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Can I join even though my "one" isn't here yet?

Maimes10Maimes10 member
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I have known, perhaps in all of my adulthood, that I would likely be OAD.  MH and i have been together for 10 years (married for 3) and choose to do a lot of travel and buy and renovate a house before we did  the marriage & baby.  While I am very glad that we did this and are emotionally and financially ready, we also ended up having to do IVF.  After two miscarriages within 3 months, I had decided the third round was our final attempt, mentally I just couldn't do it again.  Thankfully, this one was our turn.  I am 15w pregnant with a baby boy!!  If I was not sure before, I am 200% positive that we will be OAD and I am so incredibly a peace with it.  I've heard the "it's not fair to the child" and "you'll want more once you have one", "if you have one the kid will be a spoiled brat"  yada, yada, yada.  Nope, I am confident in our decision and I will be the best mom I possibly can for our LO.  We will have our one little miracle boy and our family is complete!

 Well, that's my intro...I may not post that often for now but you can be sure I'll be coming to you all for advice starting the end of November!!

Me 39, DH 40. Married on 9/18/2010 and have been TTC since. IVF # 1-7/13/2012, 15 retreived, 6 fertilized, 2 transferred, 4 frozen. BFP Natural MC 9/10 IVF#2, FET - 12/3/201 2 - 3 transferred, BFP! Natural MC 12/25/2012 IFV #3, 2/27/2013 - 3 transferred, BFP! TWINS!!! Loss of one twin 3/20/13.One sticky hanging on!Pregnancy%20ticker
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Re: Can I join even though my "one" isn't here yet?

  • salt78salt78 member

    Congratulations on your pregnancy! I hope the rest of it goes well for you!

    I heard a lot of the same things when I was pregnant (I always knew I would be OAD as well) and I wish people would just mind their own business. 

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  • MrsCCParraMrsCCParra member
    Welcome! I joined this board a few weeks ago, love it! I also don't have my "one" yet. I'm 17 weeks along. Congrats and hope your pregnancy is going well!
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  • meo34meo34 member

    Welcome!   I hate those types of comments!  Especially when people don't know your situation.

     My son is seven and def not spoiled (though I am his mom so I am biased LOL).  I have seen families with two or more child that are spoiled.  Having an only child is def not the only factor!

     Hope you enjoy the board! 

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  • foxyroxyfoxyroxy member
    I am 26w w/a girl and we are OAD as well. Not a shred of doubt. People just like to project their issues onto you so that they feel better about their own choices. Those people can bite me.
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  • Mrs_LadyMrs_Lady member
    Aww ! Congrats and best of luck to you!
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