I know my MIL and mother will want to plan some kind of a shower for me at some point.
Problem is I'm scared that something will happen after that. Even getting to like 35 weeks is not a guarantee of anything. And then what if (God forbid) something happens - do you return all the gifts? Or worse, keep them and have all these reminders of your loss? The whole thing would be really dreadful.
Would it be weird to say I don't want a shower until after the baby is born and we're settled in? I know it's a party someone else throws for you, so I should let them do what they want, but afterwards I would feel so much safer.
Anyone else have similar thoughts/concerns?