Freaking out about betas after c/p

ThankfulSnail

Holy balls.

So let me preface this by saying that I knew nothing about bleeding and pregnancy before. I just thought that if you bled red blood, you were miscarrying, easy peasy. So I didn't make an appointment to go to the doctor until yesterday, 2 weeks after my bleeding due to chemical pregnancy started at 4 weeks, because I just wanted to make sure that everything was progressing normally.

My doctor ordered betas today and told me that everything I said about my miscarriage sounded normal and she just wanted to monitor until my HCG levels returned to zero. She estimated that my betas would be at about 2000 today.

I got home and checked my test results online. It says 59,165. My doctor said this morning that if my levels were high she would let me know tomorrow to make an appointment for an ultrasound, so I know I won't know anything until then, but this is KILLING me.

The only reason why I post this here is because I feel the most comfortable here, and because I do know there are a decent number of people who have experienced various types of losses before. Has anyone had anything like this happen? I feel like such a complete MORON for not going in sooner, but I can't turn back time. I'm so terrified that I'm going to need a D&C or something when I thought all along I was doing this naturally. Any words of wisdom or experience are greatly welcomed!!!!! Sorry for the novel...

beckynsean11

I have absolutely no idea, I just want to say good luck tomorrow!

EmilyA724

I don't really have any advice. I'm kind of confused why your Dr thought your betas would be at 2000 two weeks after you started bleeding. I had a chemical pregnancy last cycle and they checked my betas the day I started bleeding and they were already down to 12. Good luck tomorrow though and I hope everything works out for you!

sueann911

Remind me the details of your chemical pregnancy. Did your doctor run tests then and say it was one or did you start bleeding and assume it?

I'm not asking to be snarky or to upset you. I'm just trying to understand your history.

I'm sorry that you're going through this and I wish you the best.

mrs_tacos

I'm sorry you're going through this. Good luck tomorrow!

ThankfulSnail

sueann911:

Remind me the details of your chemical pregnancy. Did your doctor run tests then and say it was one or did you start bleeding and assume it? I'm not asking to be snarky or to upset you. I'm just trying to understand your history. I'm sorry that you're going through this and I wish you the best.

This doesn't sound snarky at all. I was really honestly very ignorant in the way I handled it. I found out I was pregnant (3 weeks 6 days based on LMP because I wasn't able to confirm O my last cycle) on 5/26. I was having painful cramping off and on until 5/28 late at night when I had very, very painful cramping and then started bleeding heavily. The bleeding has now reduced to mostly spotting with only occasional bleeding. I didn't go to my doctor because I didn't know any better. I didn't read anything that said to until a few days after the bleeding started, but I just assumed since I called to cancel my prenatal appointment and told them that I was bleeding so it wouldn't be needed and they didn't insist I have a follow up that it wasn't always necessary; I realize now that it wasn't that receptionist's job to know what I should be doing.

Sorry, I keep ranting, I'm just so embarrassed about the way I handled the whole thing. 

sueann911

ThankfulSnail:

sueann911:

Remind me the details of your chemical pregnancy. Did your doctor run tests then and say it was one or did you start bleeding and assume it?

I'm not asking to be snarky or to upset you. I'm just trying to understand your history.

I'm sorry that you're going through this and I wish you the best.

This doesn't sound snarky at all. I was really honestly very ignorant in the way I handled it. I found out I was pregnant (3 weeks 6 days based on LMP because I wasn't able to confirm O my last cycle) on 5/26. I was having painful cramping off and on until 5/28 late at night when I had very, very painful cramping and then started bleeding heavily. The bleeding has now reduced to mostly spotting with only occasional bleeding. I didn't go to my doctor because I didn't know any better. I didn't read anything that said to until a few days after the bleeding started, but I just assumed since I called to cancel my prenatal appointment and told them that I was bleeding so it wouldn't be needed and they didn't insist I have a follow up that it wasn't always necessary; I realize now that it wasn't that receptionist's job to know what I should be doing.

Sorry, I keep ranting, I'm just so embarrassed about the way I handled the whole thing. 

Don't be embarrassed. Most women, including me, wouldn't know how to handle it. I've never been through it and don't know the proper procedures.

The high beta confuses me, as I am sure you are confused as well. I am not going to give you false hope, because there's no way I would know what's going on. However, I think you're doing the right thing in seeing a doctor and trying to figure out what's going on.

Milagros315

I'm so sorry you're dealing with this. I can only imagine how confusing and scary it must be. Please don't beat yourself up or feel embarrassed though. Many, many people have CP's and they don't even know it. You didn't do anything wrong. I don't have any other advice, but I hope you get some answers soon!

EmilyA724

I definitely agree not to feel bad about not going to the doctors. I would also have assumed if they didn't tell me to come in when I cancelled that it wasn't a big deal. The only reason why I called the doctors is because my bleeding was a slow progression from spotting to heavy bleeding and I called when it started getting more pink than brown because I was freaked out. Then when it went from pink to bright red I called thinking I was just saying never mind, the pregnancy is definitely over but they decided to send me to get blood drawn to be sure. I think if it went right to red blood I would have just called to cancel too. Do not feel bad about it. 

beckynsean11

GhostMonkey:

ThankfulSnail:

Sorry, I keep ranting, I'm just so embarrassed about the way I handled the whole thing. 

Don't be, I think most people would have made the same conclusion you did. 

 

Agreed! Don't be embarrassed. I would have assumed CP in your shoes.
ETA: Please update us when you're able.

ThankfulSnail

I feel bad about the responses saying I might be pregnant. I just want to make it clear that I didn't mean this to be a fishing post. I guess that is a possibility, but I'm trying not to think about it because I don't want to go through the emotions of feeling like I lost that baby a second time if I get my hopes up.

Thanks all for the extremely kind words. It really means a lot. 

BlackBooks

Just wanted to say I'm sorry you are going through this. Please don't be too hard on yourself! I hope your ultrasound can give you the answers you need.

Birdies08

ThankfulSnail:

I feel bad about the responses saying I might be pregnant. I just want to make it clear that I didn't mean this to be a fishing post. I guess that is a possibility, but I'm trying not to think about it because I don't want to go through the emotions of feeling like I lost that baby a second time if I get my hopes up.

Thanks all for the extremely kind words. It really means a lot. 

This didn't sound like fishing to me at all.

I am so sorry you're going through this. I'm newly back on this board, so didn't really know your whole back story, but I can only imagine how tough this must be.

Others have already said it, but I wanted to let you know that the way you handled everything sounds perfectly reasonable. I know that now, with the beta result, you think you could have done things differently, but there is no need to feel stupid about the decisions you made. 

I hope you get answers soon.

TeeJ526

BlackBooks:

Just wanted to say I'm sorry you are going through this. Please don't be too hard on yourself! I hope your ultrasound can give you the answers you need.

Same. And don't be embarrassed. Glad you're going to the doctor and please keep us posted.

DemoDoll

GhostMonkey:

ThankfulSnail:

I feel bad about the responses saying I might be pregnant. I just want to make it clear that I didn't mean this to be a fishing post. I guess that is a possibility, but I'm trying not to think about it because I don't want to go through the emotions of feeling like I lost that baby a second time if I get my hopes up.

Thanks all for the extremely kind words. It really means a lot. 

That level is in the range of normal for 6 weeks where you would be if it was not a cp. Bleeding in early (and middle and late) pregnancy isn't uncommon.

Hopefully you get some answers one way or another. 

 

ITA with GM. My fingers are crossed that you will get some good news. I'm so sorry you are going through all of this. And don't blame yourself for not getting into the doctor sooner, I probably would have kept assuming it was all normal and not call the doctor. You are very smart to make that call.

Please update us when you get any news!

sueann911

ThankfulSnail:

I feel bad about the responses saying I might be pregnant. I just want to make it clear that I didn't mean this to be a fishing post. I guess that is a possibility, but I'm trying not to think about it because I don't want to go through the emotions of feeling like I lost that baby a second time if I get my hopes up.Thanks all for the extremely kind words. It really means a lot.nbsp;

I didn't think of this as a fishing post at all. The only reason I didn't want to say you could still be pregnant is because I didn't want to give you false hope and have to mourn the loss a second time, like you said.

There's no way for us to know what's going on, which is why no one is saying one way or the other which option they think you're experiencing. Please don't beat yourself up about this. Just face today and tomorrow and don't regret what has happened in the past. You can't change it. Please update us and I hope the time passes quickly until you get an answer. Hugs!

babybean82

EmilyA724:

I don't really have any advice. I'm kind of confused why your Dr thought your betas would be at 2000 two weeks after you started bleeding. I had a chemical pregnancy last cycle and they checked my betas the day I started bleeding and they were already down to 12. Good luck tomorrow though and I hope everything works out for you!

 

I am also confused about this.... even during a normal pregnancy the numbers can vary so much there is no was to guess a number, plus for me 2 weeks after my mc my numbers were down to 25.... and I was 8 weeks before the loss with numbers close to 16000 at 8 weeks.  But anyways... Good luck tomorrow I think your numbers are promising.

HisLovf

bunnyfungo:

I'm so sorry you are going through this. I don't think I would have handled it any differently so I don't think you should beat yourself up. Please keep us updated. I'm sending T and P your way!!

Ditto this. *creepy internet stranger hugs*

MSMomma10

So sorry you are dealing with this! I went through a CP this week as well, and my hcg was back down to 0 the day after I started bleeding. Hope you get some answers tomorrow.

Also, I had NO idea what to do when I started bleeding either. I only called the doc because DH made me. Honestly, I didn't want to call and have to talk to them about it. I think you handled everything fine. Not a fun situation for anyome to be in.

becca1216

I'm so sorry you're going through this. I will keep my eyes open for an update tomorrow. Please know that a lot of Internet strangers are thinking of you tonight.

Palmtrees09

I'm so sorry you're going through this and that everything is confusing right now. Praying that you get answers today!

I would have handled it the exact same way. To be completely honest, I might have handled it that way. Last November I had 2 faint positives. I ended up getting what I assumed was just an awful period with really bad cramps, heavy bleeding, etc. I figured that what I saw were evap lines until recently I realized it could have been a cp. I haven't told anyone till now. I understand your feelings of embarrassment.

I'll be thinking about you all day and hope you can find some peace! ::creepy stranger hug::

ETA: Mobile changed a word

SnowflakeBride06

Its good that you followed up. It took my hCg 6 weeks to come down to 0 after my early m/c.

If your beta is high or possibly in the right range for the # of weeks you would be if you didn't m/c then maybe the pg is viable.

There other reasons why hCg does not decline, it could be in a tube, molar or you have not shed all of the placenta yet. Not to scare you. But the girls on m/c and loss may be able to help you or PGaL.  

Tons of hugs because limbo is the worst. 

kramja01

Hugs! I'm sorry you are going through this. I hope you get some answers soon.

bornmommy

I'm sorry you are going through this.  I am going through something similar.  (Faint line 12dpo, heavy heavy bleeding, line was fainter today at 14dpo)  I haven't called my doctor yet.  I was going to wait a week...  Now I guess I should call.   

ETA: I bled throughout the first tri when I was pregnant with DS.  I thought I had an actual period.  I'm sure this has been said but bleeding during pregnancy is common but not always normal.  Hopefully you'll get answers soon.  I hate the grey area.

bumpuser9058414

Those betas sound promising to me. I was sent for blood work the day my bleeding started and my HCG was already down to 6. Please keep us updated and good luck to you.

happilyeverafterxo

Oh gosh, honey. I would have assumed a CP as well...I actually just had one 3 weeks ago, around the same time as you. I got a faint positive on 5/22 and started bleeding on 5/27. My beta from 5/24 was only a 9 though

I have no idea what is up with your betas, but I'm positive you'll know more once you have your u/s. I hope that everything works out for you!

Please keep us updated, and you are in my thoughts and prayers!