So, I handle all of the bills and our bank accounts. I was going to be working a lot at the end of last month and the beginning of this month and asked if he could just handle the pedi bill because it didn't seem like we should have been charged anything more given that LO had gone in for a routine well checkup. So I asked him to look into it, (there was nothing on the bill that seemed extra) and that if it was justified to pay it...fast forward to today. I get a call from their billing office. REALLY?! One bill, one time I ask because I was swamped and he promised he'd take care of it. I never pay anything late...this drives me nuts, and exactly why I have to be in charge of everything, because anytime I have ever asked him to take care of something for me he has let me down on this front. End rant...
After that I feel I should say something nice...he let me sleep in this past weekend and I was very glad he did.
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My DH is the same way, which is why I too handle all of this. When I had DD, we ended up being late on a lot of bills - not because we didn't have the money, but rather because I was so sleep deprived and it completely slipped my mind. I remember walking in to pay our electric bill with baby in tow - they were completely understanding...
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I also struggle with how to communicate similar issues to him without being called a nagging b. he has said, "just let me know that our family needs it and I will do it. " but yet I feel like I have to follow him around and make sure I catch anything that gets left behind. Very frustrating.
And I will balance this out with saying that he is an amazingly loving dad with lots if smarts and a good sense of humor:
My DH is the same way. He can't handle bills. Once I asked him to pay one bill each month, the cell bill. Come to find out he set it up on auto-withdrawl and never looked back. Checking our account one day I finally noticed we had been overcharged for three months in a row because DS had bought some ringtone app on DHs phone by accident! I had to call and have the charges reversed and get it set up to come out of the correct account.
I've decided it's more stressful to ask him to take care of it than to just do it myself. My DH is amazing in other ways though so I guess I'll give him a pass on this.
Ha...this was the one bill i used to have him do for a while too. It was too much for his busy schedule do I took it back.
The disconnect between DH at work and DH at home drives me nuts. He manages giant initiatives, including full budgets, SOWs and invoice approvals. But he can't pay his bills? (not due to a lack of funds)
It's a lose - lose situation here. If I delegate to him I stress out about it, stress out about not nagging, stress out about nagging, then end up doing it myself anyway. Great example - I went out of town for work and he had to pay DC. He forgot. He forgot again. They called me and said DS could not stay unless we paid. Totally fair, but what was I supposed to do about it? I asked that they ask him then called him and freaked out that I was supposed to go pick up DS from three states away because he could not hand them a check.
2011: FSH 13.3 & E 99; AMH 0.54 2nd FSH 6.2 E 40's AFC: 8
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Feb./March 2013: AMH less than 0.16 (undectable) and AFC = 4;
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LOL - I pay almost everything, but DH nags me about stuff constantly. Did you pay X, did you pay Y, etc.
I want to tell him to pay it himself or STFU. but, I don't, I just smile and nod.