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mistirei915
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I am beside myself...
mistirei915
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I have a "friend" that is 16 weeks pregnant. IMHO, she is doing the worlds worst job being a pregnant lady.
She did a lot of recreational drugs before she got pregnant, bearly weighs 110 pounds and now I find out she is still going to the tanning salon. There are times I want to smack her.
Discuss...
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Re: I am beside myself...
Ditto.
If you want to vent, okay. Or ask for advice, okay. But what shall we discuss exactly?
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I'm sure there are times she wants to smack you too.
i had a friend who smoked a LOT of pot prior to pg and didn't slow down much during. she also smoked ciggarettes during pg and i suspect she drank as well. the odd thing was she was very concerned about eating healthy and did a great job at that. her baby was born weighing only 4.5 lbs and cried a lot. i only saw the baby once at 6months and she was still crying a lot, very fussy and very tiny (11 lbs).
if you feel comfortable saying something go ahead but she likely won;t listen. some girls don't care enough about the life they are creating to stop being selfish. if she needs help quiting it is available from centres that won't judge her.
p.s. i weigh 110 lbs and am completely healthy
Well, I just wasn't sure since there is no ticker, etc.
As far as discussing...
I would say it's not really your problem. It sounds like your "friend' leads a not so great lifestyle. I'm not sure there is a lot anyone can do to change people like that?!
Yes, the no ticker thing is a big no no around these parts! LOL
Responses are different based on if you are pregnant and how far along you are.
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::falls over, laughing::
If she did recreational drugs before she got pregnant and then stopped once she found out it sounds to me that she made a responsible choice.
I also don't see an issue with her weighing 110 lbs. If she's not trying her best to eat healthfully now that she's pregnant, then that's an issue but just being thin is not.
The tanning salon thing is dumb, IMO. Maybe suggest that she get it okayed by her OB or something?
Basically, though, I'm thinking you need to relax a bit. You won't help her or her baby by looking down your nose at her. It'll only make her less likely to listen to you, kwim?
Sorry - I really wasn't trying to be a b!tch or ticker patrol... it just also makes me a little suspicious. I know, it's dumb.
No, I am just not sophisticated enough to do one yet. Actually every time I try to figure out when I am due, it comes out different.
I just feel sad for her and her unborn child. My personal opinion has caused me to stop drinking coffee, coke etc., not eat any soft cheeses, upping my water intake, not taking hot tubs and all the other things one reads about. I guess I would never want to do anything to harm my unborn child, especially if it were a vanity issue. And her weight was low because she was obsessively dieting for her wedding and never put it back on.
I just wondered what other people thought. Thank you so much for your opinions.
My comment wasn't directed towards you personally. It's just a general observation I've made. But I was also *half* joking.
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Malakai - 8.3.09
Ezra - 12.1.11 ASD
Yes, you make me feel like a whale! lol!
I knew this was coming....
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my angel babies: 6/10 (chem. pg), 9/10 @ 10 weeks
Lol! About 10 months ago I was about as whale-ish as they come!
Malakai - 8.3.09
Ezra - 12.1.11 ASD
There is nothing wrong with weighing 110 pounds, there is nothing wrong with being 220 pounds, as long as you are healthy.
Speaking from 202 pounds, yes, I could be a bit bitter...
Just for the record, there are girls on the other tri boards that tan while pregnant. They have researched it and asked doctors about it. I'm not one of them, but you could be opening a huge can of worms here.