Nothing but a Vent

Mango79

Arg....

I want to start by saying that I realize how lucky I am to have 2 beautiful boys.  I know how hard it can be for some people to even get one.  That being said, I was fortunate and got pregnant very easily the first 2 times.  It just doesn't seem to be happening for #3.  It's frustrating to keep getting those BFN every month.  Oh well....keep on trying!

TravelingCouple

Yes it is very frustrating. I hope you get a BFP soon.

NEF12812

I know how you feel. Sometimes when I get frustrated and impatient I look at my son and I say to myself, "I should feel lucky," and I do, but it doesn't stop me from feeling impatient! Trying is the hardest part, but you and I both know it's so worth the effort. Hang in there.

Philleigh

I know it's not a competition and you addressed how lucky you are to have 2 kids.

I also realize that secondary infertility is very real and hard to deal with.

It just really sucks reading about someone getting pregnant easily twice and having a hard time with the third.  I'm getting to the age that I would be thrilled to just get one.  I've been trying for a year and will be seeking treatment at the end of the summer if we haven't had any luck.

Your post made me sad.  I'm sure it wasn't your intention but it did.

dragonfly711

Philleigh:

I know it's not a competition and you addressed how lucky you are to have 2 kids.

I also realize that secondary infertility is very real and hard to deal with.

It just really sucks reading about someone getting pregnant easily twice and having a hard time with the third.  I'm getting to the age that I would be thrilled to just get one.  I've been trying for a year and will be seeking treatment at the end of the summer if we haven't had any luck.

Your post made me sad.  I'm sure it wasn't your intention but it did.

I know you did not mean it but your post made me sad too. I got pregnant easy in Dec just to MC in Feb.  Now TTC again. I am 39 so who knows if it will happen for me again.  I would do anything for 1 little one. I wanted kids before 40 and that is not going to happen now.

Mango79

I am so sorry that I've made you feel sad.  As you said, it certainly was not my intention.  I have some women very close to me who have struggled with infertility and I've seen how devastating it can be.  I wish you all the luck in the world this summer.

Philleigh

Mango79:

I am so sorry that I've made you feel sad.  As you said, it certainly was not my intention.  I have some women very close to me who have struggled with infertility and I've seen how devastating it can be.  I wish you all the luck in the world this summer.

Thanks, and I wish you luck as well.  I'm just being overly sensitive but I know that my struggles are no greater than anyone else's.  I'll put my big girl panties back on now

greengirl0909

I can relate to your post- I'm scared as we start TTC this month. We were also lucky to get pregnant easily and I'm fearful how devastating the BFNs will be if it doesn't happen for us as quickly this time.  

I've also been a little torn about trying for a specific gender. I know that nothing is guaranteed, but I've been reading about the different theories. Then I think- don't even monkey around with it! Just hope and pray and try to get a baby!  

dragonfly711

Philleigh:

Mango79:

I am so sorry that I've made you feel sad.  As you said, it certainly was not my intention.  I have some women very close to me who have struggled with infertility and I've seen how devastating it can be.  I wish you all the luck in the world this summer.

Thanks, and I wish you luck as well.  I'm just being overly sensitive but I know that my struggles are no greater than anyone else's.  I'll put my big girl panties back on now

I have been super sensitive as well,  thanks for the luck!!!  A F was here last week so that did does not help.  I am thinking positive though, going on vacation Sunday and should O next week so who knows!!!!  

jenferian

One of the best things my mom has ever told me: pain is pain. I'm very sorry for all those who are struggling and hurting. I firmly God has a plan for each of us and its better to just let Him guide you. For better or worse, there's a reason. I knew a family friend who couldn't conceive after her first so she adopted a daughter; a month after the adoption, she got pregnant. Three beautiful children when she only thought she'd have one. You just never know. Love and peace to all of you.

Philleigh

thekikimonster:

Philleigh:

I know it's not a competition and you addressed how lucky you are to have 2 kids.

I also realize that secondary infertility is very real and hard to deal with.

It just really sucks reading about someone getting pregnant easily twice and having a hard time with the third.  I'm getting to the age that I would be thrilled to just get one.  I've been trying for a year and will be seeking treatment at the end of the summer if we haven't had any luck.

Your post made me sad.  I'm sure it wasn't your intention but it did.

Her current struggle has nothing to do with yours. If someone dealing with secondary infertility makes you sad because they already have kids and you don't, you need to take a step back and learn to deal with things.

You're right, I was a big whiny biitch and I can completely admit when I'm wrong. I was out of line and was just having a shiitty day but that's no reason to downplay someone else's struggles. That was pretty immature of me and I'm sorry.