I feel terrible...please don't judge.

DenverGrl

The girls were super cranky this past week.  Constantly crying all day long because they're teething.  I haven't been able to do anything except wash bottles, make formula and do their laundry.  I went three days without a shower.  Finally on Wednesday after almost a week of this I yelled "God I wish you girls would just shut the up!" not to them but as I walked away from them out of the room.  I had to go to another room and shut the door and cry for 10 minutes before I could go back out there.  DH watched them as soon as he got home that night and I went right to bed.  And they have been feeling better since.  But I feel absolutely horrible.  I'm crying even as I type this.  I can't believe I did such a terrible thing.  I have such wonderful little babies and I feel like a terrible mom. 

JBSugar

You are NOT a terrible mom!  Most people only have to deal with 1 baby going through those things....remember.....you're dealing with 2.  I don't have the experience yet but I'm pretty sure it's hard, and demanding and exhausting.  You're entitled to a break (or break down) every once in awhile.  And you didn't yell it TO them or AT them and they are young enough they won't even know.  Hang in there and remember what a great mom you are!

luvmagoldn

You are not a terrible Mom.  You are a GREAT Mom - how do I know?  When you were stressed you walked away for 10 minutes to collect yourself.  Anyone would be at their breaking point after three days of two cryng babies! 

 I think we've all had similar experiences.  Cut yourself some slack. 

weemodin

Puh-leeze.  Probably not your proudest moment, but surely something that most MOMs can relate to.  I frequently modify the verses of lullabies in unkind ways that display my frustration at their inability to go to sleep.  I'm sure I've raised my voice in frustration, too.

It happens to the best of us.  Twins are HARD when they gang up against you, lol!  (and I know they're really not ganging up against you yet, but it sure can feel like it).

togagirl

You've only done this once?  When Connor was really colicky in the beginning I used to put him down and do this about once a day.  I would go in the garage and bang on the wall and scream.  You are a great mom but everyone can only take so much...sometimes you just have to let it out!

FloF9

Don't feel bad - you're not a terrible mom.  It's hard not to feel overwhelmed with twins.  HUGS!!!

april062604

you are not a terrible mom, you are a normal mom. ?we ALL have moments like this...

jpbride2004

You are a great mom.. I do this about once a week.   : )

Hang in there Denvergrl!

Nicol

pea-kay

a terrible mom wouldn't feel bad about it. don't feel bad, it's totally normal! oh my gosh. please don't beat yourself up about it! we've all been there (and the moms-to-be will be there one day...)

 {{hugs}}

gymrat

You're not a terrible mom!!!! HUGS!!!

AmberJane

Oh, sweetie don't feel bad...we've all been there (or will be).  It is tough enough to deal with the screaming from one infant, let alone crying in stereo.  You were so very smart in walking away and giving  yourself a 10 minute cool-down.  Believe me, that might have been your first, but not your last (especially when they start coming home at 3AM!).  You'll get nothing but sympathy from us!!

kyluvsaj

You are a GREAT mom!  I am so proud of you for walking away!  That was the right thing to do.  So what if you said something as you were walking away.  We have all said something we aren't proud of at one time or another.

I having been telling Rowan he is a turd lately if that makes you feel better (he is also cutting teeth).

lstaylor73

If you are terrible then I'm so much worse.  I just did the same thing to my guys and I know they are in pain and can't control it.  But I'm at my breaking point and can't help them.  Waiting for the GI specialist appointment next week.

Really, we all do it, you just need to get away for a minute. It's okay.

DenverGrl

Thank you all so much.  I still feel terrible but not as terrible as I did before.  I already feel guilty that I can't give them as much one on one time as I could if I had them one at a time.  And then this last week and getting frustrated with them only made me feel worse. 

mrskimmieD

Everyone has a bad or off day.  It is stressful to have two babies crying and teething at the same time.  As you see from everyone's responses, it is perfectly normal.  HUGS to you!

mwilson44

Don't feel bad at all.  I'm sure that we have all had those words run through our heads, if not out our mouth.  I know I have and I totally understand the feeling.  There is a time when patience runs out...it's okay.  You did the right thing by going in the other room for a breather...I've had to do that before too!  No worries!  HUGS!!!!

dragonflyinn

You are NOT a terrible mom, I have unfortunately done the same.

Gretchen&Peter

I have to say that I have done the same thing... more than once. My boys react to teething like your girls. It is miserable for them and miserable for me. I have a feeling there are other MoMs on here that have said it too. We just do the best we can but we are only human. Try not to beat yourself up.

On a lighter note, the whole teething thing gets easier as they get older because they are easier to distract. The boys will cry and whine as if there is no tomorrow while gnawing away at anything in their reach. But, if I open the front door, suddenly their gums don't hurt so much. It's all I can do to keep from getting trampled on as they race for the door.

It will get better. For now, take whatever break you can get from the crying. If your IL's are close by maybe they can come and give you an hour to relax, shower, take a walk. Anything to keep your sanity.

Steffani

Oh yeah, I've been there too!

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We've been calling Cam "crybaby Cam" because he cries soooo much. I keep telling DH "We really have to stop this before he knows what we're saying!"

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You're normal, don't beat yourself up... raising kids is hard!?

amygdala

As my dh told me many, many times during the first year, if you feel bad about it then it means you're not a bad mom. ?NO ONE prepares you for the amount of crying you'll have to endure as a mom of multiples. ?There is nothing more frustrating than 2 crying babies & one adult, b/c one adult cannot soothe 2 babies at once. ?It's just mathematically impossible. ?It's a law of nature, like gravity...no way around it & it is so incredibly hard emotionally. ?There is no way to even describe it to someone who has not lived it. ?I have lived it, & I would never, ever judge you for something like this. ?What you described was a frequent occurrence for me the first year. ?I know how awful you feel, but trust me you are not a bad mom, just an overwhelmed one. ?((HUGS))

lilmsm

Been there. Done that. Said worse.

Hang in  there! This is really really hard!

Megloveshim07

dont feel bad you are a wonderful mom who is just a little stressed out and is dealing with 2 demanding babies! Hey thats hard work! Dont be hard on yourself we are allllll human and lose our cool. I know I do all the time! Dont be upset its okay!