STM...baby in your room...how long?

alijeff2313

STMs...

Personally, I don't believe in cosleeping (just my opinion, not judging). We plan on keeping the baby in our room in her pack n play. I am just curious as to how long you kept your baby in your room. When did you transfer them into their crib?

kcox123

We do start with baby in there. I think it has typically last anywhere from 3-4 months for each baby but we don't go into it with any specific guidelines/plans. OUr kids rooms are upstairs (ours is on mian level) so I prefer baby be down to 2-3 waking per night before making myself have to trudge up the stairs 5 times a night for feedings/whatnot.

Cristine

Generally, it's about 4 months or so until he outgrows the bassinet. I'm a light sleeper so it's better for me if he's down the hall, but I'm too paranoid to move him any earlier.

sugarellie

I kept DS with me until he was 13 weeks or so. He probably could have been transferred sooner but he was still waking sometimes to feed once at night and I liked for peace of mind having him right there.. 

ordinary1

alijeff2313:

STMs...
Personally, I don't believe in cosleeping just my opinion, not judging. We plan on keeping the baby in our room in her pack n play. I am just curious as to how long you kept your baby in your room. When did you transfer them into their crib?

If you don't believe in co sleeping, your baby should be in the crib in their room from day 1.

CupcakeGirl08

We kept our son in his pack n play in our room until about 3 months.  Then we transitioned him to his crib.  The transition was pretty easy and he didn't seem to have any issues with it.

RedDDD

My son was in our room in the RnP until he was 4 months.  This time I will probably wait until we have some semblance of a sleep pattern since our kids will share a room (we only have two bedrooms upstairs the rest are basement level)  So we will see.  I generally dislike having the baby in my room.  I don't sleep well when they are there so the quicker the move the better. 

barnwife

Actually, having baby in your room is cosleeping. Having baby sleep in your bed is bedsharing. So if baby is in a pack n play in your room, you are cosleeping.

That being said, Many people transition at 12 or 16 weeks. 

We bedshare much longer than that. At 15 months, A. still bedshares some nights. And when she isn't bedsharing, her bed is in our room.

We will need to transition to her new room soon due to LO3 arriving in Sept. 

abell77

Baby was in our room for the first 2-3 months.

blondii428

I'm a FTM but I've heard that around 4-5 months is when they start getting into a sleep schedule.  Since he will be sharing a room with my 5yo SD, we plan on keeping him in a pack n play until around this time so that her sleep isn't too disrupted.

luvmyducks

I was expecting 6m bc her nursery was on a different floor and far away. I made it 3m. She was a light sleeper and would wake when we made any noise and I would wake up with every tiny grunt.

Megroons

I didn't believe in bedsharing either. Then I had a child. Your opinions will change...

DS slept in our room, in his own PNP until 3 weeks then I couldn't take it anymore. Newborns are noisy. Our next one will be in their own room at day one.

headgear03

We don't bed share either. I can't stand it . Our oldest stayed in our room till she was about four months in her pack and play we had no issues getting her to sleep in her crib . My second slept in our room in a bouncer for the first few weeks then she decided the only thing she could sleep in was her swing which was in her room . She slept in the swing till she was close to six months before we started the very long process of getting her to sleep In her crib . She had reflux issues though and hated sleeping flat. My third slept in our room in his rock and play for about a month then slept in his room in his swing for another month before swing broke and we had to move him to his crib he had no issues transferring . This baby will be in our room in her swing then maybe her pack and play we will see . She will not have her own room or crib so I'm not sure how long she'll actually be in the room with us .

rachelky

barnwife:

Actually, having baby in your room is cosleeping. Having baby sleep in your bed is bedsharing. So if baby is in a pack n play in your room, you are cosleeping.

That being said, Many people transition at 12 or 16 weeks. 

We bedshare much longer than that. At 15 months, A. still bedshares some nights. And when she isn't bedsharing, her bed is in our room.

We will need to transition to her new room soon due to LO3 arriving in Sept. 

Just curious...what size bed do you have?

barnwife

rachelky:

Just curious...what size bed do you have?

Not big enough! It's a queen. It actually was fine until recently. But keep in mind that DH and I sleep close together. I know lots of couples prefer more space. But when it's just DH and I the queen size is more than sufficient.

Now with DH, myself heading into third trimester, and sometimes a very large toddler? Not big enough. 

BelhurstBride

Megroons:

I didn't believe in bedsharing either. Then I had a child. Your opinions will change...

Ditto this, man! By 3 months old it was very clear that the only way any of us were getting any sleep was if we just let DD sleep in our bed. EVERYONE was happier that way. CPS should be called on anyone letting a 3 month old CIO and sheer exhaustion will make you see bedsharing in a new, more positive light. 

From 3-6 months she slept only in our bed at night, naps in her crib.

From 6-8 or 9 months she decided she'd rather sleep in her swing... so there she went. About halfway through the night she usually ended up in our bed.

From 9 months until about 3 months ago she started the night in her room before eventually making it into ours.

3 months ago she decided she preferred her big girl room and started sleeping through the night, in her own bed, by herself.

So in my experience? About 3 years before she finally quit sleeping in my bed.  

CutieBean79

DD was in her rock and play for about 2 months, but her crib was also in our room for the first year so she didn't go far.  With this one, we will keep her in the rock and play until we feel comfortable moving her to her room and hopefully she is sleeping for longer stretches.  I'm thinking around 6-8 months.  We can move her to the pack and play if she stays in our room that long.

Kate621

He was in our room for one night and then moved to his crib. Not sure what we'll do with this one. It depends on if I'm nursing.

thegoodpotato

For me it was only two or three days until I regained my strength.  We knew we wanted the baby to sleep in the crib right from the get-go, so we didn't invest in a basinette or anything else.  I've mentioned this before, but our first slept on my nightstand in a laundry basket for the first three days, then was in her crib after that.

I just can't get into the rooming-in thing (also no judging - it's just not for us), and I found every little snuffle or snort really disturbing to what little sleep I was getting... along with feeling the need to wake up and check to see if baby was breathing every half hour or so. For some reason I was far more relaxed with baby in her own room in the crib.

SarahinMD

STM but will be first time with baby in our room. DD slept in crib in her room from day 1. Would prefer that again, but they will share a room. Plan is to switch when LO is sleeping through most of night. With DD that was around 6 weeks, but we're planning for maybe 3 months or so, but we'll see. 

Lovehavinggirls

I think around 10 weeks dd was a very loud sleeper so I was not getting any sleep between her and dh.

alijeff2313

ordinary1:

alijeff2313:

STMs... Personally, I don't believe in cosleeping just my opinion, not judging. We plan on keeping the baby in our room in her pack n play. I am just curious as to how long you kept your baby in your room. When did you transfer them into their crib?

If you don't believe in co sleeping, your baby should be in the crib in their room from day 1.

let me rephrase...i don't believe in the baby sleeping in bed with us.  

ghostof5letters

Immediately into the crib. 

Creedon778

We did PnP for 3 to 4 months and them put him in the nursery crib. We plan to do the same this time around.

EMunion777

Daughter was in bassinet in our room for only the first month. I had her in the room only because pediatrician wanted me to wake her for feedings to get her wait up. Once she was on track and I didn't have to wake her anymore we put her in her own crib in her own room down the hall. I got lucky and she slept through the night most nights. I have a feeling things will be different with this little one. lol.

But even if I don't have to wake him up, I think i'm still going to have him in the bassinet the first month in our room. Makes me feel more comfortable since i'll be waking and checking on him so often. Plus I want my daughter to still have that room to herself at night for a bit until she gets used to him since they'll be sharing a room.

A37licia

Our kids last about 3 weeks and then they're too noisy for me, and they keep me up. By then, we're in a groove and are understanding their wakeups, so twice now, that's about when they've gone to another room. It's worked for us. 

I'm personally not comfortable bed sharing long term - DD slept with us for the first two weeks because she wouldn't sleep otherwise, and it wasn't something I wanted to do longer. Maybe if we had a king bed. 

BabyCampbell312

We had a pack and play next to the bed with DD1. She was sleeping through the night around 6-8 weeks and her doctor said to just let her sleep and only feed her if she were to wake up. So around 8 weeks we moved her to her crib. 

Since DD1 will be about 18 months when DD2 is born, we might end up keeping DD2 with us for maybe 3 months before we move DD1 to a bog girl bed.

One thing we did that I think was helpful with the transition.... when it was close to time for us to make the switch, we started to put the pack n play further away from us so she wouldn't smell me as easily. 

BrideMay2005

I think we kept DS in our room until he slept through most of the night. 

jebrmbbeb

4 and a half months. I just felt like it was time but honestly could have kept her in there longer with me.

laurakaz13

Our LO was in her crib from day 1.  She slept through the night by 3 months.  She was breastfed, but I didn't mind getting up and had no problem pumping so DH could do some night feedings. 

We just cannot sleep with a baby in our room.  Next kid will be the same situation. 

vintageutopia

I think it was between 3-4 months with both kids. Then, around 2-3yo they would have nightmares and crawl into our bed. My daughter rarely did it and slept like a log, however my DS was in our bed at least 4 out of 7 nights per week for almost 2 years. DH and I said that we would never turn away a child if they needed our comfort.

 At 6yo and 8yo, they sleep just fine on their own.