Post Baby attending a wedding as a guest

strikeofamatch16

One of my friends will be throwing a casual wedding reception two weeks after I give birth (repeat c-section, so I know the actual date).  I plan on attending, and have childcare arrangements with my parents already set-up, and its local so we can leave early if needed.  I realized though I may still be in serious recovery (my last was a very easy recovery, but I know each pregnancy is different).  My concern is that I may not be up to it once the date has arrived.  Do you all think I should say something to the bride & groom now?  Or wait until like 24 hours beforehand and tell them I'm feeling under the weather, (if I am)?

  

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I'm sure they know you're having a baby and will be recovering for a time after:)  I think you'll probably be fine but what do I know...I've never had a c-section. 

If I were you I'd plan on going and if it turns out that you can't make it, you just won't be able to make it.  You said it's a casual wedding reception...are they paying per guest?

caseynicole317

I would just casually mention it to them.  Assuming they know you're pg it really shouldn't be a problem.  I went through something similiar with my cousin when DS2 was born. My 1st cousin planned her entire wedding for several months after his EDD well about 7 months along she changed it to the week after... to an OUTSIDE wedding.  ' I simply asked her to lunch and said.  "I know this is an important day for you and I would love to be there but its honestly going yto depend on how DS2 and I are both feeling."  I'll be there if I can and if I can't I am sincerely sorry... but my health and  my kids health have to be a priority."

magdalina.h

I would think that if you're friends, they already know you're having a baby and this is a possibility.

leahaustin

I would probably mention it to them that you may or may not be there as you never know how you will be feeling two weeks after your c-section. However, if they are considerate people I am sure they have already thought of this.

Millie1984

I would mention that it is going to be a C-section, if they do not know.  That way they know that you may have an extended recovery and will be less surprised if you can't make it.  I am sure they would understand, lol.

provwife

magdalina.h:

I would think that if you're friends, they already know you're having a baby and this is a possibility.

This. Hopefully you'll feel fine and be able to attend and enjoy yourself!

PrimRoseMama

If you RSVP'd that you'd attend then I wouldn't wait until 24 hours beforehand. They are going to be busy. If you don't feel well the day of then stay home and send your regrets/gift. It stinks but sometimes shiit happens.  

BelhurstBride

I'd definitely talk to them now. 

when were planning our wedding we had a handful of guests who, for various reasons,  really wouldn't know until the last minute if they could make it. Because I spoke with our venue ahead of time they were willing to float us those 10 dinners so if they couldn't make it we wouldn't have to pay. It saved us a $1000.  

AppleMuffins

We have good friends getting married about 3 weeks after EDD. I just talked to them and explained that I really want to go and have every intention of going if possible, but there's just no way I can know for sure until just before. I told her to put me down as yes for now, and hope for the best. They totally understand. It is what it is! Dh will be going no matter what though, as he's in the wedding.

ewiwoo

Our good friends are getting married a week before my EDD. We RSVP that we are going but I did talk to her before hand and let her know things might work out differently. She said she understood.

strikeofamatch16

Thanks ladies - they do know I'm pregnant, I'll give them a heads up.  I do hope I'm up for it (I would have been with my last one, but I know each baby is different!)  

Wonderland438

I would talk to her now, and just ask her if she prefers you bow out now since you're not sure you'll be okay to go, or she's okay if you wing it.

 I had to do this once due to money.  We say 'yes' to a wedding invite and then my husband lost his job so a month ahead of the wedding, I asked the bride.  She thanked me profusely for letting her know and we worked out what would work best and wouldn't cost them anything (in terms of paying for our meals)