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OK, that kind of peeved me off

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I was watching a show called Baby Lab on Discovery Health. Admittedly, I know jack about IVF/IUI and the like. Well, this family was on and speaking with thier DR. They all ready have a 3yo and did NOT want to risk multiples. They flat out said to the DR, "We do NOT want a multiples pregnancy". The DR kind of rolled his eyes, leaned back in his chair and went on and on about how it's standard to put in three, "There is only a 5% chance of triplets anyhow." He told them that if they have perfect eggs (or something) he might be all right with only using two, but he would use three most likely. THAT pissed me off. They don't want three, they don't even want two! Who the eff is this guy? They told him their wishes, they know what they want, and here is this effing DR telling them in no so many words, "Oh that's cute. But I'm the doc and I'm your only shot at this baby makin' so we'll use as many eggs as I see fit. But hey, no worries remember, only 5% chance for trips!" IndifferentHello, God complex much??

Tell me this isn't standard practice. Tell me REs aren't talking couples into more than they feel they can handle. I had to turn it off, I don't know what they ended up doing. Did you feel pressured to use more eggs/embryos than you were 'comfortable' with or did you not care ie. if they used four and you ended up with four, that was fine?

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Re: OK, that kind of peeved me off

  • dreamcometrueX2dreamcometrueX2

    Hmmmm....I think that sounds like time for them to get a new RE.  

    Our doc never ever pressured us...matter of fact it was kind of the opposite. After 2 1/2 years, and months and months of drugs, 8 IUIs we would take whatever we ended up with.....our doctor was a little hesitant to go through with our last IUI (with 8 mature follicles).

     

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    That dr. is why you have women like that lady in Cali who just had 8. 

    I think that if they only wanted 2 then do 2.  If that doesnt work they can come back for a 2nd try of 2.  Its her body not his.  I would find a different dr.  (i also have no idea about all the fertility stuff)

     

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  • LilSurferGirlLilSurferGirl

    Ditto MrsLee and dreamcometrue - most RE's are the exact opposite of that guy.  They definitely counsel towards transferring fewer embryos, not more! Transferring 1-2 is the standard - not 3.  Most RE's do not want their patients to conceive high order multiples because of the risks to Mom and babies. 

    That said, we did transfer 3 at out IVF - but at no time were we pressured to do so by my RE.  She gave us the details of our embryo number and quality, and said that given my age she would be okay with transferring 3, but it was up to us. We had to be comfortable with the idea of multiples. Then she left the room giving DH and I time to discuss.   I was 37 with endo and, based on the quality and number of embryos we had, DH and I made the decision to transfer 3.  

    No responsible Dr. should ever counsel a patient to transfer more than they are ready or willing to hande. 

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  • FaeryStarGazerFaeryStarGazer member
    You guys don't even know what kind of relief I feel. I really hope they did find someone else- can you even imagine?! He was so smug.
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  • sweatersweater
    I'm not very savvy when it comes to this subject, but one of my BFF's is going thru this process right now and plans to transfer 2. No pressure from doc to do more...
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  • blairsgirlblairsgirl
    I agree with the others.  Most REs are not like that and he sounds like he was showing off.  Ours would only transfer two at the most, unless the embryos were doing bad and we would discuss with them transferring 3.  At the clinic we went to, the standard is to put 1-2 back in.  They did tell us that they have had cases where they have transferred more than 2 or 3 even.  Women who were over 40 and some other extreme cases.  They try and reduce the number of high order multiples as much as possible.  We would like to have one more child after the twins, and when we go back we are going to ask them to put one back in.
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  • Jen&John2005Jen&John2005

    With all my unsuccessful IUIs and my successful IVF, the decisions were ultimately mine.  My RE would certainly make recommendations, but I had the final say, and she respected that.  I agree with the PPs, it sounds like they need to find a new RE more willing to listen to the patients.

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  • luvmagoldnluvmagoldn

    My RE said was never able to convince anyone to put back just one - even though that's really what should happen.  It's the expense that drives all of this which is so unfortunate.

     

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  • SkatcatSkatcat

    My RE never insisted, but strongly recommended we transfer four embies and so that's what we did. He based this on my age.  We ended up having three implant, but one was not viable.

    I think in the case of the octuplets, fertility meds were used but it wasn't IVF.

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