I am a FTM and my mom is throwing a shower for me. In order to try to make it as convenient as possible for everyone (including family members who have limited access to cars) I have created registries at 3 different stores, BRU, BBB and Target. My issue is that I had to put duplicate items on the different sites otherwise there wouldn't be much to choose from on each list and I really wanted everyone to have a decent selection to choose from (in a varied price range), assuming they want to purchase from the registry. I don't expect everyone to check out all three lists so I wanted to make sure there were the types of items people seem to like to purchase on each list (bouncers, play mats, etc) and also so they can see our theme/color preferences, should the choose to get something else not on the list.
My plan is to return/exchange any items that we get duplicates of because obviously someone purchasing off one registry, won't know if the same item was already purchased at another store. Every gift will be appreciated, but for most items, we will only need one so we'll return for store credit and use towards other necessities (diapers, etc).
Would anyone be offended/weirded out if they went to a shower and saw that someone else had given the same item as them? What if you found out that your model/version was the one returned? Or is this kind of par for the course with showers and registries?
Re: Shower/Registry Question
Honestly - you're overthinking it. I wouldn't put a ton of things on ALL the registries.
While "registry burps" happen and people show up w /the same gift and people understand, the fact that you're almost planning on this happening... Eh, I can see people being a bit more frustrated that they were almost "set up" to get you a duploicate.
I know you want to offer an array of items, and that's great. And SOME items on a couple registries might work fine (Im kind of thinking big ticket items) - but I wouldn't make a point to put most things on every registry
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Yeah, I would be annoyed. I mean I understand that happens sometimes because of computer glitches or because people forget to let a cashier know it is on a registry, but if I went to a shower where it happened a lot ? Yes, I would think it was rude and I would be really annoyed.
Registries don't have to overlap. If one store doesn't have a lot to choose from that is ok.
Try myregistry.com.
It combines all of your registries into one list.
Yes, guests get upset when they see dups of their gifts.
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I also plan to look in in them and remove duplicate items from other registries once items have been purchased.
I get so annoyed if I buy something on a registry and take it off the registry and then someone else gives it to them. I'd be annoyed at the other person that bought it. It's okay to have 3 smaller registries. I think big registries are too overwhelming for people. If you did decide to duplicate any items, you should give someone your registry info so they can monitor and when an item is bought that has a duplicate, then they can delete the duplicate (I hate when the MTB looks at her own registry and know everything she's getting before the shower happens).
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At the group's suggestion I have removed most of the items that are duplicate between the three registries and only left things that we would actually need multiples of. I tried to even out the quantity and variety of items on each list so that if someone only looks at one, they aren't only seeing the "non-fun" necessities. Hopefully no one that goes to one of the baby stores (BRU or BBB) are disappointed at the lack of options on the list as I am used to having much more to choose from when I have looked at registries in the past for others. In my situation I have family both on my side and DH's that aren't super internet savy and have limited access to cars so I wanted to only put items at Target which are available in the store (not the case for many of the baby items they carry). Originally I had most things on the BRU list but I got a big guilt trip from my mom over the weekend about her family not having access to these "specialized" stores so I reacted by adding more to the Target list and didn't realize the issue until I looked at all the duplication. Hence my concern and question.
Thanks for everyone's advice.