Mom Vent

YellowLily2013

So my showers are late, not until 35 weeks. And I'm very much a planner so I've bought all the big stuff for the nursery and even went ahead and bought my diaper bag as infant carseat when they were on sale because I didn't want to miss good deals if no one ended up getting those things for us.

Anyways, I asked my mother if she had heard if my grandma was wanting to buy our carseat because she did that for my cousin. And she typically gives us the same gift. This was a nice way of telling my mom to ask my grandma because it just doesn't seem right for me to call up grandma and ask her right out if she was going to buy it.

So I talk to my mom today and apparently I'm grandma isn't happy and doesn't know what to buy since its already been purchased. My mom never talked to her about it!!
Then my mom goes on and tells her I need two!! Wth mom, I don't need two infant carseats. I could use an infant and a convertible carseat, but the convertible one is much more expensive. So she likely won't want to buy that.

I just wish she would have had this conversation so I wouldn't have bought it ahead of time. I suppose I could try and return the one she buys if she does buy us a second one. But we already threw away the box and took the tags off of ours.

Thanks for letting me vent.

Anyone else getting duplicates? Or upset family members because you bought things yourself?

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I don't understand people getting upset because something's already been bought.  They just need to find something else to buy. End of story. 

Aiylin

Well in om the late shower badwagon, I will be 33 weeks and I registered for everything that we needed, but I bought all the big stuff. Car Seat, stroller, crib, dresser, mattress. I picked out some items that weren't exactly cheap. While it's nice for people to help us out and buy us things to help us on our journey, I certainly don't expect anyone to pay for the upgrades of my likings.

PrimRoseMama

Asbromle:

I don't understand people getting upset because something's already been bought.nbsp; They just need to find something else to buy. End of story.nbsp;

Yup.

YellowLily2013

MrsErinH:

Maybe you could call your grandma and drop some hints about something else you need that is in the same price range?nbsp; I can understand both sides of the argument, she is probably just flustered because she had the item picked out in her head and didn't expect it to be already purchased.nbsp; Or if you don't want to do that, you could have your mom tell her that you are really hoping to get X item and see if grandma wants to buy that...although it doesn't sound like your mom is too reliable! nbsp;

I'm hoping my mom does this. There are other useful items around the same price that we would love to have off the registry.

YellowLily2013

maryannespier:

My shower is at 36 weeks, so I can sort of commiserate.nbsp; I have not said anything about this being sort of late, because I'm super grateful that people are throwing me a party and bringing me gifts.nbsp; But I've been thinking about how if this baby comes early, DH is going to be sent from the hospital to buy a car seat so we can actually get baby home.nbsp; I don't really want to buy things preshower, and I figure since we have a crib, a changing table, some diapers, and some onesies, if we go to the hospital and come home with a baby before the shower date, at least we've got some clothes, someplace for baby to sleep, and a place for the baby to poop.nbsp; We'll figure out everything else.And I would imagine you will be able to return the car seat.nbsp; Pain in the butt, but totally doable.nbsp; Your grandmother probably won't take all the tags off, etc.

We contemplated this, but I didn't want to stress DH out either. He's a big planner too! And the one we picked out was only available online, so he'd have to make a separate decision all by himself and it would cost more.

I don't regret my decision to buying it. I just knew what my grandma would want to do. People are predictible [to me atleast, my mom seems clueless].

Nokkouttmomma

My shower isn't until 38 weeks. Be thankful you have time after yours. I've already bought all of my "big" items besides my highchair since I don't need it right away anyways. My cousin called me last night to complain that I hardly registered for anything so she and I went and registered for a bunch of crap that ill probably never use! Just tell them you registered for what you need and that's it

geoffandjen728

maryannespier:

My shower is at 36 weeks, so I can sort of commiserate.nbsp; I have not said anything about this being sort of late, because I'm super grateful that people are throwing me a party and bringing me gifts.nbsp; But I've been thinking about how if this baby comes early, DH is going to be sent from the hospital to buy a car seat so we can actually get baby home.nbsp; I don't really want to buy things preshower, and I figure since we have a crib, a changing table, some diapers, and some onesies, if we go to the hospital and come home with a baby before the shower date, at least we've got some clothes, someplace for baby to sleep, and a place for the baby to poop.nbsp; We'll figure out everything else.And I would imagine you will be able to return the car seat.nbsp; Pain in the butt, but totally doable.nbsp; Your grandmother probably won't take all the tags off, etc.

Ours is at 36 weeks as well. The girls planning it gave never been pregnant. They don't know. Also, DH who can't keep secrets told me it was originally planned to be located over 3 hours away from where we live... I am already having a hard time with my 1.5 hour commute.... Thankfully MIL politely suggested to SIL and cousin that it should be closer.... But anyways, we have nothing really except the most important things to bring baby home. If we get doubles... Returns or exchanges will be in order.
Stupid mobile bumping.

cwhitloc

My FIL waited until the last minute with my first, so everything was bought.  He went ahead and bought a convertible carseat and umbrella stroller for us.  If i were you, i would just accent another infant seat and exchange it for a convertible.  Such a hassle, but if it doesn't make waves, that's good.  However, I don't know if your grandma will be one to notice her infant seat is not being used. 

kadymax

My husbands gma, aunt and another family member all bought us play pens, we thought 2 was enough!

We managed to sell one of them because it was not returnable!! But we have received so many duplicates, so we have found someone who may need them that possibly can't afford it.

yellowapples

My aunt, who lives in another state, said pretty early on in the pregnancy that she wanted to buy us our car seat. She can be kind of flaky and we didn't know if she would come through since the shower was much, much later on. When we got an opportunity to buy the car seat at 20% off, we jumped on it.

Then had my mom explain that we had jumped on a great deal and that if she wanted to contribute to it monetarily she could, or she could get us something else. She ended up being thrilled and sent us a check. Everyone won.

Maybe your grandma could get on board with something like that?