I'm afraid to have sex

AMYfromKY · January 2009

I feel so bad for DH! Since my little spotting incident I haven't wanted to do anything to mess with my cervix. Maybe I will feel better once I quit cramping. From what I've heard that could be another month though. I am probably just being an idiot so flame away if you must.

Mrs.DeliaMarieP · January 2009

Did you ask your Dr. after your spotting, whether it would be okay to have sex? It can't hurt to ask, and maybe that will give you some peace-of-mind, depending on her/his response?

JCM052707 · January 2009

Don't feel bad. I had a little spotting at 6 weeks and Dr. told me no sex (pelvic rest) for at least 2 weeks.... so no, you're not being crazy or anything.

AMYfromKY · January 2009

Mrs.DeliaMarieP:
Did you ask your Dr. after your spotting, whether it would be okay to have sex? It can't hurt to ask, and maybe that will give you some peace-of-mind, depending on her/his response?

I totally forgot. I was just so happy that my betas tripled in 48 hours that I couldn't think of anything else. DH is being super understanding.

Mrs.DeliaMarieP · January 2009

I understand your fear...but it's definitely something you could call and ask about tomorrow (or monday if your doc's closed on the weekend) Like I said, there might be a waiting period he wants you to do, so that would ease your feelings of "craziness", (even though we all know we'd feel the same way), and if he says it's okay, then that may ease your mind the other way.

AMYfromKY · January 2009

I will call on Monday. Thanks for your help. It makes me feel a little less crazy.

Mama Angelina · January 2009

Yeah, when I spotted after sex around 7 weeks my doc said no more sex til 2nd tri if only to save me from being worried in case I spotted again. We tried for a few weeks but couldn't wait after a while and had sex twice since then...10 or so weeks and last week. Embarrassed

Sooo, don't feel bad for being nervous about it. Sometimes there are reasons to avoid it but it is usually OK. I was nervous too when we did and my uterus was crampy after but no spotting. Now I expect that it will cramp a bit and then go away. GL!

brianjessi · January 2009

We're going on 3 weeks of pelvic rest and have 2 weeks left. Even after that I think I will be so scared! Husband has been great about it though, he doesn't want to do anything to jeapordize an already fragile pregnancy. I do feel a little bad for him - lol. Me on the other hand...sex does not fit into my sleep schedule currently

sarahbethrn · January 2009

I've been scared too, just because of the light spotting after sex. I know that's normal, but when you see it it can kind of freak you out a little bit.

MrsPreK · January 2009

What about giving you DH a BJ?

AMYfromKY · January 2009

MrsPreK:
What about giving you DH a BJ?

Well yes. haha. But it's just not as good as sex for him.

rssnlvr · January 2009

No flames from me. We didn't have sex again (after BFP) until our first appointment (which was at 7 weeks, 1 day). I spotted a little early on, and was too freaked out to do anything until we saw the healthy baby. And we were a 3-5 times a week couple.

If you're uncomfortable, don't do it. You won't enjoy it anyway, and then you'll stress about it afterward. Just take your time and eventually, with every day that you don't spot, you'll get a little more and more relaxed and confident that everything is fine.

Jimsgirl5821 · January 2009

It happened to me twice at the beginning and my OB said it would happen after sex, it was my cervix bleeding and it was safe to have sex. It hasnt happened again though since I was 9 wks, knock on wood. But if you feel nervous just talk to your OB.

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