Still Birth

lvetter622

I probably shouldn't be worried but I m worried about still birth. I try to do kick count and feel her maybe, maybe once an hour if that. I did have a miscarriage last year at 16 weeks and maybe the fear is coming from that, and the fact that I have had many yeast infections and just took meds for a BV infection. I m going to the doctor today and will express my fears but anyone else out there worried about this?  

JamieWM

Your subject scared the crap out of me!! I have been worried since day one of a loss after a previous early pregnancy miscarriage. It's normal to be scared...just know you are doing the best you can to provide a healthy, safe environment for LO...keep your head up, you aren't alone in the fear category 

lvetter622

JamieWM:

Your subject scared the crap out of me!! I have been worried since day one of a loss after a previous early pregnancy miscarriage. It's normal to be scared...just know you are doing the best you can to provide a healthy, safe environment for LO...keep your head up, you aren't alone in the fear category 

lvetter622

JamieWM:

Your subject scared the crap out of me!! I have been worried since day one of a loss after a previous early pregnancy miscarriage. It's normal to be scared...just know you are doing the best you can to provide a healthy, safe environment for LO...keep your head up, you aren't alone in the fear category 

lvetter622

JamieWM:

Your subject scared the crap out of me!! I have been worried since day one of a loss after a previous early pregnancy miscarriage. It's normal to be scared...just know you are doing the best you can to provide a healthy, safe environment for LO...keep your head up, you aren't alone in the fear category 

lvetter622

JamieWM:

Your subject scared the crap out of me!! I have been worried since day one of a loss after a previous early pregnancy miscarriage. It's normal to be scared...just know you are doing the best you can to provide a healthy, safe environment for LO...keep your head up, you aren't alone in the fear category 

lvetter622

JamieWM:

Your subject scared the crap out of me!! I have been worried since day one of a loss after a previous early pregnancy miscarriage. It's normal to be scared...just know you are doing the best you can to provide a healthy, safe environment for LO...keep your head up, you aren't alone in the fear category 

lvetter622

JamieWM:

Your subject scared the crap out of me!! I have been worried since day one of a loss after a previous early pregnancy miscarriage. It's normal to be scared...just know you are doing the best you can to provide a healthy, safe environment for LO...keep your head up, you aren't alone in the fear category 

lvetter622

JamieWM:

Your subject scared the crap out of me!! I have been worried since day one of a loss after a previous early pregnancy miscarriage. It's normal to be scared...just know you are doing the best you can to provide a healthy, safe environment for LO...keep your head up, you aren't alone in the fear category 

tarapike86

I feel the same way. A close friend had a still birth when I was pregnant with my first. It is in the back of my mind always. We have had many losses, all first trimester but the fear is always there. She told me Try to relax. Do kick counts and if you ever think something feels off call your doctor

LJUTCMommy

I'm a FTM, but I'm also really scared of stillbirth. I've never had a miscarriage or loss, but the possibility still worries me.

I have GD, so I have to do kick counts daily anyway, and I feel my LO move all the time. But, I still fear the worst.

I hope everything goes well for you and your baby as well as all the other expecting mamas.  

Laurakat81

I think its completely normal (though awful) to fear this, ESPECIALLY if you've suffered a loss before. I find myself worrying a lot one week and then feeling very optimistic and hopeful the next and back and forth and back and forth. It can be exhausting.

 I would recommend joining the Pregnant After a Loss board where you'll find lots of ladies who have experienced a loss at any stage who are now pregnant again. They'll understand your fears.

 My only advice is what works for me. I meditate. It relaxes me and is a good time for me to focus on feeling her moving which always calms me down. I don't necessarily do kick counts, she is very inconsistent with her movements depending on my own activity level (work days she's lazy) but on the weekends she's crazy in there!

siempreyo

I think about this too, but try to push it out my mind and focus on what I can do that is my best to grow a healthy baby (eating healthy, kick counts).  It is hard though; have myself never experienced a loss, but have a friend who has late in her pregnancy, as well as hearing of others, so it is hard not to.

 I think it is normal though.  I asked my doctor about it early on; I think it is something you should share if you are thinking about it! 

magdalina.h

I'm more terrified about my cord failing again. Stillbirth is always in the back of my mind, but it's not causing me any anxiety.

Cranang

Having been through a stillbirth, and then a pregnancy right afterwards, I understand where you're coming from.  It's rough.  Just do your kick counts.  I was overly obsessive about them.  It's scary, but it's just part of the risk.  I never thought it would happen to anyone I even knew, then it happened to me, and I wouldn't wish it on anyone.  Just try not to be anxious and if you EVER feel like anything might be wrong, GO TO THE DOCTOR.

bluegirl0429

Yes, your title scared the crap out of me too! I thought I was going to read some sad news. 

This is my first pregnancy and I have been worried about everything -I understand completely. I still have ten weeks to go and know that anything can happen. 

The statistics suggest that it is not common and it happens in 1% of pregnancies (March of Dimes statistics say 1 out 160, I think, which means that Ninety some % of pregnancies turn out okay -I am horrible at math). Although statistics do help some of my anxiety, reading about stories on this board of late term losses, can make somebody rethink those statistics and believe that it is actually more common. 

In any event, I am trying not to be too anxious and focus on fetal movement everyday. I hope all our pregnancies go well.  

PrimRoseMama

OP you may want to change your title to "Worried about Still Birth" or something to that effect. I was preparing myself to offer condolences for your loss. I am very very thankful that your baby is well. 

Its a reasonable fear. If it consumes you or causes you so much worry that you are not able to function, then that when you need to tell your OB and work with a mental health professional for coping strategies.  

inthelost

JamieWM:

Your subject scared the crap out of me!! I have been worried since day one of a loss after a previous early pregnancy miscarriage. It's normal to be scared...just know you are doing the best you can to provide a healthy, safe environment for LO...keep your head up, you aren't alone in the fear category 

bravo jamie. I couldn't have said it better