update to DH issues

berty12777

DH and I had a long "discussion" last night and I think we both aired out some stuff that needed to get aired out.  He feels like I'm doing everything right and he's doing everything wrong.  He said he feels like I'm always watching over his shoulder and that he has to prove something to me (NOT TRUE!).  I feel like he doesn't understand how hard I'm working during the day just to keep the baby clean, fed, and happy because he expects me to still be cleaning the house like I did before she was born.  It was good to get that all out and, after some tears, I think we both felt better.

Tonight we cuddled some while Allison was sleeping and we watched "My Big Fat Greek Wedding" together.  It was almost like normal!

AngelsAmid

I'm so glad you two were able to talk about it and I'm so glad both are feeling better! (huge hug)

Crazycrustacean

I'm glad you both feel better.?

MiaMichelle

Oh good!  I am so happy to hear this.  I think it's definitely hard on both mom and dad to get used to having a baby.  H and I definitely have had a few real heart to hearts after a lot of tears (always on my end).  H also thinks I "tell him what to do", when in my mind I'm just trying to help him avoid making a tough situation worse.  So I apologized and told him I really didn't mean to do that and I'll watch myself more.  I told him that I feel like he doesn't understand how tiring it is to take care of the baby all day and all night, sometimes through some really sleepless nights.  All I wanted from him was a little compassion for what I was going through.

Curling up next to one another, hugging, watching a movie, is perfect.  Just reconnect and be "the two of you" for a moment.  Your post made me happy!

P.G.&A.M.

I'm glad you guys talked and got it all out in the open. Having a baby can create all sorts of crazy stress for everyone.?