Anyone's DH stay at home?

ber2323 · January 2009

We just found out today that DH has to take a 25% pay cut...well now with this pay cut, he is basically making the same amount each month that we pay for daycare ($2,400).

I mention that to him and asked him if he thinks he could stay at home with the kids. (We have two babies...21 mo and 7 weeks).

He didn't seem like it was even an option. I think it is crazy for him to work when he is making the same as daycare!!!

I make more (which is no big deal and has never been an issue with us). The kids are on my benefits plan and I could add him as well.

opinions?

tiffyr0se · January 2009

He may not be willing to give up his career...just because he makes less doesn't mean he's not proud of what he does or working to help support his family. You have to let him decide and be supportive either way or you may hurt his pride.

Alli3586 · January 2009

DH and I talked about doing this but he said he didn't feel comfortable not being the "breadwinner". Very old fashioned but that's just him.

KeepingItLowKey · January 2009

mine stays home and loves it.

DBride2006 · January 2009

DH would LOVE to be a stay at home dad, but we need his income, too. However if your hubs isn't into it, I wouldn't push the issue or it might make him resentful.?

mieuxmieux · January 2009

DH takes care of DD until I get home from work, then he goes to work. I think he would love to be a SAHD as much as I would love to be a SAHM, but that is financially not an option for either of us.

JennyCraig · January 2009

Think about the long-term loss of time in his career. I guess it depends on how long you'd want him to stay at home but a major absence could make it very hard for him to get re-employed in the future. I wouldn't push him into it but that's just me. GL.

TexaninNV · January 2009

My hubbie is going to stay home (same issue with daycare costs) and also is going back to school online. He is super excited about being the sole caregiver too (did I mention he was a Marine?). Its up to your husband...maybe its a masculinity issue for him. We still have to cut back our expenses still, however, because out west the grocery and utility costs are insane.

I'm not good at this site...What is a DH and DD? I assume the DH is something about husband, and the DD is the baby, but what do they stand for?

And how do you post pictures within your message?

brauchtm · January 2009

My dh is while he is looking for a job, but we are going to be very picky about the job he takes b/c it is more important for us to have him with ds. He likes being sahd - but doesn't love it I don't think. He misses adult men - he sees women at playdates and mommy and me - but there are very few men around.

almost_mrs._culotta · January 2009

DH just lost his job a couple of weeks ago, so when I go back to work next week he'll be staying home with DS. ?He's a great dad and is looking forward to it, we talked about one of us staying at home before we had DS so it's not like this is a new idea. ?The timing isn't fantastic for the whole job loss scenario, but I'd rather DH stay home with DS and have to stick closer to our budget than DS go to daycare to make a couple hundred extra a month.

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