Anyone else's DH travel for work?

TUSBride22

Do you feel like it messes with TTC? DH is a pilot, and now we have to try and get his schedule to where he can be home at the right times. One girlfriend whose husband is also a pilot is flying out to where he's overnighting to make it work! Do any of you deal with this?

Mochadoodle

DH is sometimes required to travel (road construction). We've been lucky that he hasn't been on the road much lately. However, I did have to make a trip last fall because he was a few hours away on a deer hunting trip.

Htle07

No! Thank goodness.

However, my husband works 3rd shift, so it does make it a lil difficult. Summers are a little bit better since I am off work which gives us more time.

hollyweenOR

Yeah, my H travels roughly 7-10 days a month for work. We're fortunate that he can mostly pick when he needs to travel, and my cycles are pretty predictable, but it can still be tricky to plan 2 months out, which he sometimes has to do. We've lucked out so far that he only once has cut it really close.

I like the idea of flying to where he is, though! Fun!

mmb248

DH works field service and regularly covers SC, NC, GA and TN.  He's been home a lot lately, but he's usually gone 2-3 nights/week.  In his last position, he traveled nationwide and was gone 3-4 weeks at a time.

It used to mess with TTC, but since he usually isn't gone for more than 2 nights in a row it's no big deal.  If he's out of town during FW then we do it the morning he leaves and the night he comes back.  Even if I O in the middle of that, we hit O-1 and O+1.

ETA:  If he's gone for 4 days or more, I've been known to drive to where he's working and stay in the hotel for a night.

beckynsean11

Mine travels weekly for work. He's heading back out next Monday after 2 months at home. It definitely impacted things as far as timing goes. We thought we'd have the last 2 months to get great timing, but the universe had other plans. We just tried to have sex when he was home. Sperm can survive up to 5 days. Try not to stress about hitting O day exactly. Mine is usually only home on Thursday night- Sunday. Even hitting Friday & Sunday on those weeks, timing was still pretty good. GL!

ETA: If you can get to where he is or he can arrange to be home, that's awesome. For us, me going to him wasn't an option because it wasn't & will not be driving distance. 

TUSBride22

I'm glad I'm not the only one. I try not to stress about it, and we've been lucky, especially that he can pretty much work his schedule around TTC.

Hollyween I know, if I didn't work and had someone who could watch DS, it could be really fun! We used to do that all the time when we were dating I was a flight attendant then.

I have friends whose husbands work for other airlines and commute to Chicago! They are only looking at 10 days off a month, not including travel days which can whittle it down to about 8. Not the best for TTC, that's why I count myself as really lucky.

Bre627Andy224

Yes! My honey is actually away right now. This is my first cycle temping. I haven't had a normal cycle yet off BCP, however, I am showing ovulation signs. AND HE IS AWAY! Won't be back for three more day. Has already been away one. So I'm a little upset about this. I don't think we'll make it in the tww this month. Hopefully ovulation holds off a little longer .... fingers crossed.

Desmo35

Mine does. He was close enough to drive half a day home on the day of IUI, did his thing, and left. This happened for both of our IUIs. :-/ They gave me a two day window of when I was going to do the IUI, so that gave him time to tell his boss and get home. Very fortunate that he works for a company that understands.

TUSBride22

Bre627Andy224:

Yes! My honey is actually away right now. This is my first cycle temping. I haven't had a normal cycle yet off BCP, however, I am showing ovulation signs. AND HE IS AWAY! Won't be back for three more day. Has already been away one. So I'm a little upset about this. I don't think we'll make it in the tww this month. Hopefully ovulation holds off a little longer .... fingers crossed.

Aww. Well, you never know! I hope it's delayed a little bit too. Sucks to lose out on a whole month of TTC or 2! just because of that.

dragossoul84

My husband travels during the day but so far he has always made it home at some point in the night. He has taken more responsibilities for work so that may change soon. Even though he makes it home it does put a damper on our love life when he commutes 7 hours in one day.

this1life

My husband travels fairly frequently domestically and internationally. He has only missed 1 entire fertile week, and I'm not going to lie it made me mental. Flying to meet him really isn't an option, so I mostly just had to change how I thought about it. I'm a worst case scenario thinker by nature, and I really just had to keep repeating to myself, "it's just one cycle". 

It does get in the way though, and it seems to add an element of stress.

Good luck! 

luckyfrgg

Mine travels a TON, but fortunately it's somewhat within his control.  We try our best to avoid having him gone at the "best" TTC times, but we've had a month or two where we couldn't make that happen.

Is your DH a commercial pilot?  Can he take over some local commuter routes that would let him get back most nights for the short term? 

TUSBride22

Luckyfrgg - He is, but he can't pick up smaller trips since they don't have any.  They only fly long legs, mostly trans-continental.  However he can manipulate his schedule to get the days off he wants - he can give away trips he doesn't like or trip-trade to get something better.

Ellewills - That is exactly my outlook.  Some people can't relate whatsoever, and it's hilarious when people ask me where DH is and I'm like, *shrug*. It's best to have that positive attitude, helps a lot.

KenziK

Not TTC yet (next month), but I have a feeling it's going to be difficult. DH is currently in the police academy until September, where he lives Monday-Friday and cannot come home any of those days. Him being gone every week and only having a couple days to try each fertile week is kind of a bummer, but we'll do the best we can and if it doesn't work, we'll put in more effort once he graduates.