life change-rant

topofthepeek

Ok I know having a baby is going to bring a big life style change for me and my hubby, but some family members of DH are acting like we are going to be locked in our house not doing anything. Last night they asked us if we weren't going to use our BBQ anymore, that they would take it. I don't even know where that came from? I mean we use our BBQ all summer, and we spent a lot of $ on it so it would last us for ever. Do they assume we will stop because we are having a baby? And it didnt dawn on me then, but my SIL asked if I was going to get rid of my mountain bike because she would like to get one for her son. When the baby comes, I don't plan on hitting the trails but I will probably get one of those little carrier things, attach it to my mountain bike and still go ride the beach with the baby. Sorry I may be over-reacting but it just bothers me that people want my stuff. Its one thing for me to say "hey when the baby comes, I am probably not going to use _______ anymore" and maybe offer it to someone.  

blondolphn

Haha I love how everyone is trying to claim your stuff, like your dead. You may not use it right away, but there is no reason for you to toss everything unless it has an expiration date or costs a lot of money to maintain. I have old scuba equipment that i may get rid of because we will need some new stuff soon anyways. But other than that, I"d get an electric fly swatter and start swatting their grubby hands.

cole89

You're not over reacting at all. I'd be frustrated and irritated about that too. Some family members really know how to work your last nerve and they don't always think before they speak smh. I completely understand where you're coming from.

HFrizzle

Honestly, this is what I feel like saying about these "baby moon" trips. Do you really think you are never going to have alone time again? Why waste the money?? Maybe is the Scrooge in me, but what's the point?

blondolphn

HFrizzle:

Honestly, this is what I feel like saying about these "baby moon" trips. Do you really think you are never going to have alone time again? Why waste the money?? Maybe is the Scrooge in me, but what's the point?

My hubby and I are talking about doing a "babymoon" at a local hotel because we want to soak in a jacuzzi tub. really, if I could just rent a private tub for an afternoon I'd be a happy camper. But yeah, I don't get it. Babymoon's are hit or miss as to how well you are feeling and what you can do. I'd rather be at home miserable than somewhere pretty and miserable. 

huntjul

blondolphn:

Haha I love how everyone is trying to claim your stuff, like your dead... But other than that, I"d get an electric fly swatter and start swatting their grubby hands.

We have one of those swatters.  I think it probably would work better for PP's suggestion than for actually swatting Mosquitos like we bought it for.

Autocorrect, why are you capitalizing Mosquitos??

MySunshine213

LOL that's so crazy.  Like someone else said, you're having a baby, not dying! 

topofthepeek

I may take you up on that idea for the electric flyswatter thing. That was funny

norbert5

I would be so irritated!

I would start offering them up completely uselessly crap that you were going to throw out.  "Hey, I have this semi-working microwave we aren't going to use when the baby comes.  Do you want it?" 

My MIL did that to us before DD1 arrived.  She thought we would immediately get rid of our tent and buy a trailer.  So she actually offered up our tent to her friend's kids and then asked us for it.  We had to politely tell her we were keeping it and that she would have to tell her friend's kids it was not something they could have.  She was mad at us and told us she was embarrassed.  WHAT?!?  Then stop trying to give away OUR stuff. 

pandaglitter

You guys have some crazies trying to claim your things!!! I agree about offering them useless things. "Hey can we have your TV because you're obviously not going to ever have time to watch TV again?" "No, but you can have this bag of hot garbage juice I found on the side of the street."

My MIL does constantly say things like "your husband better enjoy hanging out with his friends now because he's not going to after the baby comes." And I just side eye her. It isn't like I am going to chain my husband to the house when he's not working. I'm going to need more help and ask him to stay out for shorter amounts of time if I'm overwhelmed, but shiz...we still need time to ourselves.

finnybooboo

pandaglitter:

You guys have some crazies trying to claim your things!!! I agree about offering them useless things. "Hey can we have your TV because you're obviously not going to ever have time to watch TV again?" "No, but you can have this bag of hot garbage juice I found on the side of the street." My MIL does constantly say things like "your husband better enjoy hanging out with his friends now because he's not going to after the baby comes." And I just side eye her. It isn't like I am going to chain my husband to the house when he's not working. I'm going to need more help and ask him to stay out for shorter amounts of time if I'm overwhelmed, but shiz...we still need time to ourselves.

This. My BIL is worthless and never helped (nor does he really now) when my nephews were born. She couldn't do anything or go anywhere by herself because he refused to watch the kids by himself. My husband has told me many times that whenever I need a break or want to go out with some friends to just let him know and he'll be all over it. My family just doesn't get this idea and constantly tell me "how it's going to be". Psshh.

sfshorter

HFrizzle:

Honestly, this is what I feel like saying about these "baby moon" trips. Do you really think you are never going to have alone time again? Why waste the money?? Maybe is the Scrooge in me, but what's the point?

I think the point is to get away from work/stress/home with just you and your fi/DH/bf and spend quality time together before a new LO enters your life. I think people get so wrapped up in prepping for baby that they forget to relax and enjoy the person you are making a baby with. Plus I like any excuse to be lazy and lay in bed with DH all day, eat good food, or sit on the beach.

bkeane619

HFrizzle:

Honestly, this is what I feel like saying about these "baby moon" trips. Do you really think you are never going to have alone time again? Why waste the money?? Maybe is the Scrooge in me, but what's the point?

Our baby moon was almost 3 years ago and yes it was the last time we went away.

pandaglitter

finnybooboo:

pandaglitter:

You guys have some crazies trying to claim your things!!! I agree about offering them useless things. "Hey can we have your TV because you're obviously not going to ever have time to watch TV again?" "No, but you can have this bag of hot garbage juice I found on the side of the street." My MIL does constantly say things like "your husband better enjoy hanging out with his friends now because he's not going to after the baby comes." And I just side eye her. It isn't like I am going to chain my husband to the house when he's not working. I'm going to need more help and ask him to stay out for shorter amounts of time if I'm overwhelmed, but shiz...we still need time to ourselves.

This. My BIL is worthless and never helped (nor does he really now) when my nephews were born. She couldn't do anything or go anywhere by herself because he refused to watch the kids by himself. My husband has told me many times that whenever I need a break or want to go out with some friends to just let him know and he'll be all over it. My family just doesn't get this idea and constantly tell me "how it's going to be". Psshh.

I would be PISSED if my husband refused to watch the kids...luckily, he was a full time single dad for a time, so I know he's fully capable of taking care of children. Which is honestly a good part of what attracted me to him. I can't stand parents that are incapable of taking care of their kids. 

Brumm

I think people think babies shouldn't be out in public. I took DD everywhere with me and she does great at restaurants and stores and loves being out and about. I had friends who wouldn't take their kids out of the house because they were nervous how the baby would behave. They regret that now at least from what they've told me. Don't listen to anyone else, do what is comfortable for you. The baby will love a bike ride! It is soothing!