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fellesferie

Any vents, whines, complaints, or open letters?

whse13kittens

Dear Self,

It was YOUR idea to invite BM on your weeklong vacation to the beach next month. Yes, it was stupid but you only have yourself to blame. Quit complaining!

Xoxo,

Me

Pamelacake

DH.. WHY just WHY!!!! You were doing so well with communicating with BM, listening to her lies and not being a smarta$$ about it. You have court in 5 days.. WHY would you want to start sh!t with her last night????

Yes.. she cancelled another weekend.. BM does this every weekend. Why were you surprised? I wasn't! What you started last night is just going to make you look horrible in court. She didn't need you to tell her she was a dead beat mom... she knows this! None of her excuses for backing out of every weekend are legit.... not even this one.. although she is stepping it up.. a gas leak in her apartment building.. I already called to see if it were true.. nope. WHY did you do that!!!! UGH.

Lavender P

whse13kittens:

Dear Self,

It was YOUR idea to invite BM on your weeklong vacation to the beach next month. Yes, it was stupid but you only have yourself to blame. Quit complaining!

Xoxo,

Me

You invited BM on your vacation and she is going to go???? I know some people have much better relationships with each other than we do, but how does this even work logistically?

kirbear

Dear BD

Do you really think I'm going to believe that you don't have the "means" your words to pay camp and med bills when you drive a brand new jeep, brand new Harley, go to the bar and away on your bike? Change your priorities or see you in court! And please stop the pity party texts the relationship you have with dd is your doing and you do nothing to change it and you being so "poor" is your own fault too. But you might want to stop using OT as a reason for canceling if you are going to claim the poorhouse!!

Sunday924

Lavender P:

whse13kittens:

Dear Self, It was YOUR idea to invite BM on your weeklong vacation to the beach next month. Yes, it was stupid but you only have yourself to blame. Quit complaining! Xoxo, Me

You invited BM on your vacation and she is going to go???? I know some people have much better relationships with each other than we do, but how does this even work logistically?

Yes please explain! This is crazy to me. I guess it's good for the kids though. Is her H going or will it be like an episode of sister wives? lol 

whse13kittens

Lavender P:

whse13kittens:

Dear Self,

It was YOUR idea to invite BM on your weeklong vacation to the beach next month. Yes, it was stupid but you only have yourself to blame. Quit complaining!

Xoxo,

Me

You invited BM on your vacation and she is going to go???? I know some people have much better relationships with each other than we do, but how does this even work logistically?

Yes, we did. And I was the one who suggested it. Definitely kicking myself now. She and her boyfriend and their kid are staying in the house we rented with us and the two boys. Everyone has their own room but...yeah. She goes from being super friendly to super sour at the drop of a hat, AND all of her friends who we wanted to get the kids away from are coming down that week too, now, but staying down the road. Either way, super sweet or sour, friends or no, my relaxing vacation is going to be anything but. However, it's my own fault. Sigh.

redrae78

It has been a very long and trying week.  SS is on a new medication for his ADHD/ODD and it is making him very cranky and emotional.  

MIL called and asked DH if she could take SS for the weekend so he could go fishing with his pappy (DH's Stepdad) and we didn't hesitate to say yes. 

I feel a little guilty that I am looking forward to it so much.  I know she will just load him up with sugar, ignore our rules and tell him how he doesn't need to listen to me since I am "just the stepmother" but I don't even care.  We so need the break. 

KTdidit

I confess - I snooped on BD and his GF's Facebook pages. It's my mom's fault - she snooped first and brought something up that I just had to be nosy and look at myself. And all it did was p!ss me off - oh you had such a fantastic time hosting all these people at your place for a cookout and fireworks?! So glad the CS you don't pay went to feed your low life trash friends. Also I'm pretty sure that the GF doesn't have her older 3 kids regularly. Every picture only has BD, the GF, and their baby. And there's been many posts from GF saying how her older babies aren't there. hmmmm......so BD really isn't supporting 2 adults and 4 kids. But still wants to claim that when saying he can't afford to pay CS.

I know - I never should've looked. It served no purpose other than to make me mad. I just hope that my lawyer gets that payroll deduction order put through SOON.

Lavender P

whse13kittens:

Lavender P:

whse13kittens:

Dear Self,

It was YOUR idea to invite BM on your weeklong vacation to the beach next month. Yes, it was stupid but you only have yourself to blame. Quit complaining!

Xoxo,

Me

You invited BM on your vacation and she is going to go???? I know some people have much better relationships with each other than we do, but how does this even work logistically?

Yes, we did. And I was the one who suggested it. Definitely kicking myself now. She and her boyfriend and their kid are staying in the house we rented with us and the two boys. Everyone has their own room but...yeah. She goes from being super friendly to super sour at the drop of a hat, AND all of her friends who we wanted to get the kids away from are coming down that week too, now, but staying down the road. Either way, super sweet or sour, friends or no, my relaxing vacation is going to be anything but. However, it's my own fault. Sigh.

Good luck! You will have to come back and let us know how it goes. You are a brave woman!

fellesferie

DD is 3 1/2, and I need to start giving some serious thought to going back to work. I don't know what I want to do. Literally. I don't know whether I want to keep being a SAHM or go back to working; I don't know what kind of work I want to look for; I don't know where and how my time is best spent. I JUST DON'T KNOW.

DH says he will support whatever I decide to do. Which is great, but it is also fantastically helpful and unhelpful at the same time. 

I am almost 33 and I don't know what I want to do with my life.  

Lavender P

DH is driving me up the wall. He has been gone four nights this week with different obligations and will be gone tonight and all next weekend. I understand that there is a lot going on right now between work and his family but I need his help too. We have the best DS in the world and I love being his mama but I need a break. I work all day and then come home to entertain and take care of a one year old all by myself. Then I get up an do it all over again. I do this for nine months out of the year when he is in school but it is summer time and I want a break too! DH says my attitude sucks and I told him he sucks. Super mature but I don't care right now. The only thing keeping me sane is knowing that I have a hair appointment tomorrow and will have at least 2 blissful hours of doing nothing.

Hopeforthebest

My SKs have been here a week and I love them to pieces.

They make me laugh like I've never laughed in my life...HOWEVER...Everything gets turned into a poopy/fart conversation. UGH!

CurlieWhirlie

Hopeforthebest:

Everything gets turned into a poopy/fart conversation. UGH!

Wait....are you in my house?

KTdidit

I have another one - more of a vent really. I have a friend, I'll call her T, that I've known since HS. Her son was born 4 days after DS. We try to get the boys together when we can since they are so close in age. With DS gone EOWE, DH and I obviously schedule our family things on the weekends that he is home, so DS doesn't get many play dates. This weekend DH and I have tickets to a concert tomorrow night so I scheduled the playdate for DS with T's son early. Well it turns out the train schedule is more sporadic on the weekends and we have to leave super early so I cancelled the play date. T pouts and whines that this play date is never gonna happen and then proceeds to invite her self out with us to the concert. She was going to buy tickets close to us and ride with us. Ummmm no. It's DH and I's date night sorry. Again I get the crying pouty face.

Maybe its just me but I have very few friends and I'm ok with that. I have enough going on with work and the house and DS and DH and being pregnant that if I don't see most of my friends for months I'm ok with that. It just irritates me when people get so damm dramatic about things.

/vent over

Ginlyn0

My FFFC- a little girl was murdered less than 4 miles from me and the murderer is still at large. Some people are crucifying her family on social media sites for our local news stations, ect. partly because they don't live a traditional lifestyle.  I want to give them the benefit of the doubt. I know even if they aren't responsible for her death that they still feel guilty because she was unsupervised. However, part of me hopes it was someone close to her and that the police and FBI figure this out soon because it makes me sick to think otherwise.

Nineoceans

After two long weeks with SS, I'm looking forward to two weekends without him. Everything is stressing me out and that's one last person to worry about

whse13kittens

Lavender P:

whse13kittens:

Lavender P:

whse13kittens:

Dear Self,

It was YOUR idea to invite BM on your weeklong vacation to the beach next month. Yes, it was stupid but you only have yourself to blame. Quit complaining!

Xoxo,

Me

You invited BM on your vacation and she is going to go???? I know some people have much better relationships with each other than we do, but how does this even work logistically?

Yes, we did. And I was the one who suggested it. Definitely kicking myself now. She and her boyfriend and their kid are staying in the house we rented with us and the two boys. Everyone has their own room but...yeah. She goes from being super friendly to super sour at the drop of a hat, AND all of her friends who we wanted to get the kids away from are coming down that week too, now, but staying down the road. Either way, super sweet or sour, friends or no, my relaxing vacation is going to be anything but. However, it's my own fault. Sigh.

Good luck! You will have to come back and let us know how it goes. You are a brave woman!

Brave or stupid? HAHA. I just hope it all goes well for the boys' sake. They are good kids and it would be nice for them to be able to see us all get along. Here's hoping...

mccall0113

SD 14 comes on Monday for only 2 nights. haven't seen her in 2 months.  I'm glad she is coming so DH isn't so depressed but not looking forward to DH being sad again. I have 2 kids of my own to take care of and feel bad for not caring more. 

Pamelacake

I want to kind of take back my FFFC from earlier about DH, although I still don't condone it. What he said to BM last night was minimal to the phone voicemails I have gotten from her today. I don't see how she can be upset with me. I cannot force her to follow through with a weekend or any time with SD's. We go through this every time she has available parenting time. I am the one to take it out on.. there is no effing need to call me leaving very nasty and uncalled for messages. 

& the sad part is.. you think it makes you look so cool... who cares about looking cool.. grow the eff up and be a mom or get lost. Seriously FFS 

We have been going through this for almost a year.. It got old a long time ago. I really can't wait for court next week...