STM's- Feel like you're cheating new LO?

jhunter89

Morning ladies! I feel like i've been slacking on the whole growing a baby thing With DD, I was so careful to take my vitamins, eat plenty of good things, drink lots of water etc etc. So far with this pregnancy, I take my prenatals MAYBE 75% of the time, and eating and drinking water happen when I think about it, but not as often as I probably should to support baby, myself and nursing DD. I stepped on the scale this morning to find that i'd lost the 2 lbs I'd gained so far due to a bout of all day nausea Wed-Sat last week and that just fueled the guilt. 

Anyone else in the same boat? 3+ Moms, did your second turn out ok? 

Lucky613

I feel the same way! I think that pregnancy the first time was easier bc i could focus on taking care of myself. This time around, I an focused on caring fory toddler.

salsamommy

Lucky613:

I feel the same way! I think that pregnancy the first time was easier bc i could focus on taking care of myself. This time around, I an focused on caring fory toddler.

Definitely Feeling This!!!!!!!!! 

July1215

I've been better about taking vitamins this time and my eating habits are about the same. I am still working on improving drinking more water since my doctor told me I need to be drinking 10-12 bottles of water.

The thing I am slacking with is bump pics and just thinking about the new baby in general. I am so busy with DD, I don't think about this new one much. I think that will change once I can feel baby moving.  

vstevens

Initially, I definitely felt the same way - at our 9 week appointment, the printer on the ultrasound machine wasn't working, and our OB encouraged me to take a picture with my phone - I was like "Meh, it's fine, you can't see much anyway", and which point I realized how awful that was and took the picture.

However, after the abnormal NT scan and all the testing and waiting, I have an entirely different outlook - every ultrasound we get printed photos, I've already started looking for a cute take home outfit to have something positive to focus on, etc.  A healthy baby is truly a miracle that I never really totally appreciated, and I am trying to turn our awful experience into a positive by reminding myself of that!

Jen4033

I have totally been feeling this way. I think it is moreso food aversions for me right now, but with DS I was always making sure I ate plenty of fruits & veggies, & lots of water. This time around, I am honestly a terrible eater & forget my vitamin frequently. I honestly think that besides being so tired, I am just so busy taking care of everyone else, I forget to take care of me... definition of "mom?"

hurricane1212

I sometimes forget that I'm pregnant. I feel bad, but its normal with your second pregnancy. I have a very active two year old that keeps me occupied 24/7. I don't have any time for myself and unfortunately that includes this baby in my belly right now.

QuintonsMummah

ANDYLEAH:

Lucky613:

I feel the same way! I think that pregnancy the first time was easier bc i could focus on taking care of myself. This time around, I an focused on caring fory toddler.

Definitely Feeling This!!!!!!!!! 

 

All of this..except I am now running after a toddler and infant...can't wait to see how #3 turns out! haha 

SJ&Beanie810

ANDYLEAH:

Lucky613:

I feel the same way! I think that pregnancy the first time was easier bc i could focus on taking care of myself. This time around, I an focused on caring fory toddler.

Definitely Feeling This!!!!!!!!! 

100 this! I was actually just saying this my husband last night. I definitely feel like I'm slacking this time around...

mrsjenni

Pfft, this is baby #4. I have spares.

I kid.  This is completely normal.  I had to set a reminder on my phone to take my vitamins b/c I forget on the daily.  I can barely remember that I'm even PG and if I didn't have this huge belleh, I'd probably forget altogether. No worries mama... they'll turn out just fine  

sugarland726

I'm just feeling so much more interested in DD than I am the new baby. When pregnant with her, I was so focused all the time on the pregnancy. Not the same with this one.

Karenin

I agree!  I take all my vitamins but food has not been great so far- last time I had no m/s though so it was easier to be regimented. on July 4 I was so nauseous that literally all I could eat was potato chips for the day. My family laughed because I am usually the health food nut!

alliejoe

I feel like I'm slacking big time.  I'm, for the most part, remembering to take my vitamins but I am working this summer and have so much going on that that's about all I'm remembering (thus my absence on here!).  This babe has me so nauseous I've lost 10lbs   I was nauseous last time, and barely gained anything- but I didn't loose anything....

 

jhunter89

mrs.jenni:

Pfft, this is baby #4. I have spares.

I kid.  This is completely normal.  I had to set a reminder on my phone to take my vitamins b/c I forget on the daily.  I can barely remember that I'm even PG and if I didn't have this huge belleh, I'd probably forget altogether. No worries mama... they'll turn out just fine  

Love. Good to know that even if this one turns out to be a couple fries short of a happy meal, there's always the next one! I kid, I kid, but seriously, I think this is the first of many lessons in the stm+ mantra of "Ehh, they'll be fiiiiine!" 

rowanthefrog

lol, I'm a third timer and I've been forgetting to take my pnvs, eating lunch meat, etc. so slack. lol. my second turned out just fine. I guess it remains to be seen if this one has 2 heads. lol

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ksonne

I think I'm also a lot more relaxed this pregnancy. I tried to avoid all the pregnancy no-nos last time (and this time), and DS turned out great if I say so myself. So I'm just a lot less stressed this time. Plus, like pp mentioned, there's just not as much time to focus on myself when I'm busy chasing after DS (and cleaning up after DS too).

insertclevername

This post reminded me to take my PNV, so thanks!  I was the cliche FTM and am now the cliche STM.  The first time I was all sanctimommy/idealist/purist.  I didn't drink caffeine, I wouldn't take any medications including approved medications, I followed all of the food guidelines and was going to EBF, cloth diaper, etc., etc.  This time around I am so much more relaxed and go with the flow.  I do forget to take my PNVs sometimes, I eat everything in moderation and I often forget that I am even pregnant.  I don't feel like I am cheating the new LO though.