Getting married Friday. Family. Depression. Vent.

veronicavpling

despite all the things that's going on with my family and life right now. I still feel happy...

 I finally got the courage to see a psychiatrist and he said something that really stuck out to me. It was to accept things that can't be changed.

I try to make peace with my sisters and it doesn't work. and it's like i set myself up for failure cause i just try and hope that it will work. my mom is an alcoholic and we have a really rocky relationship. i guess it hurts me soooo bad because i expect so much out of the situation and in the end I AM the one that gets disappointed.

I'm 20 years old and I shouldn't be feeling like this. I have a great SO who takes great care of me. A roof over my head. Food...i mean we have our struggles..but everyonee does.

If you've read all my past post about my family. (i dont talk to anyone on my side of the family.. AT ALL) its just been crazy and sad and very depressing.

 I'm having a "civil wedding/courthouse wedding" this friday and my SO's side of the family and my step dad and my aunt will be there. my sisters wont be there. my mom wont be there and..that just makes me sad...

oh and question, if my mom isnt with my step dad anymore is he still my step dad? Lol

 but anyways. theres so much to look forward this year. im getting married, my little vacation with my SO and our baby girl will be here in August.

sugar212

Good luck with everything, try to stay positive and you can still call him what you want, but legally he is not your step-dad if your mom is no longer married to him. 

doodlemonkey22

Hugs!  I know what it is like to be born into a volatile troubled family. I feel you. But now you are about to start your very own family with your SO and daughter and can make it whatever you want it to be. Keep your head up. It only gets better from here because you are in charge of your life.

boymamaco

So sorry you have all that to contend with. Sounds like you are still staying positive throughout. Your counselor is right, you can't change the other negative people in your life, so just accept them for what they are and know that it doesnt reflect on you. Congraulations for your ceremony on Friday!

ave1012

i have family issues as well and it is painful when people are not happy or supportive of you. It took time for me to be okay with that. I want positive things in my life and being around negative people is not helpful. As far as your stepdad goes, call him what you want at then end of the day DNA does not make everyone a parent. Congratulations on your wedding.