Babies: 0 - 3 Months

NBR: I'm in MIL HelI. ::vent::

So I used to post on 3rd tri for awhile.  I now mainly lurk because I can't get online everyday to keep up but I've had enough and need to vent.

So my MIL lives about 3 1/2 hours away.  She means well bless her heart.  She is apparently bringing FIL and coming down here sometime this week for 3 days.  Really...REALLY?!? Did it occur to her to ASK? No, not at all.  We only found out because FIL thought that we knew and mentioned that he was excited to see us soon.  She was just going to show up.  She thinks I need to pick up more shifts at work because I am 'spoiled and lazy.' So she's taking it upon herself to come down and watch the baby so I can pick up shifts and work more.  She doesn't even think to call.  I thought that being 3 1/2 hours away meant that I would have warning, but no.  Not at all.  Again, she means well, but really woman, THINK.

 

Vent over. Thank you. Flame away.

Re: NBR: I'm in MIL HelI. ::vent::

  • and this is something that your H needs to speak to her about. ?definitely not flaming you at all... but she NEEDS to ask and at least be considerate of your schedules, lives, privacy, etc. ?GL!
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  • If I were you I would mention that she needs to call next time. How rude of her to call you spoiled and lazy! I would def. have your DH talk to her.
  • oh isn't that lovely?!? Last year, DH's cousin, her husband, two kids, and two cats invited themselves to stay with us for a week while they moved.....ugh...never again!
  • If it were me, I would say that this week doesn't work, but how about we set up a day that does. That way, she will not have it in her head that she can drop by any time. It drives me nuts that MIL calls when she's five min. away to ask if she can come by. I almost always tell her no, but that we can set up a time that works. I feel like I have to "set an example" for her.
  • Do not let them stay or she will do this again!!!!!!!!!
  • I would tell her that there are not any shifts available and then let her know that you would need at least two weeks notice to get said shifts. And screw her for calling you names!
  • Do we have the same MIL? I swear, some people are loco...definitely have DH say something...
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  • I agree w/ pp I would (or have DH) tell them that this week doesn't work for them but how about 'x' date? Set the example and have DH tell them they need to call and ask next time. I think parents just dont get it sometimes...
  • Thanks y'all.  I am going to have DH talk to her.  Something's gotta give.
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