DH vent - European edition

kschref

First of all, hello from Prague!

We've had a great time on our trip so far, and seen a lot of fun things.  That is, until DH decided to mentally regress to the toddler stage tonight.  We're here with two other couples, both cousins of DH.  Tonight he got pretty drunk.  Had two glasses of absinthe and then several huge beers at dinner.  

Whenever DH gets like this, and its only usually around these cousins -they grew up together and enjoy egging each other on when it comes to drinking - DH decides it is time to pick a fight.  We get up to our hotel rooms and the three guys decide to go down to drink more. My husband said he wanted to lock me in the room.  Old school hotel with giant keys that make a ton of noise.  I said to please leave the door unlocked so that when he came to bed late, he would have a better chance of not waking me up.  

He goes on this rant about if that's how I feel, maybe he should get a different room and that by leaving the door unlocked, I'm inviting every man in the hotel to just come get in bed with me.  Wtf?  As soon as I opened my mouth to say something, DH just storms out of the room. I swear he's like an infant.

I know he'll apologize tomorrow and be very contrite, but geez.  And he wonders why Im always hesitant to hang out with this part of the family.  I like them just fine, but around them DH turns into the King of all Lemmings.  Prague seems to be the city of garnets and since that is our LOs birthstone, I foresee something sparkly around my neck tomorrow. Thanks for letting me vent!

 

 

 

 

 

 

MissRdotS

That's how my DH gets sometimes too, but he's reigned himself in a little so that things like that don't happen anymore. I'm sorry he said that, but FX for you that you are right about him apologizing and giving you something sparkly. I swear its something in the male DNA that makes them do / say ridiculous things when they get around old drinking buddies. 

lmills730

Ugh! You definitely deserve something sparkly tomorrow! Glad you're otherwise having a great time!

BuckeyeMommy4

Glad you're having a good time other than your DH's tantrum!

I feel for you. My DH acts like that when he's around his high school friends. I try to avoid the situation as much as possible. Usually weddings end up in a fight lol.

Hopefully he realizes he was being an asss in the morning and you can get back to your fun vacation!

gingerbabe

 Fighting is no fun!

DH And I had our first fight in a long time the other day. Actually 3 of them within 2 days, all same topic though. We use to fight everytime I was PMSing, then fought a ton my first pg. I'm hoping this is not the start of many fights. I get emotional and stressed easy with these hormonal changes and he is super sensitive to moods, so then he reacts very poorly to my stress/negativity/emotions. And we're both hotheads. So we both escalate the situation. It's a bad cycle. I'm not sure how to stop it. I am trying so hard to not be as emotional/negative but it's proving to be difficult. I wish DH was not so sensitive to my moods. I'm pg! I have the right to be emotionally crazy!

I hope you enjoy the rest of your trip!

jhunter89

The situation isn't funny, but I am chuckling about the idea of every man in the hotel getting into bed with you. Sorry he's being juvenile, I hope you have a relaxing night dreaming about your new bling that he'd better be getting you!

kschref

jhunter89:

The situation isn't funny, but I am chuckling about the idea of every man in the hotel getting into bed with you. Sorry he's being juvenile, I hope you have a relaxing night dreaming about your new bling that he'd better be getting you!

 

Right!  There's only 24 rooms in the hotel. Only six on our floor and we take up three of them.  Also, can't imagine many men have a gassy/sweaty/pregnant fixation. DH won't even remember this tomorrow and when I tell him all the things he says, the jewelry gets better with each one. Just wish he didn't feel the need to drink so much around these guys.  They both have at least 100 pounds on him easy, and he always feels like he has to drink more. 

ScarlettDahlia

kschref:

jhunter89:

The situation isn't funny, but I am chuckling about the idea of every man in the hotel getting into bed with you. Sorry he's being juvenile, I hope you have a relaxing night dreaming about your new bling that he'd better be getting you!

 

Right!  There's only 24 rooms in the hotel. Only six on our floor and we take up three of them.  Also, can't imagine many men have a gassy/sweaty/pregnant fixation. DH won't even remember this tomorrow and when I tell him all the things he says, the jewelry gets better with each one. Just wish he didn't feel the need to drink so much around these guys.  They both have at least 100 pounds on him easy, and he always feels like he has to drink more. 

Ugh, that sucks!

To the bolded, I know how that goes. It's frustrating when you know when you get together with a certain group of people that DH is going to feel the need to try keep up with them. Hopefully he'll realize that he shouldn't feel like he needs to do that with LO on the way. 

Dishylo

Hey so glad to hear that your travels are going well so far. My DH has man pms and it sounds like yours does too. When DH does something stupid, I tell him so. If he continues to act like a tool, I leave or ignore him and the next day he realizes and feels like a fool. It hasn't happened for a very very long time!!!

kschref

Dishylo:

Hey so glad to hear that your travels are going well so far. My DH has man pms and it sounds like yours does too. When DH does something stupid, I tell him so. If he continues to act like a tool, I leave or ignore him and the next day he realizes and feels like a fool. It hasn't happened for a very very long time!!!

This type of thing hasn't happened since we were with these same cousins a year ago and DH spent $10,000 upgrading our time share without asking me first.  Needless to say, I gave it to him good and seriously considered pitching him into the ocean to cool off.

LMCB12

Ugh. I've had to deal with my DH like this too. It's so obnoxious. He's gotten a lot better over the years, but he still has his moments. Sorry! Here's to hoping you get something beautiful for an apology.

sugarland726

Ugh. I feel you. DH and I had a blow out fight on vacation on Friday and it was spurred on by his heavy drinking that night with a friend he sees only twice a year. He was sorry the next day, but it sucks to have that fight at all. Hope this doesn't sour the next few days for you!

peanutmuse

Yup, that's pretty annoying. That's how my husband gets around his BIL, who has been in town for the past week and a half. So I feel your pain.

Oh yeah, and I love love love Prague. One of my favorite cities that I've ever been to.

KristaBelieve

Good to hear from you!  Too bad it's a vent situation you are dealing with.  I'm laughing imagining the big key and him getting excited to lock it.  Sounds like a little boy, my DH would do the same.  Send a pip of your necklace soon!!

adunkin

Boo! Why oh why do men do this?! My DH always does this with his old high school/car buddies. On the bright side, it's almost time for the shops to open! Once he's awake and fairly sober, have fun!