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Hi thanks for wishes and a explanation

soon2Bkranzsoon2Bkranz member
in Northern California Babies

First and foremost thanks so much for all the support and just the right amount of anger! hehe We are doing pretty welll although random things have gotten to me, like last night watching a show where they had a character who just had a baby in the hospital,. It was a boy all in blue and it made me totally cry...crazy I know...

But to explain more.

Yes our facilitator SHOULD have protected us from this. She should have more than half assesly verified pregnancy. This woiman has previously had 9 babies 5 have been placed for adoption, 2 with their Dad, 1 with a grandparent adn 1 with her. So I do understand why she trusted her to a certain extent and she sent our facilitaor a ratty ultrasound pic...I found out you couldnt even see the date adn thats when I pushed for more legit proof.

But the bulk of my frustration was her pushing us to give more money than we wanted at that time and I bulked to it..And there truthfully isnt much we can do about that, in large part becasue we simply dont have the time/money/energy to fight to get out of the contract and we have already paid her a large sum of money...3/4 of her fee... Walking away from that is simply not an option for us.

But I have learned (god I hope) enough to avoid inflicting this pain on our family again.

OK hope that explains some of the questions people had...

Libby

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Re: Hi thanks for wishes and a explanation

  • tri-readertri-reader
    That really sucks!  I can't believe there are people out there like that.  Grr.  Big Hugs again to you guys!
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  • SweetiePSweetieP

    I'm still so angry that this happened.  What the hell is wrong with this person?  Both of these people?  Seriously.  I know I'm repeating myself but there really is a special place in hell for people like this.

     

    Nobody said life would be easy, they just promised it would be worth it.
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  • Jamers125Jamers125
    Libby... my heart has been hurting for you. I still don't get how you won't get money back from this and how they can possibly hold you to a contract when this woman was totally lying about being pregnant! Is the agency keeping money because they plan to find you another match? I guess I'm still confused. Tongue Tied Sorry!
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  • Dragonfly_BrideDragonfly_Bride member
    You did nothing wrong. You trusted people who you had no idea would lie or drop the ball. I'm so sorry you're having to go through this.
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  • soon2Bkranzsoon2Bkranz member

    imageJamers125:
    Libby... my heart has been hurting for you. I still don't get how you won't get money back from this and how they can possibly hold you to a contract when this woman was totally lying about being pregnant! Is the agency keeping money because they plan to find you another match? I guess I'm still confused. Tongue Tied Sorry!

    Yes they are supposed to keep working on our behalf...

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  • kittylovekittylove member
    Libby, you did not do this to your family, it is not your fault. I am so sorry someone else did this to you. I can't believe anyone would do this to another person. I think I better understand now whay you can't get out of the contract with the facilitatior. I just hope they do a better job with your next match. I know your child waits out there for you and Tony to become its parents.
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  • fricksgirlfricksgirl member

    Hi Libby~

    I didn't get a chance to respond yesterday but just wanted to say how sorry I am and how much that woman sucks.  Hugs, hugs, hugs to you.

    Heather

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  • emeraldwednesdaemeraldwednesda
    all I can say is that this really blows and I'm so sorry.  That facilitator better bust her *ss on your behalf from now on.
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  • we-love-to-trywe-love-to-try
    imageSweetieP:

    I'm still so angry that this happened.  What the hell is wrong with this person?  Both of these people?  Seriously.  I know I'm repeating myself but there really is a special place in hell for people like this.

     

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  • futrkingsleyfutrkingsley member

    I wish there were a way for you to get out of the contract but I know it would be a huge hassle you don't have time or money for right now.  I hope they understand they better get their ass in gear and be 200% more thorough, not just for you but for others too. It's too important to just take someone at their word.

    Sending you lots of hugs.

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  • Naz91804Naz91804

    uggg, so sorry again for all that you're going through.

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  • MamaDepMamaDep

    I can understand you just wanting to be done, but you should NOT pay any money for this crap! In fact you should be compensated for the heartache this chick (and the facilitator) caused you! Can your mom do some legal legwork?

     

    Where is Eli Stone when you need him?

     

    ***big hug***

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