DH's low sex drive.

modernfairytale8709

I know I've seen some of you say that your SO has a lower sex drive than you.

I'm an EOD kind of gal, but DH is pretty happy doing it about once a week.

I've learned not to discuss FW with him(because what's sexier than EWCM, right?)

 But it's super frustrating to me that I attempted to initiate 4 days in a row, and got no where. We almost missed my FW completely this month. We hit O+1, but just barely. 

Frequency of sex is a touchy subject in our house. No matter how calmly we start out, the discussion always gets emotional. Tips on how to get across to him that if he wants to get me KU, he needs to step it up a bit? I've gently suggested he check out the Great Sperm Race, but documentaries about sperm aren't really his thing. 

ksuRN09

Just wanted to offer my sympathies bc I go through the exact same thing and it's super frustrating. that subject is also touchy in my house and usually ends with some very nasty comments on my side which I later end feeling terrible about. I've had to learn to filter which I am not good at. PM me if you need moral support from time to time

StacyJYay

This is a tough situation, for sure.  Perhaps try withholding sex from him during the days leading up to your Fertile Week.  I'm not suggesting that you do this to play mind-games with him, but rather to make him want sex more when it counts for you!  Good luck. 

mamathefox

My DH has low t. He had brain surgery years ago and some gland that's behind your nose/sinus cavity was cut and removed when going into his brain. As a result he has low t and doesn't grow facial , like at all (he gets some peach fuzz after about 3 weeks and has to shave or he looks silly). I feel bad BC I know its a true medical issue so I never get upset about it. However, when I would miss a window BC of it I would get depressed for a moment. Its a sticky situation for sure. 

RunCC37

Modern, you have a PM from me!

thesieberts03

I totally feel your pain. I have always had more of a sex drive than my husband and we've been married almost 10 years. I used to call him my sex camel because he was perfectly content having sex a few times per month. I've been having to get creative to get him in the mood and have had to think really outside the box. I want to make him feel comfortable and enjoy himself instead of just feeling like I'm using him for his sperm. My husband shuts down if I broach the subject of sex so I've just started finding ways to get him interested and its actually making our sex life better as a whole. I've found that the less I talk about "trying" and just make it look like a spontaneous event, it goes a lot smoother.

nicole mackenzie

This is a touchy subject at my house too. I suggest having a heart to heart away from the bedroom and without the intention of having sex after the talk. Just talk to each other and see where each person is coming from.

Maybe he's not ready to TTC yet. Ask why, does he have some things he'd like to get done before a baby?

Maybe he wants to initiate sex

Or feels really pressured to perform on command?

Let him know how it makes you feel to be turned down day after day. He may not realize how much that hurts you. He also probably gets sex whenever he wants it because if youre like me you feel sex starved so you don't turn him down when he finally wants it.

Remember to have this conversation by itself not a frustrated argument after being turned down again.

Good luck!

nicole mackenzie

mamathefox:

My DH has low t. He had brain surgery years ago and some gland that's behind your nose/sinus cavity was cut and removed when going into his brain. As a result he has low t and doesn't grow facial , like at all he gets some peach fuzz after about 3 weeks and has to shave or he looks silly. I feel bad BC I know its a true medical issue so I never get upset about it. However, when I would miss a window BC of it I would get depressed for a moment. Its a sticky situation for sure.nbsp;

Can he take something to increase his T?

Jenn06L80

This is our house as well.  We would do it 1-3 times during the fertile week.  However now that we found out DH has a really low count, he has no desire at all.  It is frustrating.  I wish I had tips for you, but all I can do is sympathize.