I took DS to a 'special' playtime at the library today (special because it's on a Friday and they had bagels and OJ lol), so it was more crowded and almost everyone was unfamiliar. DS was playing great but then went to grab a toy from a little girl. I know he doesn't understand it yet, but I gave him something else and told him that he can play with it when she's done. I've been getting in the habit of telling him this because I really like the thought process that even though they're babies, they're still not entitled to something that someone else has!
Anyway, it had to have been the little girls grandmother that was there, but she said back to me, 'oh no he can take it, she has to share'. And then said to the other grandmother next to her (and still right in front of me), 'I can't believe people teach their kids not to share, they need to share'! We moved to play with some other kids.
So am I crazy??? Obviously kids are going to take other kid's toys, but I'm trying to instill the idea that he can wait! Or at least ask for it. What are your guys thoughts on this because it just made me feel awkward!
Re: Judgy Grandmas
I've always told DD that she can play with a toy after the other child is done, but I also remind her to share when there is a child who obviously wants to play with a toy she has.
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Preach it. "Well when my kids were little..." Thanks, but if it was 20+ years ago IDGAF.
On a similar note... A friend's older daughter kept doing the same thing- trying to take the baby's toy away and making him cry. Instead of teaching the older child to wait their turn, the parents would say, "oh you can have it, only if you give baby another toy". I think that's the wrong lesson to teach. "I want it and I want it now, so give it to me and I'll give you this other thing that I don't care about." It grated on my nerves. Not fair in my book.
SAHM to 4 kiddos... K (5/05), N (4/09), C (11/10) and Baby A 1/13/14