DH called my MIL to let her know to save the date for my shower. She informed him that she and SIL won't be attending. They "just don't like baby showers."
I'm not sure if I should think this is funny (I do) or if I should be annoyed (just slightly since I don't really want them there).
What do you think?
Re: Annoyed or Amused? WDYT in-laws and shower
Hmmm? If there wasn't any sign that there was an issue with this relationship I would be surprised. It sounds like you know them well enough to know ahead of time that they were capable of this sort of attention getting stunt which is honestly what I believe they are doing. Are they normally this passive aggressive? Do they normally band together like this? What does DH think?
UGH. Good luck to you. I like the idea of smiling at their idiocy. Good choice.
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But I do understand what you mean about not caring if they attend or not. Just so unfortunate that your MIL has no class.
Well, if they really don't like showers and don't go to them, that's their perogative. There are other ways to show their love and excitement for the baby than just coming to the shower.
And this is coming from someone whose MIL called last minute to say she was "sick" and couldn't come to my shower- wedding OR baby. Too long of a story to go into - but she wasn't sick. And while other people were "shocked" that she didn't come to her own grandchilds shower - I just know her and I knew she was going to bail. On one hand, it is disappointing. On the other, its just not something I'm going to lose sleep over.
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I really like your attitude of letting it roll off your back. If you know that's how they do things, and you don't let it put you off, I'm super impressed.
Good for you momma to be! You'll be able to manage the Terrible Two's with ease!
It seems kind of rude to me, but I'm sure they are planning to give you a gift anyway.
I wouldn't make a big deal of it. I would just talk about how wonderful the baby shower was and how sweet and kind everyone was to attend in front of your mother in law.
I find it to be really rude. The baby shower is being thrown to pamper her grandchild. They really should get over themselves and go.
Unfortunately, I think that if they're pushed into going, they might make it pretty obvious that they're unhappy about being there.
I agree
i think its sort of rude, but someone like that you wouldn't want at your shower anyway.
my family (all out of town) is throwing me a shower, but i am afraid of my friends throwing me a local shower because NO ONE from DH's family (local) showed up or even rsvped. i don't want the same thing to happen again with a bbshower.
Personally, in my situation, I'd be way annoyed. The IL's expect us to drop everything last moment for what ever family event that they are planning, expect birthday and large Chrismtas presents. So for them not to reciprocate back is very hypocritical. However, if they didn't come, I wouldn't lose any sleep over it.