What NOT to say when you find out someone's pregnant...

lexiek05

My MIL: "Well you two didn't waste any time... And please don't ask me to babysit"

G-ma: "I am so glad you are pregnant, because otherwise I was going to tell you that it's time to go on a diet, because you are putting on some weight!"

 What about you ladies?  Has anyone had a reaction that literally made you speechless?

Peepp79

I'm sorry you have to deal with that. I've only told my sister and she was just more excited bc she knew first...ummm ok.

Kristinfm

My SIL was so happy/excited when we told her and seemed so supportive, then said, "I really hope it's a boy.  You know everyone will be so disappointed if it's a girl".  WTF?!?!

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lmills730

My MIL said: Well I hope you two are ready for this (we've been together for 7 years) because I'm certainly not.

Cewilliams207554

GMIL But y'all don't have enough money...

Umm, she don't see our bank statements!

mamezcua9015

SIL:"what did I miss? Oh, I already knew that. I could tell, but congrats!"

LimeDrops

My MIL was literally convinced we were joking. For like 30mins. 

Other than that, we just get a lot of "wow!" And "you'll be busy!" 

 

sugarland726

Good gravy. You gals have some wretched people in your lives.

My sister just snarked that I told my parents a month before I told her. But she's come around now.

MiaMyPuggle

My mom: "so, you still think it's another boy?"
Me: "yes"
Mom: "well, good for you"
She swears it's a girl bc this is nothing like my pregnancy with my son. She wants a granddaughter like my IL's do bc its only boys so far.
My friends also told me they could completely tell before I told them. Waaaa.

lexiek05

sugarland726:

Good gravy. You gals have some wretched people in your lives.

My sister just snarked that I told my parents a month before I told her. But she's come around now.

They are rude, but not quite wretched, LOL.  I love them, I am just amazed at how they seem to have NO filter!

cpm1223

sugarland726:

Good gravy. You gals have some wretched people in your lives.

My sister just snarked that I told my parents a month before I told her. But she's come around now.

I was thinking the same thing!! If anyone said any of these things to me I would flip the eff out...especially if it was my own family!

 

FormerlyKrista555

My mom:  "Oh no."  wtfrick?

A facebook acquaintance:  "Good luck with that."

Another facebooker: "Oh."   in response to our announcement.  No congratulations...just "oh". 

I could see if my husband and I were broke or didn't take care of our children,  but we have a great marriage, do fine financially, and are good parents.  People just think it's somehow "wrong" that we are having our 3rd in under 4 years.  It's annoying.

Peepp79

sugarland726:

Good gravy. You gals have some wretched people in your lives.

My sister just snarked that I told my parents a month before I told her. But she's come around now.

We must have the same sister. She pulled that crap with me last time hence why I just told her first this time just so I didn't have to deal with it.

Peepp79

FormerlyKrista555:

My mom:  "Oh no."  wtfrick?

A facebook acquaintance:  "Good luck with that."

Another facebooker: "Oh."   in response to our announcement.  No congratulations...just "oh". 

I could see if my husband and I were broke or didn't take care of our children,  but we have a great marriage, do fine financially, and are good parents.  People just think it's somehow "wrong" that we are having our 3rd in under 4 years.  It's annoying.

Stuff like this always makes me feel bad for my mother. She had 4 kids and I think she got some grief after the first two. She had a girl and a boy already and my aunt said that she already had the perfect family...real nice. I totally agree with you saying if someone didn't have the financial means or didn't take care of their kids then they would get a side eye from me. But if you are a stable family, congrats to you.

Shannahbee

I got "was this planned?" from both my parents and my inlaws!
We've been together for 7 years, married for two, both of us have university degrees, great jobs and make good money. We waited until after we bought our first home and renovated it... And we're in our late twenties. What would make you think this was unplanned? And if it wasn't... Isn't that kind of a personal question?

Vera81

FormerlyKrista555:

My mom:  "Oh no."  wtfrick?

A facebook acquaintance:  "Good luck with that."

Another facebooker: "Oh."   in response to our announcement.  No congratulations...just "oh". 

I could see if my husband and I were broke or didn't take care of our children,  but we have a great marriage, do fine financially, and are good parents.  People just think it's somehow "wrong" that we are having our 3rd in under 4 years.  It's annoying.

 

You will do great and have so much fun. I had 3u3 and this will be 4, 5 and under. It keeps you busy but soon they will all be old enough to help out too. You can do this.  

cja06

My mom: "Well, I'm just not going to say anything this time."

(I think what she was referring to was my last pregnancy which I told the family about only to m/c. When I told her that pregnancy she immediately said, "It better be a girl this time!"

My mom and I aren't really close. That gives you a glimpse into why.

OSUWifey09

Yikes. I'm sorry, OP - their reactions suck [obviously].

When I told my mom, she said, "I already figured you were pregnant. You and your husband work fast. We all know you do it all the time anyway."

I wasn't mad - just totally mortified. 

peanutmuse

When asked if she'd like to be a grandmother again, my MIL said, "why, are you guys adopting?"

Knowing about our 18 month struggle and miscarriage, I'd say that was just about the least sensitive thing she could have said. 

 

peanutmuse

mamezcua9015:

SIL:"what did I miss? Oh, I already knew that. I could tell, but congrats!"

Is this the awkward reaction you were referring to in your thread about your in-laws? For some reason, I imagined it much, much worse.

chelle_chelle5487@hotmail.com

No one really "said" anything, everyone was pretty excited. I do feel like this time around everyone wasn't as super excited. I mean they were but it was like a been there done that excitement. This sounds worse than it really was.

The only thing that had me speechless was my husband's grandma came up to me in front of his whole family and patted my belly and asked if there was something I had to share. Keep in mind this was before we got to tell everyone. (We had DD in a cute shirt but waiting for her to get up from her nap) Kind of felt like our thunder was taken. 

MissMandyD

My brother when we told him we were expecting twins "Congratulations...glad it isn't us!"

mamezcua9015

peanut+muse:

mamezcua9015:

SIL:"what did I miss? Oh, I already knew that. I could tell, but congrats!"

Is this the awkward reaction you were referring to in your thread about your in-laws? For some reason, I imagined it much, much worse.

No, that's just one reaction.

rowanthefrog

"Was it planned?"

*rolls eyes*

Yes, it was, TYVM and even if it wasn't why does it matter?

I think its a third baby thing. People are (usually) excited about your first. Everyone expects you to have a second. But if you are pregnant with your third people think you are nuts.

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alinafed

peanutmuse:

When asked if she'd like to be a grandmother again, my MIL said, "why, are you guys adopting?"Knowing about our 18 month struggle and miscarriage, I'd say that was just about the least sensitive thing she could have said.nbsp;nbsp;

Wow to me this is by far the worst one.

Kismc

I'm glad I don't seem to be the only one that got "was this planned?!!"
WTF people! I would never ask anyone that! Being married and in my 30's doesn't warrant that question IMO...but even if these weren't the case, it's an awfully rude thing to ask.

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CanadianGamerMom

My SIL just said "oh yeah, I figured you were!"

I was a little disappointed with her reaction, and the fact that my brother left right before my dad opened the fathers day card that announced it (left without saying anything, so we didn't know). She seems excited now though. 

LabPupLuv

NOOooooooo they didn't! MIL sounds awful! 

starcrossedlovers19

My FIL said "uh oh" my hubby said uhm dad it's a good thing. FIL responded "well good luck with that"

lrsb11

when I told a friend DD was going to be a big sister her response was "really? we've been off BC for months now, still nothing." ....thanks for the congrats?

KaloramaKB

My co-worker said "Yeah, good luck with that" when I told her we were having twins. No congratulations or anything. And she has two kids already that she seems to adore, so it is not like she isn't a kid person. I still can't figure out why she was so snarky.

My in-laws were incredibly underwelmed too but I am trying not to let it hurt my feelings but it is hard. 

irwinkle

Before I told anyone, a coworker said "did you stop working out" while staring at my blump. She used to always tell me how skinny I was and I used to like her. Lol!!

jennyfulton

My sister told me to relax and not be so excited because a lot of babies die. Ummmmm....what?!?! I could have smacked her. But I usually want to smack her.

Cara1024

I mentioned this once before but I'm still a bit miffed by this one:

DH's aunt said, in front of our entire family, "Did this just happen or did you have to do fertility things?"

 

Cara1024

jfulton1:

My sister told me to relax and not be so excited because a lot of babies die. Ummmmm....what?!?! I could have smacked her. But I usually want to smack her.

OMG that is awful. 

alinafed

Cara1024:

I mentioned this once before but I'm still a bit miffed by this one: DH's aunt said, in front of our entire family, "Did this just happen or did you have to do fertility things?" nbsp;

Perfect time for an equally ridiculous answer like "yes we did voodoo and called a village shaman"

lotar

With DD my dad told me he wished I had been aborted. I was too young but jeez! No one had anything rude to say this time around though :

tedilynn

My SIL said, "Who's the father?"  She's kind of a sarcastic bitty. We also got a few, I take it to wasn't planned comments, but nothing like some of you poor ladies! 

jeblackwell85

SIL says oh you get to have 9 months of fat girl problems and btw my brother is not ready to be a daddy and also tells her 3 year old daughter that she is not going to be his baby anymore and proceeds to make her cry about the whole situation. 

lolinshag

OSUWifey09:

, "I already figured you were pregnant. You and your husband work fast. We all know you do it all the time anyway."

Best quote ever! I can't stop laughing!!!