MIL Question, not PG related

laurenaac83 · January 2009

How often to you call your MIL, to just check on her or talk? I have a good relationship with mine, but I dont talk to her very often. My mom says that I need to call more, what do you ladies think?

TiffanyHenning · January 2009

My mil is an evil beeeeotchhhh so idk the correct answer.

sweetfern · January 2009

I have a better relationship with my MIL than with my mother and we don't regularly chat on the phone. I imagine I will start talking to her more in the future.

MrsPreK · January 2009

I never talk to mine...she lives about 3 hours away and will call to talk to DH. If I answer the phone and it's her (we don't have caller ID) I'll talk to her and she sometimes will call...but not very often.

We have a good relationship though...

I LUBBINS YOU! · January 2009

I haven't spoken to my MIL in about a year and a half. My hubby's family doesn't like me, and would have preferred he married a crack whore. Oh well!!! Confused

jonsdeedee · January 2009

never. I don't even answer the phone if she calls. But she never does, she calls dh on his cell

Holmgirl15 · January 2009

I have a very good relationship with my MIL, but I don't really talk to her, except on the weekends. We go to church together on Sundays, so if I call her, it's usually to coordinate who is driving, etc.

We randomly email each other during the week, but don't call each other very often. I see her at least once a weekend, if not more.

I think it's whatever you're comfortable doing... if you have a good relationship, then keep it the way you've always done it. it seems to work so far, right?

Does she email? maybe drop her a little email note here and there?

ChickadDeedee · January 2009

I have a great relationship with MIL, however I don't ever remember calling her in the entire time that I've known her. I usually see her once a month for family dinner at their house.

BCLong21 · January 2009

I get along great with my MIL. I have a few issues with her, but I think that is normal.

I never call her unless I need to ask her something. Usually DH talks to her on the phone. We just don't have that type of relationship.

Jimsgirl5821 · January 2009

I dont talk to mine on the phone really. I see her for family stuff..holidays, birthdays, etc. that's about it. We dont chat or hang out or anything.

Carmie714 · January 2009

My MIL and I have a awesome relationship... she calls me not DH, I think that is kinda weird but whatever, I talk to her at least 2 times a week.

jetgrrrl · January 2009

My MIL is a very nice lady but kind of weird to deal with - she has a way of making people very uncomfortable that's hard to explain. I'm sorry to say I avoid her a bit - which is about to get a heck of a lot more difficult, given that she lives close by and my parents don't, so we'll be relying on her and FIL to help out with the kiddo.

I only called her once after she was in a car accident (not serious) and I just thought the nice thing to do was to call to see how she was doing.

I really think IL relationships are some of the most difficult/compliated human relationships there are. You didn't grow up with these people, you didn't choose them, and yet they're your family.

JCM052707 · January 2009

Literally..NEVER. Dh calls her and they talk occasionally (not nearly as much as we talk to my parents), but in the almost 9 years DH and Ihave been together, I've just nevre really chated w/ MIL. She's not a warm, chat with type person. It's not that I hate her or anything, we're just very different and she's done/said some things in the past that have made me keep my distance.

EarlyIowa · January 2009

I really like my MIL but I don't call her very often. I e-mail her about once a week. She is very nice but busy with work so e-mail works for both of us better.

jk09uhed89 · January 2009

mil sends me texts all the time and if its not something stupid i will send a reply but if shes asking if dh did this or that or if its some random thing i dont reply. she also sends me about 6 chain e-mails daily for my enjoyment.

i never call her and she only calls me when she wants to know about the baby or my appointments (she would tag along if i let her).

dh goes to see her more than i do and when i do go with him she thinks something is wrong??? i dunno since DH and i were dating she wanted me to call her mom and she tells me she loves me all the time but i dont feel really close to her

deltagirl79 · January 2009

I never call her. They live close so we see them about once a week. We get along okay but she's not the person I would call to chat with.

Jacquie_Palma · January 2009

I talk to my MIL usually once a week. One of us will call the other just to see what's going on. It was funny because we hadn't talked for like 2 weeks and last night my FIL called my cell phone. He is usually not a phone guy, so it was kind of surprising. He just called to say hi, but didn't call DH phone. Then this morning my MIL called me at work to see how I was doing and I told her how FIL called and she didn't even know about it. It was kind of a funny thing, but so like my IL.

Kristri07 · January 2009

MrsC2:
I have a great relationship with MIL, however I don't ever remember calling her in the entire time that I've known her. I usually see her once a month for family dinner at their house.

Ditto... however she has called a couple times to check in on me since finding out I'm pregnant.

MrsDuncan · January 2009

MIL and I don't talk on the phone - DH probably only talks to her about once a month, and only if he initiates. I am much closer to his grandmother and one of his aunts, oddly enough, but they're nicer.

AutumnBride929 · January 2009

I never call her unless I have a question only she can answer and I need to know the answer right away. We send Facebook messages and emails though, lol.

wildride · January 2009

i don't really call any parents just to chat, i usually see them in person. But we see them at least 1-2x a month and MIL and I email sometimes. ?DH calls her probably 1x a week.

lilone_06 · January 2009

I end up calling mine to talk once every two weeks or so. But, that's due in large part that we're overseas so in a WAY different time zone, so DH doesn't get to call them as often as he'd like, since he works and I'm SAHM. I'm like you - we have a good relationship, but I'm not too keen to call and chat all the time.

Abc123 · January 2009

In my MIL's eyes if we don't talk all the flipping time then there is something wrong and she call my DH and yells and complains to him. I think it's the fact that she wants to talk so much that makes me not like her and get annoyed by her.

shell1016 · January 2009

I work with mine and see her 5+ days a week. We get a long fine, but I NEVER call her because I see her all the time.

diehardfan3 · January 2009

Mines in India so I just send her emails every once and awhile-everything else can go through DH when he talks to her?

AMYfromKY · January 2009

Rarely. She annoys me when I do talk to her. She doesn't mean to, but she just can't help it.

Ree08.04.07 · January 2009

I talk with my MIL on pretty much a daily basis only because we have to (not that she's completely awful). It's just that since my older SIL decided to revert back to needing someone to hold her hand for everything my relationship with MIL has gotten very strained since I don't agree with enabling people. But overall when we do talk we're fine with each other.

Jill+Dave · January 2009

I've never called her in over 7 yrs. She calls me sometimes while I'm pg but it's always while I'm sleeping or eating so I don't answer. I know she just wants to ask how I'm doing w/ the pg & DH talks to them every other day so I don't worry about calling her back. Normally by the time DH is home from work, he's already spoken to her that day anyway. She's nice but not that smart & kind of annoying sometimes.

It's funny that you posted this because DH was just telling me last night that his mom would really like it if I would call her & that she tells him all the time that I can call her if I ever need to talk. If I need to talk I call my own mom or grandma who I'm very close to. I just have no idea what to even call my MIL for. I feel like if you're calling s.o. it's for a reason. If I called MIL, it'd be just to make my DH & her happy - not really to talk about anything. Just weird & awkward to me.

DH was out of town for 3 days earlier this month. MIL & FIL seemed really put out that I didn't call them while he was gone. Umm, didn't need to.... Annoying

MrsLeslie030405 · January 2009

Before I knew better, once a week or every?other?week... now I don't unless I have too which?thankfully?is almost never since she lives?out?of state... she is a crazy,?controlling, delusional,?intrusive, immature biotch and I keep far away from that psycho drama!

lhousefield · January 2009

I have learned that my soon to be MIL likes to feel envolved in the pregnancy. She has two boys so I feel like she should get the chance to be connected with her grandchild from the beginning.

jmubride2 · January 2009

I have a great relationship with my MIL. I just got off google chat with her, lol. I never call her. Sometimes she calls me to find DH.

borc0080 · January 2009

MIL and I have a really good relationship. We probably talk and/or see each other a few times a month. But we don't really hang out just the two of us. It's usually with FIL and DH, and sometimes with siblings/spouses. We usually call to get something on the schedule, but wind up talking about other stuff for a while.

I know my MIL loves when I send cards/notes in the mail. Maybe that would be something that would work for you?

Mrs.DeliaMarieP · January 2009

I don't need to call mine ever, she lives downstairs, so if we don't answer the phone multiple times in a row, she takes it upon herself to come upstairs (yes, we are working on this, and it is getting better).

If I didn't live in the same house with her, I would probably call her once or twice/week, except that she would still call us every day, multiple times per day, so again, I wouldn't even have to put in the effort.

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