Inside / outside baby

LorMor

Okay, this tricky to explain, but I'll try: I don't connect my 8 month old baby, Tessa, with the baby I was carrying when I was pregnant. And I never have. Even though she's obviously the same baby.

Maybe it's because I was team green (DH wasn't) so the unborn baby was just a baby with no name or sex, and now she's a little person with an identity. Even when she was being born, the fact that I was no longer pregnant and the fact that I had a baby were two separate concepts to me.

Does anyone else feel anything similar? 

 

pb_bride

Interesting point.  For me, I thought I was going to miss all the kicking and movement in my belly after DS was born.  But nope, didn't miss that at all.  I guess an active outside baby makes me forget all that kicking!

Mrs.G123

Interesting. I very much identify dd with the baby I was pregnant with, and have always found her little body very familiar.

candaceleigh21

I had an extremely hard pregnancy and was miserable so I counted down the days until I could meet my little man. Now, I am guessing that being team green has a lot to do with your predicament. I knew as early as possible that B was a boy. Knowing that gave him an identity to me. I could picture him and think about him so I have no problems like you are mentioning. To be honest though, I didnt really "fall in love with him" for maybe 5 or 6 weeks.

nealbl

I am guessing team green has a lot to do with it.

We found out as soon as we could and had a name ready  for each sex so she had a name at 21 weeks old. I hated being pregnant but very much connected the inside baby to the outside baby.  She looks a lot like what I had imagined but that is bc she looks like her sister and that is what I was picturing. It was weird to me that I knew her so well. In the nursery I knew which baby girl was her without lookling at name tags. I called down to the nursery, once, when she was in there with other babies and I could hear her crying and I knew it was her. I knew her voice. Having a baby is just a werid experience LOL