Selfish thoughts

nicolesspirit · February 2009

I am very excited for this baby it will be 4 years since my last !. My selfish thoughts lie in this... I worked my ass off and paid quite a bit of money for a trainer to get my body back and here I voluntarily sign up to gain, stretch and ruin the last few months of hard work. I'm a little older so I worry that recovery time won't be as quick this time around and I'm going to really have much less time to work out hard after wards. Then I look at Heidi Klum and Jessica Alba and I about puke at their turn around but I don't have a chef, or base my lively hood on whether I'm hot or not! So to many this may seem trivial but it's my third so I know the reality. I'm excited to bring this new life here but I'm also still wanting to be the wife that turns my husbands head when I get out of the shower!!!

Free to comment.. Free to laugh and Free to judge

BlairWaldorf · February 2009

What? Something about J. Alba...and puking...?

NewMrs07 · February 2009

Well, there's no way around getting big when you're pg... it's a fact of life. It's just 9 months out of your life so if you want a 3rd baby then you deal with it. After all, who cares about celebrities and their bodies, they have the money to have a crew of people taking care of their beauty. For the rest of us, we have to be happy with what we have. You're creating a life, so who cares if you're not a size 0 anymore. Pass the pizza!!!

roxyu · February 2009

No judgement or laughing here...I think we all worry about getting our pre-pg bodies back.

k_leigh_d · February 2009

luckily for me . . . my bloat still turns my husbands head. at 9 months pregnant . .. i'm still the hottest woman in the world to my husband . . . especially with him knowing that i'm carrying his baby Smile

b.heather · February 2009

You should be proud of yourself for all your hard work. It is going to make your pregnancy and labor that much easier, and it will make it easier to get back into shape after the baby is born. You don't "ruin" your body by being pregnant at all - all those good habits you've learned by eating right and exercising can continue throughout your pregnancy! I've know women who've eaten right and exercised and just a couple months after their baby was born you would have never known they've been pregnant. Just keep up the good habits you've already formed and this will be your best pregnancy yet!

kle+spd · February 2009

well id think that since you are in good shape now, hopefully your body will go back to that shape faster!? we can hope at least right?

and hello you know jessica alba had a trainer 24/7!

i think heidi is a freak of nature!!

mamamoos · February 2009

no judging here. i hate what my first PG did to my body. i'm still up 10lbs post PG#1 and now i'm PG again so it's just gonna build on top of the flub i have already. i know tat my DCs are worth it but i would KILL to look like i did 2 years ago.

i can't imagine getting hot again between the PGs....i'd be very upset to lose that progress -- although i've heard that if you're in good shape you can handle childbirth a lot better. there's your perk, i suppose...

mavilabride · February 2009

You did it before, you'll do it again.

It's worse for people like me whose idea of exercise was walking up one flight of stairs so losing the baby weight will take extra motivation. But for someone that was active and did so voluntarily, you will be fine even if it does take longer than it did this time to lose the weight and get fit.

MrsBro6116 · February 2009

My dh has fallen in love with his 'bloated' wife..He asked if the big boobs would stay forever...I didn't have the heart to tell him no.

We all want to go back to our prepreg weight, I don't know of anyone that thought "what the F*ck this weight is cool" after having a kid. Things get in the way. I'm not sure if I'll care about the gym right away with a screaming newborn in the other room. Everyone is different.

nicolesspirit · February 2009

Whats TMZ?

Honestly though the funny thing is people say they don't cringe when they see post baby bodies in Hollywood or even care but it wouldn't be a billion dollar industry if they didn't. I am merely saying its hard to get away with the whole "oh I just had a baby" excuse when everyone know if you work hard enough you can lose it. I worked hard to get there and I just am not looking forward to doing it again but it is important.

If its your first kid your gonna meet someone after you have your baby and there is gonna be some chick in great shape (not a size 0) and your gonna give her the snark if you have having trouble. This happens all the time just go to any coffee shop and listen to some moms gather, this usually comes up once!

I'm not even thin but I am a soccer coach and I play as well and it takes alot fo work to get back where you started .

MrsBro6116 · February 2009

kle+spd:
i think heidi is a freak of nature!!

She is. A gorgeous supermodel freak of nature... Damn her!

sandollar · February 2009

Hmm. My only close friend who has had a baby so far looks amazing after. She was always thin and never worked out (like me) but after the baby, between breast feeding and running around she is even thinner- and with bigger boobs. I guess her stomach isn't quite as flat, but who cares. I am hoping for those results as well!?

JCM052707 · February 2009

Well since you said it was OK...

I think you're being a whiney a$$. Do you have any idea how many women struggle to become and stay pregnant and would do ANYTHING to get that way??? If you're so worried about your precious body maybe you are more concerned with your image than your kids.

LizBusch · February 2009

i feel the same way! i worked so hard this past year to get back to what i weighed in college and now i'm a little frustrated that all of that hard work is going to go out the window for a bit! not to mention the fact that i won't be able to wear all of my cute clothes for a while!

kristin329 · February 2009

I hear you. I am much older since my first so I do worry about my body bouncing back. My husband has already been warned that he will need to be Mr. Mom while I am at the gym getting back in shape. He knows that me out of shape = a grumpy wife & mommy. Yes of couse we are happy and blessed to have our babies but that does not mean we still don't care about looking good.

JCM052707 · February 2009

And how about thinking about it in that you worked that hard to get in GREAT shape for a healthy pregnancy???? I lost 10 lbs since the summer (big for a PCOSer) and do you think I am freaking out about getting back up to that highest weight (and much more)? Hell no...I am happy I was in better shape when I finally conceived...not annoyed that I worked hard to get more fit just to get pregnant and gain weight again.

MrsPreK · February 2009

roxyu:
No judgement or laughing here...I think we all worry about getting our pre-pg bodies back.

True dat.

I never did get my pre-pg body back after DS - I was close, but no cigar. I'm just trying to maintain a healthy weight so I can drop the lb's when I'm done

mfransdell · February 2009

Just think how much faster you will 'bounce back' since you worked out so hard before you got pregnant.

I had a trainer when i got pg. I was so exhaused i wasnt able to go back to him until last week. I plan on seeing him 2x a week throughout my pregnancy. I feel so strong and so good about myself afterworking out. You arent a celeb, so dont even try to compare. Just keep doing what youre doing!

nicolesspirit · February 2009

To JCM052707, you seem so angry, I welcome comments so I don't mind at all, but think your missing it. I have had miscarriages so I know what that's about and saying I'm ungrateful is short sighted, you have worked extremely hard to conceive correct?, then You understand what goes in to hard work and you should understand that maybe next time (you try to conceive) it could be just as hard and your not going to look forward to it but does it mean the end result is not worth it.. no?, its worth it but its not fun!

That is the point!!

Also in addition this is a touchy subject but my friends have also had this symptom so I feel a little more free to say because I've heard them out. I really hate the judgment passed on people who become pregnant without any real problems and the moments they complain about something women who have had their fair share of trials immedialty demean the issue in corelation to their own! Were all women, we have all had trials in one form or another and were all pregnant ( if were lucky) till the baby is here and somedays it sucks and this bored is supposed to be a venting ground, a place of mutal understanding not passing judgment on those who conceive easily!

BlairWaldorf · February 2009

nicolesspirit:
Free to comment.. Free to laugh and Free to judge

Just jumping in to remind you that you opened the floor for all types of comments. In fact, you invited them.

That is all.

nicolesspirit · February 2009

Loving the comments! Just also having comments on comments, that's fair right?

JCM052707 · February 2009

nicolesspirit:

extremely hard to conceive correct?, then You understand what goes in to hard work and you should understand that maybe next time (you try to conceive) it could be just as hard and your not going to look forward to it but does it mean the end result is not worth it.. no?,

First of all, like Blair mentioned already, you said judgement was welcome! I probably would have been a tad nicer without that... And yes, your post DID make me angry and if you can't see why then you're pretty dense.

Second - Did you seriously just compare infertility to working hard at losing weight and toning up???? SERIOUSLY??? You're wacko.

I_am_DCA · February 2009

Just remember that some people on this board are going to be more sensitive when it comes to pregnancy. I deliver babies for a living, and I just had my first miscarriage. You cannot imagine how hard my life is. Every single day I deliver at least one baby...every single day. What a failure I felt like when I had my miscarriage. My boobs are still huge and they are leaking milk. I would give anything to feel like *** again and still be pregnant.

While I understand your desire to maintain the body you worked hard for, I think you should realize that your audience is mixed. You said be free to judge. I don't judge people....I just want you to realize that not everyone on here will agree with you. I can run and work out again which is great....but I'd give it up in a nano second to be pregnant again.

SharonWantsABaby · February 2009

mavilabride:
You did it before, you'll do it again.

agreed.

becky&dane · February 2009

MrsPreK:

roxyu:
No judgement or laughing here...I think we all worry about getting our pre-pg bodies back.

True dat.

I never did get my pre-pg body back after DS - I was close, but no cigar. I'm just trying to maintain a healthy weight so I can drop the lb's when I'm done

Same with me. I keep telling myself that I"m going to work out after this baby is here. I really want to try harder this time to get back in shape!

JCM052707 · February 2009

I_am_DCA:

I deliver babies for a living, and I just had my first miscarriage. You cannot imagine how hard my life is.

:::::mega hugs::::

nicolesspirit · February 2009

I_am_DCA:

but I'd give it up in a nano second to be pregnant again.

I also work Surgical Pediatrics rotating Maternity ward and to deal with that every day but also be going through a miscarriage has got to be crushing.

I don't expect everyone to agree with me and understandably so. I just want to let people know its a very justifiable worry but its by no means my life that is reserved for God, my Husband and Children. Its just a large a concern as heartburn, bloating or farting in public whats important to you isn't important to everyone and that is what is great about online you find people that you can bond with and politely disagree with!

My heart goes out to you and your loss!

Abc123 · February 2009

Yes, it's selfish.

The end.

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