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Rmccaw13

Hi ladies!
Coming to you with a little dilemma. I will give you a little history on the situation. I am 33 weeks and recently had my baby shower last week. Since my mother found out I was pregnant she has been very stand offish and what I am guessing a little jealous. She chose to travel for almost the first 5 months of my pregnancy and has refused to be part of the babies process incoming into the world this is our first but second grandchild for her, as my brother, the "chosen one" has one and another on the way I have always supported her travelling and being a grandma to my brothers kids as my sister in law as she has no family support and my mom loves to control the situation and I can't be there to help. We were super close up until we got pregnant and did almost everything together.

At our shower, she told the hostess that she would make and bring food, which she didnt, she ended up getting drunk and refused be part of the gift opening an sat outside with her girlfriend, and then preceeded to leave the party without saying good bye. She obviously has some issues going on but I feel that she is being selfish and really not worth my time and effort to react to childish behaviour.

So my question to you is... What do I write in the thank you card? Although she has been stand offish, distant and kind of a beeatch, they have bought a substantial amount of things for the baby and it would be rude not to send a thank you card.
I am of the mindset that spending money does not make you a good grandparent and would like to be diplomatic in the process but not fake and over due it.
Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.

MommyKristin88

Rmccaw13:

So my question to you is... What do I write in the thank you card? Although she has been stand offish, distant and kind of a beeatch, they have bought a substantial amount of things for the baby and it would be rude not to send a thank you card. I am of the mindset that spending money does not make you a good grandparent and would like to be diplomatic in the process but not fake and over due it. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.

I would simply write a card thanking them for what they bought. It doesn't have to be all mushy and sentimental, with mention of them being good grandparents, if you don't want it to be.

IrishPiratess

just a simple/standard thank you card is all that's needed. Don't play into the drama.

Aurora317

Yup, thank her for the gift, but obviously not her behaviour. Something like:

Dear Mom,

Thank you very much for the [crib, stroller, etc.] It's so kind of you to help us stock the nursery as we prepare for LO to arrive. We look forward to him/her using [said item]. Thanks again.

Love,  your daughter

amarissa85

Just a simple thank you would probably suffice.

trudibell

I'd keep it short and sweet.  Maybe mention the specific items she purchased and that you appreciate them or something to that extent, but don't be overly personal.  Pretend like you're writing to a distant relative who was at the shower who you have only met a handful of times.

lovemyminions

Aurora317:

Yup, thank her for the gift, but obviously not her behaviour. Something like:

Dear Mom,

Thank you very much for the [crib, stroller, etc.] It's so kind of you to help us stock the nursery as we prepare for LO to arrive. We look forward to him/her using [said item]. Thanks again.

Love,  your daughter

i agree with this!

 

cbm3228

Agreed.   Just sent a generic thank you card and be done with it!  It's not worth your time or effort to feed into the drama.

leahaustin

I would just keep it simple then. Something along the lines of, "Thank you for being a part of my shower. We are so excited for our little one to join us. We really appreciate your gifts and they will be put into much use...."