Dh decided it was ok for him to tell people

sept9107bride

Grrrrrrr. I went on vacation with dhs family this past week and its pretty obvious I have a little bump. So we told them midweek and I said twice "please do NOT tell anyone until after my doctors appt this week." I get a call from MIL today about how excited a family friend was for us. Only one person knows....not horrible. I share this small concern with Dh and he says how he has been telling everyone! WTF!!!!! I was/am livid. My family and best friends don't even know. I do not want to say anything till after this appt. except now a whole bunch of people know. I'm so disappointed. I knew MIL was clueless but Dh too? To top it off he refused to acknowledge that I might have legit concerns. He just kept saying "relaxxxx!" "Don't worry about it!" No thanks dude. After two miscarriages I will never relax. Sorry for the vent :

Sywilson

I think you have every right to be mad! After to mc you have have every right not wanting everyone to know yet. Hope everything goes well for your scan!!

jessicacss

I get where you're coming from, my husband told all of his friends right away! I asked him nicely, please, keep it to just direct family, but he won't stop telling people. So frustrating!

apickett925

Same boat here too.  My DH wants to shout it from the roof tops or write it in the sky with a plane, lol.  

I ended up telling a few girls yesterday at a bridal shower for a wedding I'm in.   The bride's grandma came up to me and started asking me about being preg--bride swears she didn't tell her, I'll call it grandma's intuition, lol.  I've been like the bride's sister since we were kids, so grandma knows me well.  But there were a bunch of the other bridesmaids and Aunts standing there, so they all know now.  I'm waiting to see who slips on facebook first.  I'm calling one of DH's Aunt's, but it might be my MIL......

LeannFran

So sorry! I can't imagine not having MH on board with telling people especially with PgAL brain.. Hope your appointment goes well! But I can totally feel for you. Sending hugs!

MJOJwedding

I completely get it! We've had two miscarriages too. My DH originally said he wanted to keep this one quiet until 12 weeks but when we saw the heartbeat at 5w6d he started telling people. I told a few close friends but he started telling coworkers and now the entire school we work at knows. And I was not ready for everyone to know!! He says "there's nothing to worry about, it'll be fine" but when I've lost three babies, I think I have a right to worry and be nervous! I'm sorry :