Don't act like you know....

karirlaw

**Don't act like you know..**

 LONG

Right off the bat I want to say that this post will ruffle some feathers. But I just need to vent.  I am ALL FOR people having their various opinions, right to free speech.. blah blah blah.  So I am not here to take a political stance on anything. But this one chick I know from HS is driving me BATTY. 

She is some nurse in the OB type field.  Pro-Choice, was once a lesbian and then turned back again and got married to a man, and also a Professional know-it-all  **again, not saying you can't be, just describing her**

Well she just posted some thing on FB talking about how proud she is that her work place does not offer free formula samples to new moms, and does not display labels of formula.  So I simply say, "I don't understand?".  She goes on this rant about how horrible formula is compared to breastmilk and how it should never be encouraged, yada yada yada.  Well, I am like, first of all, you DON'T HAVE ANY KIDS so how would you know how the terrible free samples impact is on us.  And secondly, yes, BF is the ideal option, but what about for those of us that have a hard time with it, those of us whose supply just dries up?  Should we be made to feel bad or looked down on?  I'm sorry, but I am THANKFUL for those samples, formula is expensive and I can use all the help I can get.   Bombard me with free samples!

Just hate it when people who are not in our shoes try to school us.  GAH

Jasmineeelizabeth

I'm just trying to figure out how her being a lesbian had anything to do with this vent.

 

Jasmineeelizabeth

LivvyKH:

Jasmineeelizabeth:

I'm just trying to figure out how her being a lesbian had anything to do with this vent.

 

Same, and also being pro-choice?  

Also if she's a medical professional doesn't that kind of give her a right to have an informed opinion on whether or not formula should be encouraged? She didn't say that she thought formula feeding was wrong, just that breastfeeding should be encouraged and free samples shouldn't be given out to everyone?

 

MRads

Jasmineeelizabeth:

I'm just trying to figure out how her being a lesbian had anything to do with this vent.

 

Yea. If you wouldn't have given any background on her and just said that your FB friend thinks that formula feeding your baby, I'd be on your side. But the way you talked about her personal decisions just makes you sound judgey and ignorant.

 

notaffected1

Jasmineeelizabeth:

I'm just trying to figure out how her being a lesbian had anything to do with this vent. nbsp;

Right!

karirlaw

LivvyKH:

Jasmineeelizabeth:

I'm just trying to figure out how her being a lesbian had anything to do with this vent.

 

Same, and also being pro-choice?  

Good question, I guess I didn't explain that part well enough, or AT ALL.  But previously she was none of these things.  And just sort of hops on whatever bandwagon she sees fit for that day. Just saying that she is just a flip-flopper.

Jasmineeelizabeth

karirlaw:

LivvyKH:

Jasmineeelizabeth:

I'm just trying to figure out how her being a lesbian had anything to do with this vent.

 

Same, and also being pro-choice?  

Good question, I guess I didn't explain that part well enough, or AT ALL.  But previously she was none of these things.  And just sort of hops on whatever bandwagon she sees fit for that day. Just saying that she is just a flip-flopper.

Urgk. You're explanation makes it worse.

 

karirlaw

Jasmineeelizabeth:

karirlaw:

LivvyKH:

Jasmineeelizabeth:

I'm just trying to figure out how her being a lesbian had anything to do with this vent.

 

Same, and also being pro-choice?  

Good question, I guess I didn't explain that part well enough, or AT ALL.  But previously she was none of these things.  And just sort of hops on whatever bandwagon she sees fit for that day. Just saying that she is just a flip-flopper.

Urgk. You're explanation makes it worse.

 

Makes what worse? I simply don't have an issue with whatever side of the road you are on. I just wish she would find out who she really was and stick to it for any length of time.

Jasmineeelizabeth

karirlaw:

Jasmineeelizabeth:

karirlaw:

LivvyKH:

Jasmineeelizabeth:

I'm just trying to figure out how her being a lesbian had anything to do with this vent.

 

Same, and also being pro-choice?  

Good question, I guess I didn't explain that part well enough, or AT ALL.  But previously she was none of these things.  And just sort of hops on whatever bandwagon she sees fit for that day. Just saying that she is just a flip-flopper.

Urgk. You're explanation makes it worse.

 

Makes what worse? I simply don't have an issue with whatever side of the road you are on. I just wish she would find out who she really was and stick to it for any length of time.

Your ignorance. 

As a pp said, many people can have meaningful relationships with both sexes. They do not need to label themselves gay or straight for you to be happy or to conciser her opinions valid. 

Being with both a man and a woman has nothing to do with her opinions on free formula, and with a medical degree I think her opinion is perfectly valid. 

 

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karirlaw:

Jasmineeelizabeth:

karirlaw:

LivvyKH:

Jasmineeelizabeth:

I'm just trying to figure out how her being a lesbian had anything to do with this vent.

 

Same, and also being pro-choice?  

Good question, I guess I didn't explain that part well enough, or AT ALL.  But previously she was none of these things.  And just sort of hops on whatever bandwagon she sees fit for that day. Just saying that she is just a flip-flopper.

Urgk. You're explanation makes it worse.

 

Makes what worse? I simply don't have an issue with whatever side of the road you are on. I just wish she would find out who she really was and stick to it for any length of time.

I think you grown and change as an individual everyday. I might never know who I am. Everyone has a right to flip flop.

karirlaw

LivvyKH:

karirlaw:

Jasmineeelizabeth:

karirlaw:

LivvyKH:

Jasmineeelizabeth:

I'm just trying to figure out how her being a lesbian had anything to do with this vent.

 

Same, and also being pro-choice?  

Good question, I guess I didn't explain that part well enough, or AT ALL.  But previously she was none of these things.  And just sort of hops on whatever bandwagon she sees fit for that day. Just saying that she is just a flip-flopper.

Urgk. You're explanation makes it worse.

 

Makes what worse? I simply don't have an issue with whatever side of the road you are on. I just wish she would find out who she really was and stick to it for any length of time.

Being with both men and women doesn't mean she doesn't know who she "really is". Plenty of people have meaningful relationships with both sexes.  

Well I apologize if I have said something to offend anyone.  My intent was not to condemn any group and I am truely sorry if it came across that way!

PrimRoseMama

Jasmineeelizabeth:

karirlaw:

Jasmineeelizabeth:

karirlaw:

LivvyKH:

Jasmineeelizabeth:

I'm just trying to figure out how her being a lesbian had anything to do with this vent.

 

Same, and also being pro-choice?  

Good question, I guess I didn't explain that part well enough, or AT ALL.  But previously she was none of these things.  And just sort of hops on whatever bandwagon she sees fit for that day. Just saying that she is just a flip-flopper.

Urgk. You're explanation makes it worse.

 

Makes what worse? I simply don't have an issue with whatever side of the road you are on. I just wish she would find out who she really was and stick to it for any length of time.

Your ignorance. 

As a pp said, many people can have meaningful relationships with both sexes. They do not need to label themselves gay or straight for you to be happy or to conciser her opinions valid. 

Being with both a man and a woman has nothing to do with her opinions on free formula, and with a medical degree I think her opinion is perfectly valid. 

 

I also fail to see how her sexual orientation should even make it into your criticism of her. She is giving her opinion on formula, not who she sleeps with, right? Non sequitur...

I don't even know why it's relevant...

Re: Formula feeding etc...
I FF DD after my supply tanked. Obviously, I don't have a problem with it. My kid got fed to the best of my ability. I absolutely dare some judgey person to tell me I didn't do what was best for my kid. BF was attempted and I poured my whole heart/body into my attempt. If someone wants to rant on FB then that is their business.

You can block the feed or defriend if her views really upset you, but it's really dirty pool to start slamming her for her sex life.

karirlaw

This person's post was personally offensive to me, as someone who works full time and tries to exclusively BF and has difficulties doing so due to low supply. I just don?t believe she should be preaching about the negative aspects of formula to women who are trying their best to BF and cannot.

karirlaw

PrimRoseMama:

Jasmineeelizabeth:

karirlaw:

Jasmineeelizabeth:

karirlaw:

LivvyKH:

Jasmineeelizabeth:

I'm just trying to figure out how her being a lesbian had anything to do with this vent.

 

Same, and also being pro-choice?  

Good question, I guess I didn't explain that part well enough, or AT ALL.  But previously she was none of these things.  And just sort of hops on whatever bandwagon she sees fit for that day. Just saying that she is just a flip-flopper.

Urgk. You're explanation makes it worse.

 

Makes what worse? I simply don't have an issue with whatever side of the road you are on. I just wish she would find out who she really was and stick to it for any length of time.

Your ignorance. 

As a pp said, many people can have meaningful relationships with both sexes. They do not need to label themselves gay or straight for you to be happy or to conciser her opinions valid. 

Being with both a man and a woman has nothing to do with her opinions on free formula, and with a medical degree I think her opinion is perfectly valid. 

I also fail to see how her sexual orientation should even make it into your criticism of her. She is giving her opinion on formula, not who she sleeps with, right? Non sequitur... I don't even know why it's relevant... Re: Formula feeding etc... I FF DD after my supply tanked. Obviously, I don't have a problem with it. My kid got fed to the best of my ability. I absolutely dare some judgey person to tell me I didn't do what was best for my kid. BF was attempted and I poured my whole heart/body into my attempt. If someone wants to rant on FB then that is their business. You can block the feed or defriend if her views really upset you, but it's really dirty pool to start slamming her for her sex life.

You are correct in that the sexual orientation should not have anything to do with BF. and it would be crazy of me to connect the two. I guess I am just frustrated with flippant nature of her personality and how she feels the need to force her flavor of the day on everyone.

MrsHetzel

karirlaw:

This
person's post was personally offensive to me, as someone who works full time
and tries to exclusively BF and has difficulties doing so due to low supply. I
just dont believe she should be preaching about the negative aspects of
formula to women who are trying their best to BF and cannot.

I get why her post upset you. But remember you can only control YOU so delete her as a friend, or just hide her updates from your feed. You can't control her opinions, you control how you feel about it and if it lets you bother you.

valstulas

Laurendag:

Many moms who would otherwise breast feed are feeling pressured into formula feeding by formula companies and free samples. At least that's how is was explained to me when I asked our NICU nurse.

I don't feel pressured into FF just because there are free samples around. Rather, I feel pressured to avoid formula and continue to pump at my fast paced job by all the people who tell me EBF is the only way...