Very Depressed - weight gain :(

melandscott0907

Ugh - I just saw a picture of myself from a few weeks back and am absolutely horrified by the way I look. I have totally let myself go, and cant even begin to discuss how much weight I have gained during this pregnancy. If I was to be honest; I would have to guess that it is over?50 lbs. I should also clarify that I was thick to begin with.

The baby is healthy and I am very happy for that aspect; however as a woman, I am having a very difficult time handling this weight gain and my new body image. I have always struggled with my weight and seeing these changes in my body is proving to be equally as difficult. It's not the baby belly, but my arms, back, and legs, face, etc.. that get to me.

Sorry to ramble, I am just having a very emotional day and seeing that picture pushed me over the edge...

H*E*E

aww, I'm sorry your experiencing the emotional stress of weight gain!  I'm sure you look gorgeous and have a beautiful pregnancy glow! Before you know it your baby will be in your arms and be well worth all of the hassle!

Dontblink

I am average side pre-pregnancy...size 10/12 and 5'11. I felt "big" when I was pregnant because I am a bigger girl to begin with. I gained 21 pounds with Aiden and lost 25 by my 6wk appt. You will be surprised how quick the weight can come off when the baby is born. Esp. ifyou are breastfeeding. You are on the move a lot and I would literally forget to eat some days because the days would fly by. I am sure you look beautiful. Don't be so hard on yourself...think of the miracle you will get!

Sueball1

Oh, Mel, I can totally relate... the weight gain has been really hard on me too. We have a family friend who just gave birth and she only gained like 20 lbs the entire pregnancy and she had an 8-lb baby... so I feel like crap knowing that by the end, I will be up 40-45 lbs total. And I agree, its not the belly, its everything else... I am so worried about losing the weight after and getting my body back and that horrible transition period where I'm just flabby and lumpy.... sigh.

I think that since we are at the bitter end of our pregnancies, there are a lot of hormones and emotions at play, so that is making everything harder.Its also knowing that the end is near and we'll have to pay the price for this weight gain - ie, working to get it off. It sucks. I'm sorry you are feeling so down, but I hope that knowing someone else feels the same way will help a bit.... big hugs....

lkstor

i'm sure you are a gorgeous pregnant woman! 

try to make this a positive by coming up with a plan for your weight loss after baby is born?  sign up for aerobics classes or a personal trainer or weight watchers or something proactive?  maybe that would help you feel better?

MayBride2B2007

i can only tell you that i empathize.  i still have at least 11-14 weeks to go and i am so ridiculously big i can't imagine how i'll move let alone function through the next trimester.  i hate looking at myself, clothed or not.  it is totally depressing.

mrsladd

Please don't be too hard on yourself.  Some women sail through pg, hardly gaining anything and looking fabulous.  Others have a harder time.  I gained 53lbs with my dd, and I was chubby everywhere...legs, face, butt, you name it.  (I knew I looked fat, but it didn't really hit me how big EVERYTHING was until a few months after she was born, when I tried to put on a pair of huge overalls that I could always have shared with another person they were so big, and I couldn't even pull them over my thighs!).  She was born in July, and I remember crying my eyes out while shopping for something to wear that next Easter.  The weight just stuck to me until I was done nursing her, but somehow by the time she was a year, it was all melting away.  Eventually, I was as thin as ever.

Then I got pg with my ds, and oddly enough, I only gained 30lbs that time, and looked ok.  Even so, I was still depressed afterward when the weight loss was slow going.

This time around I'm trying to give myself a break.  Yeah, it was more fun to look thinner and pg than big and pg, but whatever.  It's only temporary, even afterward.  Eventually you'll be your old self again, when the time is right for YOUR body.  My dh and I have already discussed that we're both comfortable with me carrying around a bit of extra chub after the birth with no pressure, I just want to try to bf (which is wonderful, but also holds the weight on for me, I think), enjoy the time with my kids, and let my body come back to me in it's own time.

melandscott0907

Ladies, thank you for your kind words and understanding.

jenibeni227

Mel, I saw a pic of you on someone's facebook and I think you look beautiful:)

Panda53321

Ditto JeniBeni-you look very cute.....it's not as if you gained weight by eating cookies for 9 months, you grew another person.