NBR: RP-WWYD Kind of long

getnmarried910 · November 2008

DH and I were going to go to Chicago tomorrow with my sister, her boyfriend, her friend and her friend's boyfriend. Our two kids were going to go too. Turns out DH has to work tomorrow, so he can't go. I wasn't going to go, but my sister talked me into it saying they'd all help me with the kids.

Last night she texted me telling me her friend's boyfriend, we'll call him J, got arrested for drugs. All they found was his bowl so he got fined for paraphanelia. His gf, we'll call her H, said she wanted nothing to do with him till he quit for good, which I knew was an empty threat because she said it before, so they told me he wasn't going.

Today I told my sister I'm fine with going, but that we're potty training DD so I'd have to stop off to take her every hour or so and I asked if that would annoy them. When I was 8 months pregnant with DS I was in Chicago with her, my aunt and my cousin, and my sister and my cousin acted so annoyed and were quite rude that I couldn't walk as fast as they wanted, and I had to stop to pee a lot, so I wasn't sure how tomorrow would go. She just told me to put her in diapers, that five days of potty training won't be hurt. Well, I'm not doing that because other than today, it's been a GOOD five days.

She sends me a text later saying J is going now and because he can't smoke his weed, he may get annoyed by it. Now I don't know if I even want to go. I may just go on my own and deal with the two kids myself. It wouldn't be the first time I've done it, but I know when we get there, they'll be so engrossed in what they are doing, they won't actually help me with the kids, and they probably will get annoyed with my 2 year old going potty. I really want to go and I think boht kids will like the parade and seeing Mickey Mouse, but I'm not sure I want to be around J, especially if he's going to be grouchy from not having a drug fix.

I don't know if I should go alone and deal with it, stay home, or chance it and go with them.

StephanieBride1 · November 2008

I wouldn't go. It would not turn out well.

Pea Pod · November 2008

Wow.... your story is insane with all that drug use, arrests, grouchy because of not having a drug fix. Indifferent Sorry but I would go alone or not go at all. I would not even have my kids in the car with anyone who just got arrested for drugs.

Hope things get better for you and you find your answer. Best wishes!

KEW0323 · November 2008

Personally, there is no way I would put my children around someone I know does drugs. So I wouldn't go with them.

I don't know if I would be comfortable going alone since you will be stopping and getting the kids out so much, seems dangerous to me.

tenlittletoes · November 2008

I think I'd skip out on the trip if for no other reason than J might not be the safest person to have your kids around. And handling the two kids might be kinda difficult on your own in the middle of a crowded parade, ya know? That's just my opinion! GL with whatever you do!

bumpuser794640 · November 2008

If it were me, I would just stay home. If they complained when you were pg, I'm sure they'll find something to complain about with the kids there, too, especially with the potty training. No reason to ruin good progress just to avoid rubbing someone the wrong way!

abrooke8 · November 2008

I would stay home. You've made good progress with potty traing and there's no reason to stress yourself out and have to try to keep up with people who aren't sensitive to you or your children's needs.