My 14 year old son has been at his grandmothers all week. I had to call him Monday to tell him the baby died. He found out I was pregnant on vacation by accident and didn't handle it well at first. He actually begged me to not have the baby. He told me he prayed to God that I would lose the baby. The next day he apologized and got really excited about having a sibling and talked about it for day's.
I lost the baby before his outburst but didn't know it yet so I know in his mind he is probably struggling. Hes very quiet about his feeling so I'm not sure when I see him if he says anything and not sure what I need to say. He's sent me text all week asking how I was feeling.
Im just nervous seeing him and that I can remain strong if he says anything. I don't want him holding this over his head that he got what he wanted. He was just being a 14 yr old freaking out that his mom was pregnant.
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Oh, pinto. I'm so sorry; you have had so much to deal with of late.
I don't have teenagers, so I don't really know how to advise. I just wanted to wish you the best of luck. I hope you and your family find healing soon.
He's such a sweet child not sure what I did to deserve him. He didn't feel responsible. He wanted to know if I was going to try again to have another baby. He was curious as to how the whole process worked and just wanted to make sure I was ok. I had a little tear talking to him but he made me feel so much better.
He's now mowing the yard for us since he knows I can't and my husband, his step dad, has been working. He told me to just rest he would handle everything. I love that boy!!!!
I keep telling myself I had my last mc 5 months before I got pregnant with him. I miss that baby I lost but I wouldn't have him if I didn't lose it. Sometimes we just don't know what is in store for us.