am I being too critical?

so dh and I have been kind of off for a while, I don't know what it is.  We can't get along, we don't really 'FIGHT" but we bicker alot about dumb shit_ like we just think the other one is picking at the other and we just get really defensive.  I've tried to get him to go to counseling w/ me, he won't.  Anyway...I am a sahm and on the weekends I expect him to watch dd so that I can clean ( i know how dare I!) all the stuff I didn't get to during the week.  I had been cleaning our room and dh was watching dd.  I say watching, he was watching the tv and she was playing on the floor. Whenever I ask him to watch her that is what he does, he says he is playing w/ her but he is watching The Bourne Identity or Rocky or some other violent action movie.  I know she is 9 mo but it's alot of shooting and junk and I say we should start as we mean to go on.  I tried to explain to him that I dn't have the tv on during the week except for maybe 30mins inthe morning when I'm trying to get a shower or get dressed and maybe I will watch some Oprah in the afternoon.  I am mostly playing w/ dd, nursing her,  or cleaning and hve music on.  it really bothers me that he has to have tv on and he is not interacting w/ her at all.  He doesn't talk to her, he will just say her name at her over and over again, stuff like that.   Am I being too picky about the tv thing?  I feel like they aren't bonded at all and he sees her as kind of a chore.  thanks for listening/reading