DH says no...uh what?!

rachelky

My "D"H is flat out refusing to participate in the whole cloth diapering thing! The only "reason" he even gave against cd-ing is that it would be "too much work." Uh, did I miss something?! What work would you even be doing?! Do you do the laundry? Would you even be changing that many diapers? And what's the difference between throwing a sposie in a pail vs. a cd??? Nothing! Plus it would save us $$$! Has anyone else dealt with a difficult DH? He's being so stubborn! Any advice on how to get through to him is greatly appreciated!

PipSqueak0313

My dh logic was great. Try it for a month if it does not work then switch to sposies and we would not have spent any more money on the cd as we would have if bought sposies.

I was on fence with cd while pg and dh had no experience either way. So we tried it and we are loving it.

tokenhoser

I think this is actually in the FAQ (upper right on the main cloth board).

My stance is that if you're doing it, do what you want. If he really doesn't want to, then he can go buy disposables and use them when he wants to. You're not obligated to do what he wants any more than he is obligated to do what you want, as long as your baby is cared for and safe.

TREDgirl

Once I found a really good price comparison of the money we'd save and we went to the store and actually investigated an all in one my DH was on board. 

ABColeslaw

What type of cloth are you planning on using?  I know for me, I'd love to use just fitteds with covers, but the money wise person I am will probably go for a few prefolds just to fill in the stash...even though I know I'm going to suck at it.  I will have to have a healthy amount of AIOs or AI2s for my H though, I'm not sure he'd be able to jump right into a two or three step process. 

If I'm real though, he only changes when I'm out and it is just him.  How often would your H really be changing.  Maybe you could offer a handful of AIOs to get him on board and tell him literally to throw them in the pail...without even spraying.  

Angela814

Does he know what the new cloth diapers look like? I told DH that I wanted to try CDing this time, and his response was not all that enthusiastic. I showed him a video on youtube with a review of some Bum Genius pocket diapers, and he was like, I thought you meant the kind our parents used when we were kids. Umm... no. I'm not even willing to do that. Show him what they look like. I think it's hard to understand without the visuals.

Aurora_Borealis

You've gotten some good advice already, but you are right in thinking your choice of diaper will have pretty much zero impact on YH. Many first time non-SAH dads highly overestimate how much diaper changing they will be doing. They also tend to underestimate how much disposables cost, especially the first 3 months.

Maybe figure out how much it would cost to use sposies the first couple of months (12-15 diapers per DAY) versus the cost of a newborn stash (30 prefolds and 5 covers - don't count wetbags because if you do sposies you'll want a Diaper Genie to keep the stink down) and go from there. Plus if you have another child that child will be diapered for free.

ETA: I just saw your post below that you do not have a washer and dryer. IMO, that changes the conversation entirely. There is no way I would do cloth if I didn't have in-unit laundry unless I bought a portable machine or subscribed to a service. The time, hassle and extra expense (diapers need essentially 2 cycles per wash) would in no way be worth it.

starlightstef

My DH was nervous about it until we took a CD class at a local boutique.  When he realized it wasn't all that difficult, he was on board.  (The $$$ savings helped a lot too!)

dragossoul84

DH thinking it was going to be too hard was why I didnt start until recently I was sick after my pregnancy and had a longer recoup time and he refused to try it once he got the swing of being a Dad I brought it up again and we are all in now. I'd buy one or two diapers to start and show him how easy it is

amandaleigh1

MH was sort of against it at first bc of it being too much work. I think he envisioned me spending all my free time cleaning diapers. He suggested doing a service instead.

Well, I started CDing with BG 4.0 that I had been given as gifts. I told him that we could do a trial period to see how it goes. It went well. Now he likes to tell people how great cloth diapers are because they have worked out so well for us.

robyn2201

DH was anti CD's for a very long time. He is essentially a SAHD and I was finally able to convince him after several months of going on about CD's, to do part time cloth on DD1, when I was home from work. We did that for a year and half until she was PT'd. Looking back I probably should have pushed for him to do it full time.

When expecting DD2, I told him that she was going to be in them full time and he didn't have a choice. I told him it was too expensive to use disposables, that I would buy easy ones for him to use, and that I would do all the laundry. He huffed and puffed a little. He never said no, because he knew that there wasn't a good reason not to use them.

I think he still prefers disposables, but he realizes now why we do it. We recently had to buy a pack of disposables and he complained about how expensive they were. I secretly cheered inside.  

DiannaVB

Telling my DH that it was really important to me was enough to get him to agree. However, I am also willing to give in on things that are really important to him.

LEMSA

I told husband that if he wanted disposables, he has to pay for them. We'll see how that works. Not due till Aug but I catch him checking out the prices at the store. He hasn't had to buy a single CD, so if he's smart he'll save his and go with me on this one.

littleredfish

My DH never said "no" but he admitted to me after that he just never really planned to "deal with the poo". He was going to change diapers only when he had to, and never wash or spray them ever. Once we got going he found out that he really liked it and tells his friends about how great it is. He's even good at prefolds.

KMR5611

We started out with sposies.. We switched because my dd was pooping on my husband all the time (even in his pocket once.. Not sure how).  We switched for my sanity but he wants nothing to do with cloth so I do all changes unless he finds a hidden sposie for emergencies.

MrsAB1316

We didn't start CDing until about 7 months because DH didn't want to. Well after 7 months of me changing every poppy diaper and the vast majority of wet dipes, I made the switch. DH still isn't a fan of changing diapers but when I have to put DS in a sposie, DH gets bummed and asks when he can go back in cloth. He likes the fluffy butt.

Girl031813

First couple of weeks DH would change a CD and put a sposie on her. I never said anything, just went about my business and put cloth on her the next time I changed her. It bugged the crap out of me, but after about 2 weeks of it, he started using cloth, and he's liking them! I just tried to be consistent with my routine and not start a fight about it.