Ok, I dont know if I posted just how obnoxious my MIL can be and just how passive aggressive she was when we visited in August.
But a quick summary to help you understand yesterday's events. DH was stationed in Germany. He decided to retire while we were still there and wanted to have the ceremony there. MIL threw a fukcing fit because she could not be there but would not fly over (ON OUR DIME) to see it.
We tried to organize a stateside retirement ceremony in three different locations (two being places she would not go to because she would nto fly or drive to) and one in her home town. They just could not be done.
So color me PISSED OFF RED and my poor DH emotionally destroyed blue when we see FB posts about my MIL driving from Maine to Maryland to see my SIL's husband retire. This is just 90 min from one of the places where DH and I had tried to have his retirement - a place she turned down.
DH is crushed.
And I now have "permission" (my own inner angel vs devil) to stop responding to her with polite replies. I can be as firm and to the point and maybe just as bithcy as she throws out. I also can stop downplaying my parent/family's interactions with Monkey to keep her from making her P/A comments.
But I don't know how to make this better for my husband. I will not diss on his mother because, in the end he will forgive her (not forget) and I do not want my harsh words to be out there. So all I got is hugging on him tightly.