joke about.  I'm not bristling and trying to make anyone feel bad for comments on the "Thank goodness I found this article, otherwise..." post, I just wanted to reach out and let women like me, who are also concerned, that there are many other options out there.

Forever, I thought that a "C" section was my only choice- and when I originally found out I had herpes, I cried- because I was devastated that my dream of having home births like my mother and friends would no longer be possible.

Since my BFP, I've done TONS of research to make myself aware of how to protect my baby- my number one concern, as is with most women, when they're carrying their most precious cargo.

https://www.herpes.com/pregnancy.shtml

Hopefully, this link will be helpful to the 25% or more American women who are facing the same challenges that I face.  It's reassuring, and has a lot of information.

I haven't read this one in as much detail, but it seems informative, too.

https://www.webmd.com/genital-herpes/guide/genital-herpes-pregnant

Best of luck to all you who are working through this issue or one similar- remember, it's never as bad as you think, and as with any challenging situation, there are always ways to protect your baby now, later, and always. :-)

Re: Herpes sucks when you're preggers...

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  • I don't have this particular problem, but I think it's really proactive and, quite frankly, real of you to offer this information for other women facing the same thing. GL with your pregnancy.
  • I don't think you can be "preggers" if you are over 14. Just a thought.

     

    Also, good luck. I hope you get the birth you want. I also don't think the 25% stat is quite correct... 

  • All i'm going to say is that you are brave for posting that you have herpes on an internet site.

    Good luck with your pregnancy.. I can imagine that it must be scary, sorry you have to go through this.

  • Thank you!! I'm pumped. This baby is a total miracle wonder- so I feel very blessed. GL on YOUR pregnancy and to all you mamas out there!!

    I don't really any shame about my situation.  Life happens, and sometimes, it doesn't happen the way you want it, but c'est la vie, right? 

     

  • I was waiting for someone to post something just like this.

    Thank you for sharing, and congrats on your pregnancy!?

    Married to Patrick - 8.9.08 Mom to Lennon - 9.1.09 Expecting #2 - 5.20.12
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  • imageaveryhappygirl:
    I don't have this particular problem, but I think it's really proactive and, quite frankly, real of you to offer this information for other women facing the same thing. GL with your pregnancy.

    I would like to hope that others with this problem (or any serious condition that could negatively affect their pregnancies) would have enough sense to research the issue on their own. I guess I give other people too much credit?!?

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  • I have a friend who went through this and I see it in a different light.
  • imageLorettaMG:

    I was waiting for someone to post something just like this.

    Thank you for sharing, and congrats on your pregnancy! 

    Really? If you have this problem (or one similar) were you really waiting for someone else on an internet site to do the research and post about it?? Yikes!

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  • Not really something I expected to read tonight. This would be a good, "So I have this friend" story, but hey more power to you for posting your pic and saying you have an STD. However, did you not research this BEFORE you got pregnant??
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  • imageBonzai!:

    Since my BFP, I've done TONS of research to make myself aware of how to protect my baby- my number one concern, as is with most women, when they're carrying their most precious cargo.

    edited to say: it took getting pregnant for you to do research on the potential risks to your child?  seems like being the "proactive" woman you think you are, you would have done this sooner.

  • I researched my condition as soon as I found out I was positive. Not pregnant, but with the STD.

    The thing is, I'm not ashamed of my condition because I didn't do anything wrong.  I feel it's important to help other women on this site, and me sharing was simply of way of letting others know that they don't have to be ashamed either. It may be "TMI", but we're also talking about a LOT of "TMI" topics on this site, frankly, and my mindset is simply one of camaraderie and sisterhood.  The stats are coorect- 25% of American women have it, so I don't think my posting is that far-fetched.

  • Oops.  I mean, "correct".
  • imagejenerally:
    Indifferent

     

    This.

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    Malakai - 8.3.09
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  • 1 in 4 women have HSV but that does not mean they have herpes present on their genitalia.

    https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Herpes_simplex_virus

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  • imageAmarie13:
    imageLorettaMG:

    I was waiting for someone to post something just like this.

    Thank you for sharing, and congrats on your pregnancy!?

    Really? If you have this problem (or one similar) were you really waiting for someone else on an internet site to do the research and post about it?? Yikes!

    ?

    I don't have herpes. I don't have a similar problem. I was waiting for someone to stand up, and say that the original post (entitled something like: "Thank god for this article") was offensive to them for they have this virus, and it's not a laughing matter. But thanks for the jumping the gun! Yikes is right!

    Married to Patrick - 8.9.08 Mom to Lennon - 9.1.09 Expecting #2 - 5.20.12
  • I don't think this is something to flame this woman for... although I think its pretty brave to post your pic and admit to this! Kudos to you. My best friend has herpes and I was under the assumption that she could only have a c-section. She was actually in the delivery room when I gave birth to my daughter and she said it was the most beautiful thing and that she was sad she couldn't experience that. She asked me (jokingly) to give birth to her kids, since she couldn't. Good to know that in the future she has other options. Oh and good luck to you. I didn't know the number was that high. Are you sure that isnt the stat for HPV??
  • Thanks for the support, Mike&Care! (I'm assuming... you are Care? :-)

    Thank you for the support not only in your post, but to your best friend.  She's truly lucky to have you, as I am lucky to have MY besties. Tell her to check up on the realities of using Valtrex or other suppressants during her pregnancy:

    https://yoshi2me.com/sexual-health/archives/valtrex-acyclovir-is-considered-safe-to-use-while-pregnant/

    She'll obviously want to discuss her choices with her OB, but this site has a whole bunch of boards and support.

    Also, the unfortunate statistic can be verified here- it states 20-25%, but my understanding is that because of the social stigmas attached to herpes and the nature of the virus, many cases go unreported.  My GYN suggested that it ranges more towards 27-28%, but nothing has been proven.

    https://dermatology.about.com/cs/pregnancy/a/hsv_preg.htm

    ...and I quote... "Yikes!"

     

    PS- What an adorable bump you have! I hope I am as cute as you when I'm farther along! 

  • imageBonzai!:

    Thanks for the support, Mike&Care! (I'm assuming... you are Care? :-)

    Thank you for the support not only in your post, but to your best friend.  She's truly lucky to have you, as I am lucky to have MY besties. Tell her to check up on the realities of using Valtrex or other suppressants during her pregnancy:

    https://yoshi2me.com/sexual-health/archives/valtrex-acyclovir-is-considered-safe-to-use-while-pregnant/

    She'll obviously want to discuss her choices with her OB, but this site has a whole bunch of boards and support.

    Also, the unfortunate statistic can be verified here- it states 20-25%, but my understanding is that because of the social stigmas attached to herpes and the nature of the virus, many cases go unreported.  My GYN suggested that it ranges more towards 27-28%, but nothing has been proven.

    https://dermatology.about.com/cs/pregnancy/a/hsv_preg.htm

    ...and I quote... "Yikes!"

     

    PS- What an adorable bump you have! I hope I am as cute as you when I'm farther along! 

    WOW! Crazy about the stats. Based on that, I'd be willing to bet that there are a lot of lurkers on this post that aren't brave enough to admit they have it. Thanks for the compliments on the bump. It just popped a couple weeks ago. I'm sure yours will be just as cute - how could it not be! Enjoy your pregnancy.

  • imageMike&Care:
    I don't think this is something to flame this woman for... although I think its pretty brave to post your pic and admit to this! Kudos to you.

    ditto!    

  • To be honest I am really disgusted at how some of you are treating her and responding to this post. It takes alot of guts to offer your support to other people and to admit that you have something... Instead you just read her post and twisted every sentence she wrote... Pathetic! Being mothers or mothers-to-be you would think you would have heard the say "if you dont have anything nice to say, than don't say anything!"
  • I think it is very brave of you to talk about it. I've never had an STD (both DH and I were virgins when we married), but I bet it is embarrassing and scary, and I am sure you calmed a lot of people down and helped ease some concerns. Again, I think it was brave of you to say what you did, and I think it's not cool that you are getting grief on it. GL with your pregnancy-and hopefully you'll have a very happy and healthy 9months!

  • imageParisPreggo:
    To be honest I am really disgusted at how some of you are treating her and responding to this post. It takes alot of guts to offer your support to other people and to admit that you have something... Instead you just read her post and twisted every sentence she wrote... Pathetic! Being mothers or mothers-to-be you would think you would have heard the say "if you dont have anything nice to say, than don't say anything!"

    Ditto this!  Grow up

  • imageaveryhappygirl:
    I don't have this particular problem, but I think it's really proactive and, quite frankly, real of you to offer this information for other women facing the same thing. GL with your pregnancy.

    ditto.

    and still... Indifferent  just on the grounds of not expecting this at all.

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